Re: SI & Sealt belts

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On Sun, 1 Aug 1999 07:51:34 -1000, Dennis O'Donnell wrote:

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>Just wanted to tell you how I

>believe I finally ended the battle with the seat belt with Carly. I believe

>Carly's primary problem with the seatbelt is one of physical discomfort not

>one of contamination but it wouldn't make a difference for me anyway. I told

>her that I understand she hates it and let her try to tell me why and then I

>told her " Miss Picky Pants " cannot win this one. After she unbuckled for the

>third or fourth time on the way to her doc's office I pulled over to

>re-buckle and finally said that without a seatbelt on, even in a minor

>fender bender that she could very possibly die. This frightened her enough,

>that she no longer fights me about it.

Hi everyone, this post caught my eye because I have noticed over time that *I*

can boss back my 5-year-old's

OCD sometimes too. When this happens Kel's happy because (apparently) to do or

not do what OCD is

insisting on is taken out of her hands. It's as if her OCD is five too, and Mom

just says " no. "

A few months ago OCD decided Kellen couldn't poopy anymore. Five days went by

before I noticed it, and

she finally explained that OCD had a new " rule " about this. I don't know why,

but this new problem just made

me mad, it came at the end of a tough run of OCD problems and I was feeling worn

out. I told Kellen that no

matter what OCD said, every living creature had to poopy sooner or later and

that OCD couldn't win this one,

that OCD may as well decide she couldn't breathe anymore, etc. etc., and for her

to head into the bathroom

and sit on the toilet until she pooped. She complained a bit, did her business,

and later told me that although

OCD had been telling her this was a big one (she has " big compulsions " and

little ones, depending on how

bad it makes her feel to not go along with them), it turned out it was a little

one after all. And so it was I guess,

this particular problem hasn't returned.

I know this goes against everything I've learned about coping with OCD, the

whole concept of cbt, and in the

long run doing too much bossing back on my daughter's behalf would probably be

counterproductive, but . . .

it worked.

By the way, welcome to all the new posters, I've been very busy so far this

summer and haven't been able to

keep up with the list the way I had been.

Kathy R. in Indiana

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Hi all,

Wanda thanks for the info on SI. I have talked with Carly's doc about a

referral to an OT for therapy and she has given me a name. It looks like it

may not be covered by my insurance but at this point it's too early to get

uptight about it since I'm not even sure about the cost. It sounds like the

solution though. The way our doc describes it, it is similar to what we have

already been doing in order to cope in life but as therapy usually goes it

will be more specific and hopefully have better, longer term improvement. I

sure hope so as this is one very life disrupting symptom depending upon the

day and the severity.

Beth I am certainly not in a position to tell anyone what to do or how to

cope as I am barely holding myself at times. Just wanted to tell you how I

believe I finally ended the battle with the seat belt with Carly. I believe

Carly's primary problem with the seatbelt is one of physical discomfort not

one of contamination but it wouldn't make a difference for me anyway. I told

her that I understand she hates it and let her try to tell me why and then I

told her " Miss Picky Pants " cannot win this one. After she unbuckled for the

third or fourth time on the way to her doc's office I pulled over to

re-buckle and finally said that without a seatbelt on, even in a minor

fender bender that she could very possibly die. This frightened her enough,

that she no longer fights me about it. We still need to address her

discomfort with it but she understands the need for it. Believe me when I

say she HATES it. She has major tactile defensive problems and the seat belt

is just too much for comfort. She is frightened of death. I didn't mean to

play on her fear but facts are facts. She actually has reminded me a couple

of times in recent days when I, out of exhaustion forgot to buckle her up.

She is only three so this may or may not work in your favor with e at

age seven. Anyway - hang in there and hope things get easier!!

Aloha - Robin