Re: Long time since my last post

[Guest guest]

Hi Virginia :-)

It sounds like the whole thing is turning into a bit of an ordeal

for you. Maybe you need to stop thinking of it as a huge big thing

that you keep failing at, and instead start " chunking " it. Being

100% seems like it is very daunting at this stage of your life, so

maybe look at each of your six meals as a success in itself. Look

at each workout you do as a success, and forget about what happened

yesterday. Forget about what happened this morning if you had a

problem with the cake being offered at morning tea. Success begets

success - so focus on your successes, not your failures! The more

you feel like you're winning, the more you WILL win. Feeling like

crap every day because it feels so damn hard is going to exhaust

you. You start to believe you can't do it, because you had a slip

up yesterday. So instead, pat yourself on the back every time you

do well. Eventually your successes will start to outweigh your

perceived failures until they take over and you're a happy redhead :-

)

The other thing is that I know you're dealing with so much in your

life - doing a challenge is a really hard thing to do - and probably

very difficult if you have too much on your plate already. So just

count this time as practice. Try and learn how to make meals that

satisfy you, and learn different workouts, and don't stress if you

don't stick to it as much as you'd like. It's about progress, NOT

perfection.

As for wanting to pig out all the time, I'll be many of us have been

through that. What kind of food do you crave? Different types of

cravings can indicate different things, so let the group know what

you're having trouble with - maybe someone has a suggestion for you

to help beat that.

in NZ

C1W7D2

> It's been way too long since my last post because I've been too

> embarassed to post. I fell off the " wagon " hard about 2 weeks ago

> and I'm having a hard time getting up. I get so tired and

frustrated

> with my self for having too many downs and not enough ups if you

> know what I mean. I know that I have the power to change my life.

> And that I'm the only one who can make me change. So why can't I

> stick to it? I was talking to my mother this weekend and for once

> she didn't start in on the whole " you don't have to worry about

> weight, your not fat, your so young, I wish I had your problems "

> etc., but I think she honestly was listening when I told her that

it

> is a daily struggle for me to not totally pig out and skip

workouts.

> We have a very bad family history on all sides of heart disease,

> heart attacks, diabetes, you name it we got it, and it scares me.

> You all are probably getting tired of hearing about all my " downs "

> too. I'm extremly hard on my self when it comes to messing up and

> cheating or missing a workout. And I don't think that helps me

much

> either. I love coming to this site because everyone is so

supportive

> and that helps. I wish I could post more often and read all the

> posts. Well enough with my vent. I feel a little better now.

> Sometimes it helps just to get it off your chest.

>

> Thanks for listening,

> Virginia

[Guest guest]

Virginia,

Hey, we are all here for you no matter what kind of day or week or

onth you have! And please remember we have ALL been there. It is

really ironic for me in that this challenge I have not cheated and it

seems so " easy " yet for the last 12 months or so prior it was a daily

struggle to eat 1 good meal or get a decent workout in. I wish I

could bottle up the motivation for those times!!

I think what helped me was to focus on not just the negatives and

beat myself up, but make a list of the positives. Things I had done,

how BFL affects my life, etc.

Hang in there!

Colleen

> It's been way too long since my last post because I've been too

> embarassed to post. I fell off the " wagon " hard about 2 weeks ago

> and I'm having a hard time getting up. I get so tired and

frustrated

> with my self for having too many downs and not enough ups if you

> know what I mean. I know that I have the power to change my life.

> And that I'm the only one who can make me change. So why can't I

> stick to it? I was talking to my mother this weekend and for once

> she didn't start in on the whole " you don't have to worry about

> weight, your not fat, your so young, I wish I had your problems "

> etc., but I think she honestly was listening when I told her that

it

> is a daily struggle for me to not totally pig out and skip

workouts.

> We have a very bad family history on all sides of heart disease,

> heart attacks, diabetes, you name it we got it, and it scares me.

