help - discouraged

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Today I'm feeling down for a few reasons. Mostly because the kids are

driving me crazy and I've been with them 24/7 now while my husband works extra

hours

for the past week. It's been tough and I know the kids tend to regress when

they have the slightest change in their routine. Anyway it's been hard for me

lately to stay motivated to exercise. I stayed in bed this morning and I

knew then that it would be very unlikely that I'd get any exercise in today. I

just get totally screwed up if I alter anything about my schedule. So then

this morning I just feel like eating whatever I want because I missed my

exercise. I know this doesn't make much sense rationally. I've just been all

off

today. I'm in my 8th week of BFL. I have done my workouts faithfully everyday

except one missed upper body in the 6th week and one missed cardio last

Saturday. I've stuck to the eating plan except for two cheats in the whole

eight

weeks... oh, and today 4 chocolate chip cookies! (please don't tell me to make

this my free day. I need something to keep me going til Sunday)

When I joined this list I was in my 5th week and hadn't lost any pounds. I

was encouraged and inspired by the information in this group because it sounded

like I wasn't atypical and that I shouldn't rely on the scale. Lots of people

didn't see pound changes on the scale because of the muscle gain. So I

decided to change my attitude and just go by the visible changes and how I felt

in

clothes. I thought things were shifting. I felt that my body was trimming

up. However now I wonder if I'm fooling myself. I remember that first day when

I looked in the mirror before my before photo was taken. I didn't think I

looked that bad looking in the mirror. But when I looked at the photo it seemed

that all the flaws just came right out and I definately needed some changes

to be made. So now I wonder if the mirror is playing tricks on me. Lately

I've been looking at myself thinking wow, things are shifting. But what if I'm

just being fooled like before.

What's really got me all bent out of shape is that after I ate those cookies

I needed something to keep my spirits up. I wanted to know that I was indeed

making progress so I got the tape measure out and measured my abs and waist.

After 4 weeks on BFL this is where I had a measured difference so I figured

I'd see some more changes. Well, imagine my surprise when the measurements were

more than my last measure. On Jan 1 my waist was 35.5, abs 39, hips 41. On

February 1 my waist was 34, abs, 36.5, hips 40.5. I was encouraged at that

point considering I hadn't lost a pound. Now today my waist measured 35, abs

38, hips 40. What's the deal? I can only figure that I measured wrong at some

point or I'm doing it at slighlty different spots. Made me want to just go

out and eat some ice cream! I'm still down from 2 months ago but why the

increase from last month. I'm so irritated. I'm going to keep going on this

plan

to see what happens. I still haven't lost one pound but as I said I'm not

getting hung up on that. There's nothing else I can do about that. I'm just

sad

because I was really thinking that I could keep this up if I saw results and

if I only see a little change I don't think it will be worth it for me to

deprive myself of all the good treats I like. I know it may just be the mood

I'm

in now and I almost feel guilty for spilling my guts to you all now because I

may regret it later, but at least sitting here typing is keeping me from

running out to the Dairy Queen.

What happens when I sign off... I don't know... I'm hungry.

K

[Guest guest]

DON'T DO IT LISA!!! DON'T JUMP!!! JUMPING OFF THE WAGON

INTERVENTION HERE TO SAVE YOU!!!!

You know, all I can say is no matter how small the changes, they are

still changes. And no matter how small they are you are going to

still see more small changes that in the end will add up to big

changes. And no matter how small the changes, you are getting

healthier which is MUCH MORE important than how we look!!! So now

you are going to live longer because you are healthier and be around

longer to be annoyed by your darling children!

Give your full length mirror, your tape measure and your scale to a

friend for the next 4 weeks. Just do your thing and FEEL it. FEEL

how good you feel. FEEL how good you look. FEEL your strength. FEEL

your accomplishments. FEEL the love your BFL friends here have for

you. ( ok maybe i'm going a bit overboard!! :-) hee hee!)

Anyway at least FEEL the faith we have in you and the support we all

send you!

Have you considered the time of the month?(PMS sux!)

Have you considered it has been the longest winter since the dawn of

time and we are all going housebound crazy?

