Re: what I get for bragging=something important

[Guest guest]

Hi Kathy R.

In 'OCD Land' it is important to put things into the proper

perspective.

In this case, you need to be pleased that Kel and your family were

able to experience the positive situation you described to us. You

now hove established a reference point to build from.

It seems to me that what we want to do in beating back ocd is to know

that it can be done. It is attainable. It is now a FACT that Kel can

do it. She must be congratulated on this wonderful accomplishment.

Not only that, you need to frequently remind her of the positive

situation which you all shared. As a family, you need to keep focused

on the 'better life' Kel was able to achieve, and to encourage her to

to find the tools that will allow it to be experienced again and

again.

Focus on what has and can be done NOT on what has not been done.

jim in san diego

jjmcf@...

[Guest guest]

Jim I so appreciate your input, as someone who has personal experience it is

particularly valuable to me. I printed your post and put it on the

refrigerator, my idea is the next time the rug gets pulled out from under us

I can read it and get centered again *before* I hit the panic stage. One

thing I was able to do this time is keep pointing out her accomplishments.

A sudden worsening " feels " like getting busted back to square one, having to

start all over, but I know from the last time that's not necessarily true

and she was able to get back a lot of gains fairly quickly once it eased.

Kel's out in our muddy backyard right now, wearing jeans and collecting

worms, things are looking up :-)

Thanks,

Kathy R. in Indiana

> From: " Jim " <jjmcf@...>

> In 'OCD Land' it is important to put things into the proper

> perspective.

>

> In this case, you need to be pleased that Kel and your family were

> able to experience the positive situation you described to us. You

> now hove established a reference point to build from.

>

> It seems to me that what we want to do in beating back ocd is to know

> that it can be done. It is attainable. It is now a FACT that Kel can

> do it. She must be congratulated on this wonderful accomplishment.

>

> Not only that, you need to frequently remind her of the positive

> situation which you all shared. As a family, you need to keep focused

> on the 'better life' Kel was able to achieve, and to encourage her to

> to find the tools that will allow it to be experienced again and

> again.

>

> Focus on what has and can be done NOT on what has not been done.

>

> jim in san diego

>

> jjmcf@...

>

>

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