Administrative Note: On email list manners.

[Guest guest]

Lessons from our childhood, refresher. CE Credits: yes

Email list manners are the same as everywhere else-manners. Our

culture has become so steeped in crudities, we sometimes forget some

of the basics. And you jerks know who you are. Oops. See.

1. Politely give your neighbor the opportunity to clarify his or her

comments if you perceive them to be rude or insulting. Not everyone

is an articulate hip-hop rap artist so it is possible to be

communicating a disparaging comment unintentionally. This is where

shooting first and asking questions later can sometimes backfire and

create an unnecessary hurtful exchange. Giving people the benefit of

the doubt is a secret to old age.

2. If your neighbor confirms that yes, indeed he or she thinks you're

a jerk. The best thing to do is to immediately halt any further

communication with that person -- you walk away. (Imagine your mommy

scolding you here.) If the situation requires that you address a

neighbor's rude behavior, you do so privately, off list. Criticizing

the behavior of another publicly is rude behavior itself, and

counterproductive. " But he started it! " is even more lame coming from

an educated, intelligent, non-fiction book reading adult -- when

walking away is an option. " Yes, dear, but two wrongs don't make a

right. "

3. If your neighbor persists in being rude, despite attempts to ignore

her or him, you then inform the host that a guest refuses to stop the

offending behavior - if the host may not be paying attention. The

host, in this case myself (or Ann) will privately ask this person to

cool it. If that fails, can anyone here tell me what the host's next

step should be? Yes, that's right, you privately ask the person to

leave. Failing that, you forcibly remove the offender from the

premises. In this case, he or she gets banned from the list.

IN SUMMARY

If you behave impolitely to a fellow list member, you may be privately

asked to stop, and then asked to leave.

Publicly complaining about the behaviors of fellow list mates is, in

itself rude.

If you find yourself frequently complaining to the host about others'

behavior, you are probably on the wrong list.

(Disclaimer for literal thinkers: Exaggerated patronizing comments in

this message are done intentionally to effect self-parody and are not

meant to be taken seriously).

Lenny

[Guest guest]

no problem, eh... I was over the top as well - Too much

sugared cereal.

B

---- Original message ----

>Date: Sun, 01 May 2005 22:07:15 -0000

>From: " nevergiveup883 " <ynot2@...>

>Subject: Re: Administrative Note: On email list

manners.

>EOHarm

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> > Lessons from our childhood, refresher. CE

> Credits: yes

>

> You're right Lenny. I appologize to the list and to

> .

> Lost it for a minute.

>

> Laurie

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[Guest guest]

I thought it was barbeque and Bud for some reason.

Re: Administrative Note: On email list manners. >EOHarm >> > > Lessons from our childhood, refresher. CE> Credits: yes>> You're right Lenny. I appologize to the list and to> .> Lost it for a minute.>> Laurie>> ---------------------------------------------------->>