Guest guest Posted April 19, 2000 Report Share Posted April 19, 2000 Hi Lori, You are doing an excellent job helping your daughter boss back! I know this is such a confusing process because you can see her anxiety skyrocketing as you refuse to participate in her OCD, but this is in fact the right thing to do to help her overcome the disorder. Do you remind her of her success each time she resists her rituals? These small successes are hard, fast evidence that she is stronger than OCD. Have you read the March book yet? What might make it easier is if you can identify some things that are easier to boss back than others and get her agreement to work on those ahead of time. You can explore ways to break these things down so that they are manageable. For instance, you might ask her to rate on a scale of 1 to 10 how hard it would be to come in to see one of her shows just after the music has started. If it's a 4 or under, it might be doable. Or maybe that's too difficult. Ask about leaving after she sees the first credits at the end but doesn't stay for the whole thing. Once you find something she can succeed at, have her do it at least once a day for 10 days. Ask her again how hard it is at the end of the 10 days and you will see that it's likely no longer a problem. Then you can work up to missing the music entirely. It sometimes can seem futile to be working in one little corner of bossing back OCD as new ones are popping up all the time, but eventually it does generalize so that you win not only the battle, but the war. Keep up the good work. In the end your daughter will thank you for your love and support, even if she feels tortured now. Take care, in San Diego Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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