Re: Something I posted in some other lists (BJ)

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Hi BJ,

I think what we did different is that I requested a one on one aid to

work with Collin. They have made him a schedule of when things need

to be done and he also gets computer time. We also tell him that if

he has an " Excellent Week " that he will get $5.00 at the end of the

week. Sometimes that helps and sometimes it doesn't.

Jeanette

> Hi,

> Just wondering if there is anything that you did or school did to

help your son do better these past 2 weeks. Maybe something is going

on and you accidentally have discovered a key to helping his

behaviors? That is what is great about having a functional

behavioral assessment...some of the " why " part is discovered. I know

that my daughter goes up and down...seems cyclic. Thankfully, we are

on a positive mode for the past 3 weeks. Wonder if it has to do with

the sunny weather...today it rained, and she seemed more " blue " .

Anyway...good luck!

> Bj

> Something I posted in some other lists

>

>

> I had posted this a couple of weeks ago in some other lists that

I am

> in. Luckily, Collin has doing been doing better these two

weeks.

> These are some of the problems that I have been having:

>

>

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>

> Well, it is not good! Collin (age 6.2) got a suspension on last

> Thursday and I was not the least bit happy about it. They did this

> even with a behavioral plan set. You see, Collin was placed in a

ED

> (Emotionally Disturbed Class) with a teacher that only has

experience

> with an ED student. On the other hand, Collin is NOT an ED student

> and should not be treated that way. How do you suspend an HF

Autistic

> child for one day? Do they really think that they can understand

the

> consequence. I read that Special Education Rights &

Responsibilities

> and I guess they can do that by law, but a meeting must follow.

>

> Collin got suspended for (of Course) disruptive behaviors and

hitting

> another student. The one that tops the cake for me is the one for

> sexual harassment. I guess Collin had poked the aid in the breast.

> I was so angry that I called the Board of Education and I have a

> meeting this Tuesday.

>

> Collin's over stimulation and hyper activity are way out of

control.

> I went to observe the class today with Dr. Fuentes

(Pediatric

> Nuerophysicologist contracted by the school district) and I

> couldn't believe how Collin just could not regulate himself. he

was

> running all over the class flapping his hands and repeating

freeway

> signs. they tried putting the weighted vest, and some other

> occupational things. I think that it took Collin about 1 1/2

before

> you could even get through to him.

>

> I have been getting lots of calls from the school to pick Collin

up.

> That ED teacher has no experience with these types of kids. I

think

> that they are considering Non Public school. I am not sure that I

> want Collin in that type of environment. I guess that I would have

> to really check them out. If he moves into another class that will

> be school number 4 since June. Dr. Fuentes has talked with

Collin's

> doctor to see if a stimulant medication might help. He is already

> on Risperdal and Prozac.

>

> Collin has been on the UCDD waiting list for 6 months, so I guess

we

> have a year to go. I talked the district into getting Collin a 1

on

> 1 aid with Collin. He cannot function is someone is not with him

all

> the time.

>

> I have been so down. It is so frustrating to see people that

> have " normal functioning " kids. I love my son, I just wish that he

> could do all the same things that other kids do. Hopefully in

time.

>

> Sorry so long......Jeanette

>

>

>

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Jeanette,

just a suggestion, maybe a daily reward would be better than a weekly? That way each day he could earn something. I found my son did better getting $1 each school day than money at the end of the week because it reminded him daily to be good, the more good days, the more $$$...:)just a thought..Sally

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Hi Jeanette,

It sounds like you are doing some good things. A one on one aide is really beneficial in some cases. My daughter has used one since we started her in public school. She wouldn't have been able to be fully included had we not requested one. Now that there has been a couple years of trials and successes, we are trying to have the aide back off a little, and trying to jumpstart some independence/self control without our daughter being so closely supervised. Scheduling is also a great idea...we all do it ourselves, so I suppose that is why it works so well with our kids. Providing a visual schedule is not much different than our adult "day planners", or even sticky notes. I found that even writing a simple schedule on an index card, and reading it to my daughter helps her know what to expect. (She doesn't read independently yet, but likes to see the "written word".) Rewards are also a great thing to offer even though sometimes it's hard trying to find the right reward. Sometimes I think we forget that our kids are "people" too. They have need for communication, support, and definitely a "pat on the back" so to speak. We all need that once in a while. So here is yours...You are doing a GREAT JOB! Sometimes just getting through to the next day is success in itself.

Hang in there!

Bj

Something I posted in some other lists> > > I had posted this a couple of weeks ago in some other lists that I am > in. Luckily, Collin has doing been doing better these two weeks. > These are some of the problems that I have been having:> > **********************************************************************> > Well, it is not good! Collin (age 6.2) got a suspension on last> Thursday and I was not the least bit happy about it. They did this> even with a behavioral plan set. You see, Collin was placed in a ED> (Emotionally Disturbed Class) with a teacher that only has experience> with an ED student. On the other hand, Collin is NOT an ED student> and should not be treated that way. How do you suspend an HF Autistic> child for one day? Do they really think that they can understand the> consequence. I read that Special Education Rights & Responsibilities> and I guess they can do that by law, but a meeting must follow.> > Collin got suspended for (of Course) disruptive behaviors and hitting> another student. The one that tops the cake for me is the one for> sexual harassment. I guess Collin had poked the aid in the breast.> I was so angry that I called the Board of Education and I have a> meeting this Tuesday.> > Collin's over stimulation and hyper activity are way out of control.> I went to observe the class today with Dr. Fuentes (Pediatric > Nuerophysicologist contracted by the school district) and I> couldn't believe how Collin just could not regulate himself. he was> running all over the class flapping his hands and repeating freeway> signs. they tried putting the weighted vest, and some other> occupational things. I think that it took Collin about 1 1/2 before> you could even get through to him.> > I have been getting lots of calls from the school to pick Collin up.> That ED teacher has no experience with these types of kids. I think> that they are considering Non Public school. I am not sure that I> want Collin in that type of environment. I guess that I would have> to really check them out. If he moves into another class that will> be school number 4 since June. Dr. Fuentes has talked with Collin's> doctor to see if a stimulant medication might help. He is already> on Risperdal and Prozac.> > Collin has been on the UCDD waiting list for 6 months, so I guess we> have a year to go. I talked the district into getting Collin a 1 on> 1 aid with Collin. He cannot function is someone is not with him all> the time.> > I have been so down. It is so frustrating to see people that> have "normal functioning" kids. I love my son, I just wish that he> could do all the same things that other kids do. Hopefully in time.> > Sorry so long......Jeanette> > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------>

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Our problem with the daily $$ is that the boys want to spend that dollar as soon as they get it.

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