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[Guest guest]

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They should make clones of you!!! anyway...i ask my dh to workout with

me and he looks like i'm an alien...I wanted him to try some partner

yoga. Thought it would be fun to try the poses together--i think he,

like 's bf, thought it was a not a man's workout. What does a

woman have to do to get their mate to have a workout date every once

in a while?

Stacey

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> First of all, I'm surprised to hear that your SO is considered obese

> at 230lbs. and 5'10 " . My martial arts instructor is about that same

> weight buy shorter and by no means obese. But then I suppose it's

> more a matter of bodyfat, and I can't see your guy.

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> Secondly, before you blow any money on weights, I think the real

> problem sounds like motivation. And, unfortunately for you, that's

> not a problem you can do much about. I think all of us here know that

> we have to WANT to get healthy if it's going to happen. That's an

> internal thing. Buying him weights and equipment won't give him the

> desire to get healthy. Asking him to get healthy might be worth a

> try, but it probably won't do much initially.

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> The trouble is that human beings are not rational beings; we are

> rationalizing beings. (My martial arts teacher says that, and it's

> sooo true.) For example, a person may know he should get healthy by

> eating right and exercising. That's the rational thing to do. Ah,

> but we are not rational creatures. That's why you can present someone

> with all the reasons for getting healthy and he'll still say, " Yeah,

> well...I just dont' have time " --or whatever other excuse he can come

> up with. (And, by the way, I'm convinced the real reason is that such

> a person just plain doesn't feel like it.)

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> I've been down this road myself. I grew up a geek in school who

> didn't exercise. As I got older I found out I had high cholesterol.

> Even though I knew I needed to change, it took me years of exercising

> to reach the point where I now WANT to stay healthy. In fact, now I

> can't believe there was a time when I didn't try to live the lifestyle

> I live now. And I think making this change is even harder for men

> because we men like to believe that we are indestructible and don't

> need dumb things like diet and exercise as much as " other people " do.

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> So, I think it's back to motivation. Does he really want to change,

> or is it more your idea than yours? Unless it becomes his idea too,

> all the weights in the world will just end up collecting dust in your

> basement.

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[Guest guest]

>What does a

> woman have to do to get their mate to have a workout date every once

> in a while?

last winter, my dh worked out with me frequently. honestly i didnt like it

all of the time. he didnt like some of my workouts like step and floor

aerobics and i dont have twice the amt of equipment needed anyway. he did

like kickboxing and strength training (although i dont have heavy enough

weights for him and i would have to drop down in weight so he could use my

heaviest) and he also liked athletic or bootcamp style workouts. but he

also wanted to do the same workout over and over 'so that he could get good

at it' while i like to do different things every day. he did not like my

rotation schedules...heh. anyway, like paul was saying, it was the idea of

my dh (whose name is also paul to do the workouts with me. i had nothing

to do with it, except that he saw me workout all of the time and felt that

he was getting fat while being in the off-season of his very physical job --

he also asked me to help him eat healthier at that time (i was doing WW and

getting awesome results).

this winter, dh has an xbox and sits in front of the tv all day long! ugh!

ive asked him if he would like to workout with me again but he has declined.

i got the impression that he does not like the idea of the wall full of

mirror in the workout room...lol.

:*carolyn.