> You all are probably getting tired of hearing about all my " downs "

> too. I'm extremly hard on my self when it comes to messing up and

> cheating or missing a workout. And I don't think that helps me much

> either. I love coming to this site because everyone is so

supportive

> and that helps. I wish I could post more often and read all the

> posts. Well enough with my vent. I feel a little better now.

> Sometimes it helps just to get it off your chest.

>

> Thanks for listening,

> Virginia

[Guest guest]

I think you're right. It's easier for me to find faults in myself

and focus on the negative. Weired huh? Mostly what I crave is fast

food stuff like french fries, tacos, chinese food, pizza, etc. I'm a

carboholic . And of course my wonderful Dr. Pepper. And my husband

is just as bad as me. And with my workouts it's easier for me to get

up early before work and go to the gym. I like being there when

there is hardly anyone there. Also it's easier because of my 23

month old little girl. She's still in bed asleep and my husband

listens for her while I'm gone. My gym has a room for kids to go

into but it's not supervised so when I do have to take her with me

she stays in her stroller. But she's not always willing to sit for

long and I usually end up rushing through my wo if I finish at all.

But here lately a lot of mornings she's woke up several times a

night and I get no sleep so when that alarm clock sounds at 4am I

have a tendency to turn it off. I'm going to try to take your

suggestion and just chill out. I think I just put a lot more presure

on myself than I need to.

Thank again,

Virginia

> > It's been way too long since my last post because I've been too

> > embarassed to post. I fell off the " wagon " hard about 2 weeks

ago

> > and I'm having a hard time getting up. I get so tired and

> frustrated

> > with my self for having too many downs and not enough ups if you

> > know what I mean. I know that I have the power to change my

life.

> > And that I'm the only one who can make me change. So why can't I

> > stick to it? I was talking to my mother this weekend and for

once

> > she didn't start in on the whole " you don't have to worry about

> > weight, your not fat, your so young, I wish I had your problems "

> > etc., but I think she honestly was listening when I told her

that

> it

> > is a daily struggle for me to not totally pig out and skip

> workouts.

> > We have a very bad family history on all sides of heart disease,

> > heart attacks, diabetes, you name it we got it, and it scares

me.

> > You all are probably getting tired of hearing about all

my " downs "

> > too. I'm extremly hard on my self when it comes to messing up

and

> > cheating or missing a workout. And I don't think that helps me

> much

> > either. I love coming to this site because everyone is so

> supportive

> > and that helps. I wish I could post more often and read all the

> > posts. Well enough with my vent. I feel a little better now.

> > Sometimes it helps just to get it off your chest.

> >

> > Thanks for listening,

> > Virginia

[Guest guest]

I wish you could bottle it up too . I'm really trying to hang in

there. Maybe I'll get like you and it will just come naturally.

Thank you,

Virginia

> > It's been way too long since my last post because I've been too

> > embarassed to post. I fell off the " wagon " hard about 2 weeks

ago

> > and I'm having a hard time getting up. I get so tired and

> frustrated

> > with my self for having too many downs and not enough ups if you

> > know what I mean. I know that I have the power to change my

life.

> > And that I'm the only one who can make me change. So why can't I

> > stick to it? I was talking to my mother this weekend and for

once

> > she didn't start in on the whole " you don't have to worry about

> > weight, your not fat, your so young, I wish I had your problems "

> > etc., but I think she honestly was listening when I told her

that

> it

> > is a daily struggle for me to not totally pig out and skip

> workouts.

> > We have a very bad family history on all sides of heart disease,

> > heart attacks, diabetes, you name it we got it, and it scares

me.

> > You all are probably getting tired of hearing about all

my " downs "

> > too. I'm extremly hard on my self when it comes to messing up

and

> > cheating or missing a workout. And I don't think that helps me

much

> > either. I love coming to this site because everyone is so

> supportive

> > and that helps. I wish I could post more often and read all the

> > posts. Well enough with my vent. I feel a little better now.

> > Sometimes it helps just to get it off your chest.

> >

> > Thanks for listening,

> > Virginia