Guest guest Posted January 23, 2000 Report Share Posted January 23, 2000 Dan's therapist said I should get a 504 for him, so I called the guidance office. The counsellor said there was not a chance, because he got all As and Bs first term. Unless a student is getting more than one D, they don't give 504s. Does this sound right? Judy Kathy Hammes wrote: > > From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...> > > Hi Dana: > > Please don't beat yourself up about the time spent/wasted in dealing > with > OCD. For all of us this is a learning process. For our family it has > literally taken years, months and months to figure out there was a > real > problem, months to figure out what it was and then over a year to find > an > effective treatment team. > > At first I also set up Steve's 504 to allow avoidance and prevented > teachers from interacting therapeutically with him. Once he was able > to > learn CBT then we changed the 504 to reinforce his bossing back and > involve > the teachers more therapeutically with him. It is just too early to > set up > a 504 with zero enabling until our kids have learned the necessary > skills > to boss back OCD on their own. It is counterproductive for our kids > to get > punished for OCD behaviors they are only just starting to learn how to > control. > > Changing the 504 has been a bit confusing for the teachers who seem > more > accustomed to doing the same thing for a long time. However each year > there is a new team of teachers and you can start again at square one > depending on Ava's progress with her CBT/E & RP. The perseverating > behaviors > seem particularly irksome to the teachers. For Steve this would > manifest > in having to have the last word in classroom discussions. The > teachers > really appreciated working on getting him to reduce these behaviors. > > We have also faced the structured vs. non-structured/less structured > educational experience. Strangely enough the structured seems to work > the > best. What we do is use humor about the situations when the teachers > do > stuff which is not the best approach for managing OCD. Luckily > Steve's CBT > therapist has helped the teachers with suggestions about how to handle > his > OCD sxs in the classroom and this seems to allay their fears. They > seem > relieved to have a non-parent resource to answer their questions. > > Ava has already come a long way and will continue to make strides > against > her OCD. We notice every few months that Steve is managing things > better > than before, it is surprising how lengthy yet persistent the > improvement is. > > Take care, aloha, Kathy (H) > kathyh@... > > At 04:11 PM 01/23/2000 -0500, you wrote: > >From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...> > > > >Hi Kathy, > >This really is good news. I am inspired for sure. Needing to finish > >things is definitely one of Ava's issues too and it is good to see > how > >successful ERP is in dealing with this one as well as the others. > Since > >Ava hasn't had the opportunity to learn ERP we've spent (wasted?) so > >much time trying to change the environment so that she can be okay > the > >way she is. Her 504 plan allows her extra time to finish things. > While > >this has worked in a temporary way I'm really looking forward to > finding > >a doc who can work with all of us using CBT instead of just meds. > >It's hard to figure out what is support/advocacy and what is enabling > - > >at least it's hard for me anyway! I think lately I've been doing > more > >enabling, partly I think due to the changes of middle school. Last > year > >she had one teacher instead of seven and she was so good that I > trusted > >her to help sort out the support vs enabling issues. We worked so > well > >together. But this year she got a team of teachers who are known for > >their high standards and structure (which is very good for Ava) but > also > >for their inflexibility and downright meanness (not so good). The > other > >choice (there are 2 " teams " of 6th grade teachers at her school) was > the > >warm fuzzy, less structured, more laid back team but I didn't pick it > >because the guidance counselor and I thought that she'd be stressed > by > >the unpredictability, bored by the lack of challenge and she'd take > over > >the class with the laid back teachers. Ava looms very large when she > >can (she is a natural leader but it really needs to be channeled!). > >Your success has given me some hope that with good CBT Ava can > overcome > >some of the more difficult situations at school w/o accomadations > that > >enable. > >Dana in NC > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > [ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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