Re: 2nd update on creeped out

[Guest guest]

> >

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm

married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. "

Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this!

I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go

without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note

said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

Is there someone you can talk to about this? Maybe the apartment

manager? If so, I'd let them know exactly what is going on.

Especially since he isn't letting up after you let him know you

weren't interested. That really crosses a line in my book.

And it sounds to me like you already told him no.

Colleen

[Guest guest]

Ew, ew, EW!!!! You should show both notes to the community center

manager and make a formal complaint. Or maybe you should hand both

notes up on a bulletin board somewhere where EVERYONE can see them

and write " NO!!! " across them in black magic marker. hahaha

Ok I have a sick sense of humor, go with the complaint to the

management, and bring the hubs with you a few more times. The

management of the center might not be able to take any action, but at

least they will be aware of the situation. And (sorry if this freaks

you out more) what if your weirdo is an employee of the center???? I

think the more people that know, the safer you will be. You should

NOT be chased away from your gym because of some sicko!!!

Be safe!

Jen from CA

> For those of you who joined recently, I posted a little while back

about

> someone leaving a note on my BFL book at the gym, asking me to

lunch or

> to an Oregon hot springs, (usually clothing optional). I wrote back

that

> I'm married. I brought my husband to the gym with me the next time

and I

> thought I knew who left the note. Boy, was I wrong.

>

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm

married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. "

Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this!

I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go

without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note

said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I would definitely write back that it does make

you uncomfortable and to please respect your

privacy.

If anything more comes up, and he's over stepping

his bounds, I would see the gym owners.

When does he have the chance to leave the notes?

Would you be able to see? And maybe you could

change the time you go to the gym? Or just ask

hubby to come with you a few times.

I hope you find a solution!

xo Tink

Shaun wrote:

> For those of you who joined recently, I posted a little while back about

> someone leaving a note on my BFL book at the gym, asking me to lunch or

> to an Oregon hot springs, (usually clothing optional). I wrote back that

> I'm married. I brought my husband to the gym with me the next time and I

> thought I knew who left the note. Boy, was I wrong.

>

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. " Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this! I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sounds like you're freakin' and you don't really have to. First of

all, the word " No " is a complete sentence and does not require an

explanation.

Second, maybe this is a nice guy who really is lonely and whose wife

really is a couch potato. If that is the case you could feel

flattered instead. I get lots of guys who want to do stuff

(unfortunately the average age of the ones in the gym is 70). I'm

married but not buried. Sometimes I do stuff with them but have

boundaries that I set and one wrong move and I won't play any more.

I set the precedent at the beginning and give them the option of

continuing or not. If they continue they have to stay inside the

boundaries. It works fine and I have made lots of friends this way.

Third, maybe you could look for an all women gym.

I refuse to be any sort of victim.

Stasia

[Guest guest]

> Sounds like you're freakin' and you don't really have to. First of

> all, the word " No " is a complete sentence and does not require an

> explanation.

> (snip)

>> I refuse to be any sort of victim.

>

> Stasia

Stasia,

I agree with you totally....I was gonna post right away but then

thought to wait a bit and see if anyone else sees it my way. I am

not a victim EVER....I believe that I attract to myself what I

concentrate on or pay attention to, therefore I do not put any

attention to the victim thng. My daughter in law once said to

me, " If only I could be like you...you are not afraid of anything and

could probably kock the socks off anyone who gave you a hard

time " ...what a compliment!

One option I see without making trouble for the guy (who obviously

has issues cos otherwise he'd talk to you in person)is to write him a

note, thanking him for the offer and the flattery (he must really

thnk you're cute) but that you have no interest in spending time

hiking or anything else with another man. Kindly say that you are

sure there are some men in the gym that would very much lke a hiking

buddy. Then, possibly you could mention that you feel bad for his

wife being a couch potato and maybe he should try to encourage her to

do those things with him (we know this is probably a lie anyway, but

pretend you believe him). OR you could offer to speak with her (ha ha

and look at his face when you say that!)about BFL if he brought her

to the gym! He may not be " creapy " but just anther womanizing man and

believe me there are many out there! He mightbe thinkijng he is

offering YOU the " gift " of himself...ha ha they all think they are

just so cool (the womanizing men of the world).Good luck....and don't

spend too much time worrying about his motives, you can handle

yourself!

