Guest guest Posted October 11, 1999 Report Share Posted October 11, 1999 Hi everyone, First, I want to welcome all of the new people who have found this wonderful list, for support..You have come to the right place. Second I should probably tell everyone about myself, for those of you that are new... So here it goes. My name is Cheryl,I have depression and probably some degree of OCD as well, I take 20mg of Paxil and it has worked well. I have 2 daughters, 10yrs old, diagnosed with OCD and Depression,she is currently taking 20mg of Prozac and 6yrs old, with nothing yet... It has been a very winding road with full of obstacles and lots of turns.. She has been doing so well these last few months, even at the start of school. Things seemed to be going smoothly, however now has done a total turn around and caught me off gaurd. I am so frustrated right now and I don't know what to do. She is fighting with me over everything, and saying how unfair I am. Her bedtime is 9:00, she wants me to change it to 9:15, I have told her no, that she doesnt realize how lucky she is, her friends are in bed much earlier. She has not been doing her homework and waits until bedtime then says...ummm mom I forgot I have a report due, TOMORROW...... Well I tell her too bad, she will have to explain it to her teacher, why she forgot. Of course that does not go over well, then we have the full blown fit and rage. And how I don't care about her and I must really hate her. I have taken the computer away from her twice already for 3 days at atime, because she has told me her homework is done then all of a sudden at 9:00 more miraculously appear. She is a very bright girl, gets A's in all her classes, but for some reason will not do anythng extra. She came home last week with 3 C's, wow was she upset at herself. I am so tired of these arguments we are having it is like it was before the meds, last night she kept saying her sister should get knife and stabb her and end her life. That it would be better for everyone. This really scares me, she has been saying alot about killing herself lately and I dont like it. But I also wonder is she doing this for attention or what??? One minute is happy then all of a sudden , snap your fingers and she is ready to rip your head off.. I can't take much more of this. does not have an appt with Ellin (her psych doc) until Nov. 1, but I may have to call her sooner, cause I dont know what to do!!!! 's whole overall attitude has change so much in the last 2 weeks, that I am scared for her... She is having problems at school as far as friends go, she has lost many friends, but has held on to one.. She will not try out for anything new and will not do anything extra, she is just existing is how I feel. She is involved in a young scholars program, and likes it, they work on computers and do the stock market, and this year they are doing something for zoom magazine,comparing things such as taste testing. It is a good program too bad they don't allow enough time for it. No matter how many times and how many different ways I try to show her I am proud of her, she never understands it and she thinks I don't love her. I have tried the be gentle approach and sit and talk for hours, and I feel she takes advantage of that, then she expects it to happen everynight, (at bedtime, of course). So then I tried using the tough love approach and sending her to bed crying like anything, but she comes back down stairs a half hour later, crying and expecting me to talk, but that only makes me madder, so then I start yelling at her and the whole thing starts all over again. We have done as the psych doc told us, since we have 3 adults in the house, when one is discipling the others do not interfere and if we dont agree then we wait until the children are not in the room to talk about it. so far we have agreed on all the actions taken. But things just seem to be getting worse... My husband, Glenn, can be understanding to a point then look out !! He is not violent just gets very upset, and goes to the extreme of punishing . Some days he is so good at listenng and talking to her then other days he just cant handle it.. I am sorry I have rattled on but I really needed to vent and this is nothing, I have alot more to say but I just cant go on. Thank You all for listening........... Frustrated Cheryl in CT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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