network support

[Guest guest]

The main difference between living in San and here was that

I had several networks. Some professional, some not, some family,

and lots of friends. For whatever reason, we have lived in austin 7

years and I still don't have more than 1 friend, and the one I have

is iffy.

The neighbor kind of runs hot and cold, has her own life and

agenda. She declared a couple of weeks ago, she was not going to

let her boys hang around my house all summer. She pre-empted

something., I don't know what, but I actually liked counting on

these kids as friends for my boys. I guess at some point I should

call her up and tell her, actually I needed their friendships for my

boys. That was one way I was meeting the socialization thing.

I mentioned this on the hs group for unschoolers and got mixed

msgs. Most people who homeschool I guess feel, homeschoolers should

play and socialize with homeschoolers and not public schoolers. I

dropped the subject. We live in apts, new and old other friends

came over soon after and we have plenty of friends that come and go.

A brief point on family. It is heart wrenching but family lets me

down. They probably don't even know it. When we moved up here, my

great aunty, Dia, may have mentioned to law. in spanish, since I

am no longer a blood relative, nor my kids, that to 'not expect any

babysitting'. On this note my husband urged me not to call these

relatives.

I mentioned this to my great uncle, and he declared that law was

jealous of them at one point because the family is so large. A

bunch of whooey. I have mixed feelings., I think the family should

know I have disabilities, and am needy. But, I don't believe I

should have to tell them.

If they don't want to 'be there' for me and mine, I believe I should

network elsewhere. I have to begin anew basically. This is really

strange though, I don't know where to make friends and such. It is

unnatural to have to get out and go looking for people.

I don't have much interaction myself, for ex., in S.A. I went to

UTSA, I had all sorts of connections there. In S.a. we went out to

bars and restaurants, we don't do much of that anymore. Which

really just leaves the apts and church. So, if anyone has any clues

as to what and where, please tell. monica m