Pat

ps One thing I'd like to know....how come there are so many men with

no menfriends?????

[Guest guest]

Sounds like you to need to talk to the gym staff. If this guy is

doing this with you I bet he's done it with others too.

debra

> For those of you who joined recently, I posted a little while back

about

> someone leaving a note on my BFL book at the gym, asking me to

lunch or

> to an Oregon hot springs, (usually clothing optional). I wrote

back that

> I'm married. I brought my husband to the gym with me the next time

and I

> thought I knew who left the note. Boy, was I wrong.

>

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm

married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. "

Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing

this! I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go

without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note

said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I

am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey Pat, wish you lived near me. We could hang out together and kick

some butt, LOL. You sound like a strong woman.

Stasia

[Guest guest]

Whoa!!! I have definitely missed out on the " happenings " here. Some freak is

sticking stalker notes on your locker?? OMG! Get a can of mace, quick.

Re: 2nd update on creeped out

> >

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm

married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. "

Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this!

I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go

without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note

said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

Is there someone you can talk to about this? Maybe the apartment

manager? If so, I'd let them know exactly what is going on.

Especially since he isn't letting up after you let him know you

weren't interested. That really crosses a line in my book.

And it sounds to me like you already told him no.

Colleen

[Guest guest]

> Hey Pat, wish you lived near me. We could hang out together and

kick

> some butt, LOL. You sound like a strong woman.

>

> Stasia

Thanks....we would have fun, heh???? A few years ago when I was

really into weights (but not BFL) I would take almost anyone on with

arm wrestling! I remember once beating a guy that just got out of

jail! (ok...he wasn't the largest man in the room...but not all that

skinny either). I saw him again about five yrs later...he would not

talk to me!

Pat

[Guest guest]

That is SOOOO SPOOKY!! But I wouldnt' write him back anymore at all. Maybe you

should tell the gym owner?

Be safe!

Holly

For those of you who joined recently, I posted a little while back about

someone leaving a note on my BFL book at the gym, asking me to lunch or

to an Oregon hot springs, (usually clothing optional). I wrote back that

I'm married. I brought my husband to the gym with me the next time and I

thought I knew who left the note. Boy, was I wrong.

I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm married,

too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. " Gross,

gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this! I go

to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go without

being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note said

that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

bothered already; too late.

[Guest guest]

Back in town after being outa town for a week... Our daughter is

getting married in Texas next week and I helped the kids paint. SO

good to be back to the board again!!!! Anyway, I remember the creeped

out message from before... I had an idea for you... Get a t-shirt

with a big NO on the front and the back. *he he *... Maybe you could

get another set of bright t-shirts with and " ABSOLUTLY " for your

hubby and a " NOT " for you... Just a thought...

Danna

> For those of you who joined recently, I posted a little while back

about

> someone leaving a note on my BFL book at the gym, asking me to

lunch or

> to an Oregon hot springs, (usually clothing optional). I wrote back

that

> I'm married. I brought my husband to the gym with me the next time

and I

> thought I knew who left the note. Boy, was I wrong.

>

> I went without husband today and I got a new note saying, " I'm

married,

> too, but my wife is a couch potato. I'm not looking for sex, (yeah

> right!), but just a person to go hiking, kayaking, tennis, etc. "

Gross,

> gross, gross!!! It's so creepy that I don't know who is doing this!

I go

> to a small community center gym and I'm often the only woman with

> anywhere from 1-10 guys. This really bothers me that I can't go

without

> being bothered. I can workout at home, but I really like using the

> machine for squats and I paid money to go there, damnit! The note

said

> that he would stop bothering me if I said no. That's great, but I am

> bothered already; too late.

>

>

>