You know, a long time ago in a land far away...(back when I was

single!)Every January, I used to go to the tanning salon because I

would feel crummy and blamed it on my Italian olive skin which was a

black olive in the summer that became GREEN olive in the winter. Boy

do I look pallid in the winter! So I blamed what is now known as

Seasonal Affective Disorder on not looking good. What I was actually

doing tho, was medicating myself with the " fake " sunlite which made

me feel loads and loads better!

So,,,years went by and babies came and i was busy and I found I HATED

my hubby every January!! Then it all dawned on me! So I started

going tanning a just a couple of times a winter. I swear it makes

you feel GOOD.( and I don't hate the hubby in January anymore!)

So NOW whatcha gonna do???!!!

Keep your head up girl! I hope my little intervention helps!!!!

Your BFL buddy

Dorina

> Today I'm feeling down for a few reasons. Mostly because the kids

are

> driving me crazy and I've been with them 24/7 now while my husband

works extra hours

> for the past week. It's been tough and I know the kids tend to

regress when

> they have the slightest change in their routine. Anyway it's been

hard for me

> lately to stay motivated to exercise. I stayed in bed this morning

and I

> knew then that it would be very unlikely that I'd get any exercise

in today. I

> just get totally screwed up if I alter anything about my schedule.

So then

> this morning I just feel like eating whatever I want because I

missed my

> exercise. I know this doesn't make much sense rationally. I've

just been all off

> today. I'm in my 8th week of BFL. I have done my workouts

faithfully everyday

> except one missed upper body in the 6th week and one missed cardio

last

> Saturday. I've stuck to the eating plan except for two cheats in

the whole eight

> weeks... oh, and today 4 chocolate chip cookies! (please don't tell

me to make

> this my free day. I need something to keep me going til Sunday)

> When I joined this list I was in my 5th week and hadn't lost any

pounds. I

> was encouraged and inspired by the information in this group

because it sounded

> like I wasn't atypical and that I shouldn't rely on the scale. Lots

of people

> didn't see pound changes on the scale because of the muscle gain.

So I

> decided to change my attitude and just go by the visible changes

and how I felt in

> clothes. I thought things were shifting. I felt that my body was

trimming

> up. However now I wonder if I'm fooling myself. I remember that

first day when

> I looked in the mirror before my before photo was taken. I didn't

think I

> looked that bad looking in the mirror. But when I looked at the

photo it seemed

> that all the flaws just came right out and I definately needed some

changes

> to be made. So now I wonder if the mirror is playing tricks on

me. Lately

> I've been looking at myself thinking wow, things are shifting. But

what if I'm

> just being fooled like before.

> What's really got me all bent out of shape is that after I ate

those cookies

> I needed something to keep my spirits up. I wanted to know that I

was indeed

> making progress so I got the tape measure out and measured my abs

and waist.

> After 4 weeks on BFL this is where I had a measured difference so I

figured

> I'd see some more changes. Well, imagine my surprise when the

measurements were

> more than my last measure. On Jan 1 my waist was 35.5, abs 39,

hips 41. On

> February 1 my waist was 34, abs, 36.5, hips 40.5. I was encouraged

at that

> point considering I hadn't lost a pound. Now today my waist

measured 35, abs

> 38, hips 40. What's the deal? I can only figure that I measured

wrong at some

> point or I'm doing it at slighlty different spots. Made me want to

just go

> out and eat some ice cream! I'm still down from 2 months ago but

why the

> increase from last month. I'm so irritated. I'm going to keep

going on this plan

> to see what happens. I still haven't lost one pound but as I said

I'm not

> getting hung up on that. There's nothing else I can do about

that. I'm just sad

> because I was really thinking that I could keep this up if I saw

results and

> if I only see a little change I don't think it will be worth it for

me to

> deprive myself of all the good treats I like. I know it may just

be the mood I'm

> in now and I almost feel guilty for spilling my guts to you all now

because I

> may regret it later, but at least sitting here typing is keeping me

from

> running out to the Dairy Queen.

> What happens when I sign off... I don't know... I'm hungry.

>

> K

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

That was an excellent post Dorina. Sums it all up. I have done that,

too, gone tanning in January. Not consistently, just once or twice,

just to get that warmth.

