: thank-you:)

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,

I hope I didn't hurt your feelings--you have excellent suggestions:) I

just want to spend time with him--couple time and why not use the time

to be productive--we both enjoy being active. Maybe I have to suggest

more masculine activities. The rewards would be health, togetherness....

Stacey

> > > >

> > > > ,

> > > > They should make clones of you!!! anyway...i ask my dh to

> workout with

> > > > me and he looks like i'm an alien...I wanted him to try some

partner

> > > > yoga. Thought it would be fun to try the poses together--i

think he,

> > > > like 's bf, thought it was a not a man's workout. What does a

> > > > woman have to do to get their mate to have a workout date

every once

> > > > in a while?

> > > > Stacey

> > > >

> > >

> > > Stacey,

> > >

> > > Clones of me? Well, the world might be a better place if everybody

> > > were more like me...but I digress. :-)

> > >

> > > I think this is one of those situations where the token male

needs to

> > > speak up, so here goes:

> > >

> > > Stacey mentioned yoga. I've tried it myself, and it's no big deal,

> > > but I don't have as big an ego as some other men. The average man

> > > thinks that only gay men do yoga. (I even felt a little flaky doing

> > > it myself.) So I wouldn't suggest trying to get a man to do yoga.

> > >

> > > What does a woman have to do to get her man to have a workout date?

> > > This is an easy one. What do men want most from women? Two

things:

> > > sex and approval--and not necessarily in that order.

> > >

> > > Now before you all roll your eyes and skip to the next message,

please

> > > hear me out.

> > >

> > > Stacey, if you want dh to have a workout date with you, make sure he

> > > knows that sex will be part of the date. And when you do the

workout,

> > > PLEASE wear something sexy--not baggy sweatpants and an oversized

> > > t-shirt. Try tight spandex and a sport bra. And then make sure the

> > > cool-down takes place in the shower or in the bedroom afterward.

> > > Believe me, he will not want to miss that workout.

> > >

> > > And then don't forget the approval. When it's over, don't give

him a

> > > condescending, " Now don't you feel better that you worked out? "

That

> > > will rub his ego the wrong way and he'll feel like he let you

> > > manipulate him into doing something he didn't want to do. (Yeah, I

> > > know that's what you're doing, and he knows that, but don't let him

> > > know that you know that.) Instead tell him, " Wow, wasn't that

workout

> > > tough? I wasn't sure if we'd both make it through. " He'll be

> > > thinking, " Hey, baby, I can take anything you dish out. Just wait

> > > till next time and I'll show you. "

> > >

> > > If you've been paying close attention, this is more than about

getting

> > > him to exercise. It's about relating to your husband. I don't

> > > suggest that you just " keep at him " because that's nagging. Men

don't

> > > respond to nagging. It annoys the crap out of us.

> > >

> > > I suppose some of you might think this is sexist advice. Well, it's

> > > right out of Dr. 's book " The Proper Care & Feeding of

Husbands "

> > > and I can tell you from experience that it works.

> > >

> > > So, ladies, please, please, PLEASE don't think you're going to

change

> > > your man by repeating yourself. He heard you the first time. Make

> > > the workout worth his while and it's more likely that he will accept

> > > it and adjust to it over time.

> > >

> > > Just some tips from a husband who doesn't mind " working out " *wink*

> > > with his wife.

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

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