Guest guest Posted January 14, 2006 Report Share Posted January 14, 2006 , I hope I didn't hurt your feelings--you have excellent suggestions:) I just want to spend time with him--couple time and why not use the time to be productive--we both enjoy being active. Maybe I have to suggest more masculine activities. The rewards would be health, togetherness.... Stacey > > > > > > > > , > > > > They should make clones of you!!! anyway...i ask my dh to > workout with > > > > me and he looks like i'm an alien...I wanted him to try some partner > > > > yoga. Thought it would be fun to try the poses together--i think he, > > > > like 's bf, thought it was a not a man's workout. What does a > > > > woman have to do to get their mate to have a workout date every once > > > > in a while? > > > > Stacey > > > > > > > > > > Stacey, > > > > > > Clones of me? Well, the world might be a better place if everybody > > > were more like me...but I digress. :-) > > > > > > I think this is one of those situations where the token male needs to > > > speak up, so here goes: > > > > > > Stacey mentioned yoga. I've tried it myself, and it's no big deal, > > > but I don't have as big an ego as some other men. The average man > > > thinks that only gay men do yoga. (I even felt a little flaky doing > > > it myself.) So I wouldn't suggest trying to get a man to do yoga. > > > > > > What does a woman have to do to get her man to have a workout date? > > > This is an easy one. What do men want most from women? Two things: > > > sex and approval--and not necessarily in that order. > > > > > > Now before you all roll your eyes and skip to the next message, please > > > hear me out. > > > > > > Stacey, if you want dh to have a workout date with you, make sure he > > > knows that sex will be part of the date. And when you do the workout, > > > PLEASE wear something sexy--not baggy sweatpants and an oversized > > > t-shirt. Try tight spandex and a sport bra. And then make sure the > > > cool-down takes place in the shower or in the bedroom afterward. > > > Believe me, he will not want to miss that workout. > > > > > > And then don't forget the approval. When it's over, don't give him a > > > condescending, " Now don't you feel better that you worked out? " That > > > will rub his ego the wrong way and he'll feel like he let you > > > manipulate him into doing something he didn't want to do. (Yeah, I > > > know that's what you're doing, and he knows that, but don't let him > > > know that you know that.) Instead tell him, " Wow, wasn't that workout > > > tough? I wasn't sure if we'd both make it through. " He'll be > > > thinking, " Hey, baby, I can take anything you dish out. Just wait > > > till next time and I'll show you. " > > > > > > If you've been paying close attention, this is more than about getting > > > him to exercise. It's about relating to your husband. I don't > > > suggest that you just " keep at him " because that's nagging. Men don't > > > respond to nagging. It annoys the crap out of us. > > > > > > I suppose some of you might think this is sexist advice. Well, it's > > > right out of Dr. 's book " The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands " > > > and I can tell you from experience that it works. > > > > > > So, ladies, please, please, PLEASE don't think you're going to change > > > your man by repeating yourself. He heard you the first time. Make > > > the workout worth his while and it's more likely that he will accept > > > it and adjust to it over time. > > > > > > Just some tips from a husband who doesn't mind " working out " *wink* > > > with his wife. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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