If you can just feel it, like she said, it will all come together.

And in the end, that is what ALL of our goals should be. Of course,

looking good and wearing those smaller sizes and cute shorts, that

is a great side effect. But what we are doing for our HEALTH far

exceeds any external changes.

Plus, our endorphins make us happy, as someone mentioned last week,

when you exercise, you release endorphins. Endorphins make us happy!

Happy people don't kill their husbands! (or annoying kids, or that

lady who cut in front of me in the parking lot!)

We are all here for you!

Jana

> > Today I'm feeling down for a few reasons. Mostly because the

kids

> are

> > driving me crazy and I've been with them 24/7 now while my

husband

> works extra hours

> > for the past week. It's been tough and I know the kids tend to

> regress when

> > they have the slightest change in their routine. Anyway it's

been

> hard for me

> > lately to stay motivated to exercise. I stayed in bed this

morning

> and I

> > knew then that it would be very unlikely that I'd get any

exercise

> in today. I

> > just get totally screwed up if I alter anything about my

schedule.

> So then

> > this morning I just feel like eating whatever I want because I

> missed my

> > exercise. I know this doesn't make much sense rationally. I've

> just been all off

> > today. I'm in my 8th week of BFL. I have done my workouts

> faithfully everyday

> > except one missed upper body in the 6th week and one missed

cardio

> last

> > Saturday. I've stuck to the eating plan except for two cheats

in

> the whole eight

> > weeks... oh, and today 4 chocolate chip cookies! (please don't

tell

> me to make

> > this my free day. I need something to keep me going til

Sunday)

> > When I joined this list I was in my 5th week and hadn't lost any

> pounds. I

> > was encouraged and inspired by the information in this group

> because it sounded

> > like I wasn't atypical and that I shouldn't rely on the scale.

Lots

> of people

> > didn't see pound changes on the scale because of the muscle

gain.

> So I

> > decided to change my attitude and just go by the visible changes

> and how I felt in

> > clothes. I thought things were shifting. I felt that my body

was

> trimming

> > up. However now I wonder if I'm fooling myself. I remember

that

> first day when

> > I looked in the mirror before my before photo was taken. I

didn't

> think I

> > looked that bad looking in the mirror. But when I looked at the

> photo it seemed

> > that all the flaws just came right out and I definately needed

some

> changes

> > to be made. So now I wonder if the mirror is playing tricks on

> me. Lately

> > I've been looking at myself thinking wow, things are shifting.

But

> what if I'm

> > just being fooled like before.

> > What's really got me all bent out of shape is that after I ate

> those cookies

> > I needed something to keep my spirits up. I wanted to know that

I

> was indeed

> > making progress so I got the tape measure out and measured my

abs

> and waist.

> > After 4 weeks on BFL this is where I had a measured difference

so I

> figured

> > I'd see some more changes. Well, imagine my surprise when the

> measurements were

> > more than my last measure. On Jan 1 my waist was 35.5, abs 39,

> hips 41. On

> > February 1 my waist was 34, abs, 36.5, hips 40.5. I was

encouraged

> at that

> > point considering I hadn't lost a pound. Now today my waist

> measured 35, abs

> > 38, hips 40. What's the deal? I can only figure that I

measured

> wrong at some

> > point or I'm doing it at slighlty different spots. Made me want

to

> just go

> > out and eat some ice cream! I'm still down from 2 months ago

but

> why the

> > increase from last month. I'm so irritated. I'm going to keep

> going on this plan

> > to see what happens. I still haven't lost one pound but as I

said

> I'm not

> > getting hung up on that. There's nothing else I can do about

> that. I'm just sad

> > because I was really thinking that I could keep this up if I saw

> results and

> > if I only see a little change I don't think it will be worth it

for

> me to

> > deprive myself of all the good treats I like. I know it may

just

> be the mood I'm

> > in now and I almost feel guilty for spilling my guts to you all

now

> because I

> > may regret it later, but at least sitting here typing is keeping

me

> from

> > running out to the Dairy Queen.

> > What happens when I sign off... I don't know... I'm hungry.

