Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 I started the day out on the phone, trying to get some of this Regional Center/CPS stress behind us or at least to try and find out what is going. Since had an appointment with Dr. at mental health at 9 a.m. and with her nurse at 10:45 a.m. I really did not have time to do much in the 30 minutes from when their offices opened and I had to leave the house. I ended up only being able to leave a message with the CPS worker and with Evan's IHS worker. The program director for youth was not in at the Regional Center yet so I did not bother to leave another message with her. So while I took to Mental Health, 's dad watched Evan while took back to the doctor about his swollen jaw. She is concerned that the swelling and soreness is still the same although he had the abscessed tooth was pulled. She was told to wait until he had taken all his medicine and then bring him back again. My first suggestion but with this CPS thing she is worried about being considered unfit if she doesn't take him in. I think it is better to be on the side of over caution, though. So saw his pdoc at mental health today and she said to stop his Depakote for good today. I told her about 's obsessions when he gets depressed and how he just seems to drive everything out of his mind but getting what he wants at that moment when he is deeply depressed. She asked how he felt at those times and he said that he felt there was an empty spot that he just had to fill at those times. She said that was part of the depression and raised his Zoloft another 25 mg to 75 mg. He will see her nurse in 4 weeks and her in another 8 weeks. I got home in time to call the Regional Center before 's MH appointment. This time I was able to actually talked to the Youth Program Manager. Guess what? His worker's 'offer' of group placement was not meant as a threat! I told her that when it is worded, 'You either voluntarily place Evan in a group home or I have been instructed to call CPS', then it is a threat and I took it as a threat. The conversation ran a little longer but basically I told her that I had no more confidence in this worker and wanted a new one and that I did not need someone who made my daughter distrust those who are suppose to be working with our family. She also did say that the Regional Center group homes and CPS group homes were two entirely different types of home and talked about getting caretakers a few days to regroup when they were too stressed out. Now that was not ANYTHING mentioned by his worker. Now I am not sure if she did say that the call to CPS was not about neglect or if it was 's nurse that said that it did not have to be about neglect. As you can probably guess, I still have not heard from the CPS worker after leaving 2 messages today. saw the MH nurse today. I told her about him getting a Student of the Month at school for his improvement in behavior, then I asked her about his instant rages or tantrums over the littlest things. She asked how long they lasted and I told her just minutes so she said that it was behavior problems that he needed to work on with his clinician. In other words, the tantrums are just that, tantrums. He sees Dr. Daley in 6 weeks and his meds are the same. I spoke to her about the stress for the family of this business of the Regional Center and CPS. She said that it might be a good thing that would get us more services and for me not to be afraid of CPS. I told her that we had dealings with them before and that was afraid of them since they are the ones who took from her. does not see that there is a big difference between now and then. So the boys made it to their appointments today, we still do not know what is going on with CPS and I may have to smack their mom if this stress is not eased pretty soon. I have to say IF she was EVER to go back on drugs it would be times like this so I must admit that I would rather she rave a bit instead, just as she is doing. With all that has gone down the past two months I think I have a right to be very proud that she has not said 'forget it' and went back. She is actually feeling guilty about smoking a couple of drags off one on of Mark's cigarettes when Jim died and when this other business came up. BETTY ANN-62 yo, possibly undx'd Bipolar grandma and guardian to ANDREW - 12 yo-- Bipolar/ADHD, Homeschooled EVAN - 9 yo-- nonverbal autism DAVID 7 yo Bipolar/ADHD and mother to ANDREA -33 yo, their mom -Bipolar/ADHD wife to BOB - 72 yo, a very tired grandpa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 Hi Betty, I would just reiterate my advice to write letters to follow up visits and maybe instead of some phone calls, as they are a more easily accessed and permanent record. They tend to hold up better legally than just a phone record. Keep all papers too:) I would put everything in writing, ask for answers within 10 days, etc. It might be helpful to have a psychologists evaluation to help support you also. (Especially if you can get an independent psychologist). You have every right to be proud of your daughter(in-law?)not sure. My brother was an alcoholic for many years, it almost killed him, and he is clean now. Addictions are so difficult for many people, and overcoming them is a great victory for her and for her kids. Take care, Sally Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 Thanks, Sally. I will write a letter to the Youth Program Manager going over what I discussed with her today and keep a copy in Evan's Record Book. As far as the psychologist evaluation goes, Evan just had a complete evaluation by the Diagnostic Center out of Fresno a few months ago. I signed permission for the Regional Center to get a copy of it at Evan's fateful IPP meeting. There was certainly no remarks in there about a Group Home Placement. is our youngest daughter and we are proud that she beat this. BETTY ANN-62 yo, possibly undx'd Bipolar grandma and guardian to ANDREW - 12 yo-- Bipolar/ADHD, HomeschooledEVAN - 9 yo-- nonverbal autismDAVID 7 yo Bipolar/ADHD and mother to ANDREA -33 yo, their mom -Bipolar/ADHD wife to BOB - 72 yo, a very tired grandpa ----- Original Message ----- From: Sally autism Hi Betty, I would just reiterate my advice to write letters to follow up visits and maybe instead of some phone calls, as they are a more easily accessed and permanent record. They tend to hold up better legally than just a phone record. Keep all papers too:) I would put everything in writing, ask for answers within 10 days, etc. It might be helpful to have a psychologists evaluation to help support you also. (Especially if you can get an independent psychologist). You have every right to be proud of your daughter(in-law?)not sure. My brother was an alcoholic for many years, it almost killed him, and he is clean now. Addictions are so difficult for many people, and overcoming them is a great victory for her and for her kids. Take care, Sally Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 LOL, Betty its no wonder your second guessing yourself, Deep Breath !!!!!!! Those knuckleheads probably said it just the way you thought. I am with you in spirit my cyber sister ! CB's Granny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2004 Report Share Posted February 18, 2004 Betty, I am so proud of the way is staying strong. She is such a help to you now, isn't she? You are a strong woman and you are making such a difference with your family. Hooray for for making such progress. Pat K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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