and others with men who don't workout--Re: : men

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He works out--just not with me. I wanted to connect with him on that

level. I was thinking more of an active date that actually involved

some kind of exercise that may turn into something we like as a couple

(away from the kids). Yoga was just a suggestion--I would cross

country ski, rock climb, hike...

Hey--he gets enough sex. Does he deserve a reward for everything he does??

My workout wear is functional layers--I don't like baggy t's or sweat

pants--I usually wear tights or shorts with an exercise bra and a

short sleeve shirt and peel off the layers as I warm up. After that

description--you would think that he would be begging to do a step

workout with me...

stacey

> >

> > ,

> > They should make clones of you!!! anyway...i ask my dh to workout with

> > me and he looks like i'm an alien...I wanted him to try some partner

> > yoga. Thought it would be fun to try the poses together--i think he,

> > like 's bf, thought it was a not a man's workout. What does a

> > woman have to do to get their mate to have a workout date every once

> > in a while?

> > Stacey

> >

>

> Stacey,

>

> Clones of me? Well, the world might be a better place if everybody

> were more like me...but I digress. :-)

>

> I think this is one of those situations where the token male needs to

> speak up, so here goes:

>

> Stacey mentioned yoga. I've tried it myself, and it's no big deal,

> but I don't have as big an ego as some other men. The average man

> thinks that only gay men do yoga. (I even felt a little flaky doing

> it myself.) So I wouldn't suggest trying to get a man to do yoga.

>

> What does a woman have to do to get her man to have a workout date?

> This is an easy one. What do men want most from women? Two things:

> sex and approval--and not necessarily in that order.

>

> Now before you all roll your eyes and skip to the next message, please

> hear me out.

>

> Stacey, if you want dh to have a workout date with you, make sure he

> knows that sex will be part of the date. And when you do the workout,

> PLEASE wear something sexy--not baggy sweatpants and an oversized

> t-shirt. Try tight spandex and a sport bra. And then make sure the

> cool-down takes place in the shower or in the bedroom afterward.

> Believe me, he will not want to miss that workout.

>

> And then don't forget the approval. When it's over, don't give him a

> condescending, " Now don't you feel better that you worked out? " That

> will rub his ego the wrong way and he'll feel like he let you

> manipulate him into doing something he didn't want to do. (Yeah, I

> know that's what you're doing, and he knows that, but don't let him

> know that you know that.) Instead tell him, " Wow, wasn't that workout

> tough? I wasn't sure if we'd both make it through. " He'll be

> thinking, " Hey, baby, I can take anything you dish out. Just wait

> till next time and I'll show you. "

>

> If you've been paying close attention, this is more than about getting

> him to exercise. It's about relating to your husband. I don't

> suggest that you just " keep at him " because that's nagging. Men don't

> respond to nagging. It annoys the crap out of us.

>

> I suppose some of you might think this is sexist advice. Well, it's

> right out of Dr. 's book " The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands "

> and I can tell you from experience that it works.

>

> So, ladies, please, please, PLEASE don't think you're going to change

> your man by repeating yourself. He heard you the first time. Make

> the workout worth his while and it's more likely that he will accept

> it and adjust to it over time.

>

> Just some tips from a husband who doesn't mind " working out " *wink*

> with his wife.

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