> >

> > K

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

,

((HUGS)))! We all have bad days!

Some questions about measuring:

Did you measure the same time of the day? Same day of the week?

Did you measure in the same points? On my measurement sheet I

actually list where I measure i.e. 4 " down from hip joint, etc. so

that I am sure to measure the same place every time.

Also, so you had 4 cookies...that's one meal of 6. Can you make your

next meal BFL? And the next one?

About motivation, my friend and I joke all the time that it seems to

go hand in hand exercise and diet. Altho logically if I eat crap I

should be more motivated to workout but it just makes me even more

messed up mentally and then I even lose more motivation.

Only you can decide if you want to stay on plan or not. But I do know

that they plan can work. It does work easier for some than others so

maybe you need more fine tuning for it to work for you. Did you try

making any changes to your diet or exercise routine?

Colleen

> Today I'm feeling down for a few reasons. Mostly because the kids

are

> driving me crazy and I've been with them 24/7 now while my husband

works extra hours

> for the past week. It's been tough and I know the kids tend to

regress when

> they have the slightest change in their routine. Anyway it's been

hard for me

> lately to stay motivated to exercise. I stayed in bed this morning

and I

> knew then that it would be very unlikely that I'd get any exercise

in today. I

> just get totally screwed up if I alter anything about my schedule.

So then

> this morning I just feel like eating whatever I want because I

missed my

> exercise. I know this doesn't make much sense rationally. I've

just been all off

> today. I'm in my 8th week of BFL. I have done my workouts

faithfully everyday

> except one missed upper body in the 6th week and one missed cardio

last

> Saturday. I've stuck to the eating plan except for two cheats in

the whole eight

> weeks... oh, and today 4 chocolate chip cookies! (please don't tell

me to make

> this my free day. I need something to keep me going til Sunday)

> When I joined this list I was in my 5th week and hadn't lost any

pounds. I

> was encouraged and inspired by the information in this group

because it sounded

> like I wasn't atypical and that I shouldn't rely on the scale. Lots

of people

> didn't see pound changes on the scale because of the muscle gain.

So I

> decided to change my attitude and just go by the visible changes

and how I felt in

> clothes. I thought things were shifting. I felt that my body was

trimming

> up. However now I wonder if I'm fooling myself. I remember that

first day when

> I looked in the mirror before my before photo was taken. I didn't

think I

> looked that bad looking in the mirror. But when I looked at the

photo it seemed

> that all the flaws just came right out and I definately needed some

changes

> to be made. So now I wonder if the mirror is playing tricks on

me. Lately

> I've been looking at myself thinking wow, things are shifting. But

what if I'm

> just being fooled like before.

> What's really got me all bent out of shape is that after I ate

those cookies

> I needed something to keep my spirits up. I wanted to know that I

was indeed

> making progress so I got the tape measure out and measured my abs

and waist.

> After 4 weeks on BFL this is where I had a measured difference so I

figured

> I'd see some more changes. Well, imagine my surprise when the

measurements were

> more than my last measure. On Jan 1 my waist was 35.5, abs 39,

hips 41. On

> February 1 my waist was 34, abs, 36.5, hips 40.5. I was encouraged

at that

> point considering I hadn't lost a pound. Now today my waist

measured 35, abs

> 38, hips 40. What's the deal? I can only figure that I measured

wrong at some

> point or I'm doing it at slighlty different spots. Made me want to

just go

> out and eat some ice cream! I'm still down from 2 months ago but

why the

> increase from last month. I'm so irritated. I'm going to keep

going on this plan

> to see what happens. I still haven't lost one pound but as I said

I'm not

> getting hung up on that. There's nothing else I can do about

that. I'm just sad

> because I was really thinking that I could keep this up if I saw

results and

> if I only see a little change I don't think it will be worth it for

me to

> deprive myself of all the good treats I like. I know it may just

be the mood I'm

> in now and I almost feel guilty for spilling my guts to you all now

because I

> may regret it later, but at least sitting here typing is keeping me

from

> running out to the Dairy Queen.

> What happens when I sign off... I don't know... I'm hungry.

>

> K

>

>

>