Update! Prayers Please! Sorry it is so long!

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I posted a few weeks ago about my husband leaving and having an affair. This

has continued although he adamently denies it. He only sees the girls for

usually 1-2 hours at a time and usually there is some activity involved such as

baseball or gymnastics. He frequently has days off where he does not see them at

all or talk to them. He has only paid $400/month in child support although Texas

law requires him to pay much more than that. He is showing minimal interest.

Adena's problem behaviors are increasing and defiance is increasing where she

becomes unmanageable at times, even with 2 or 3 adults present. These bahviors

increase typically after she has seen her Dad. She is usually much more calmer

and more compliant when she has not had contact with him for several days.

Because he refuses to try to come up with an agreement, we have had court

rescheduled twice for temporary orders. We also had to pay additinal money to

appoint an amicus attorney to represent the best interest of the children and

the judges usually follow her recommendations. The amicus attorney is

recommending visitation on his days off with overnight visits to begin when he

gets established in a new place (he has been staying with his Dad) I told her

and my attorney that I have serious concerns due to he has not even exercised

visitation on his days off even when he had access to his Mom's and sister's

house when they were gone on visitation. He is also letting his girlfriend run

up hia credit card in one month in excess of his net income. I believe he is

also giving the girlfriend money as well. He has also asked the girlfriend for

" help " with Adena because he doesn't know what to do with Adena. She works in a

group home which scares me to death because if she has not problems taking

advantage of my husband, she will have no problems taking advantage of

individuals with disabilities. It makes me sick! She also allows her 13 year

old to drink beer with her and smoke pot because she knows she is going to do it

anyway. She smokes and Adena has asthma. She drinks in excess and I believe she

abuses prescription and illegal drugs. I have informed the amicus attorney and

all she recommended was a morality and alcohol clause. I had asked for no

alcohol around the girls, no smoking due to asthma, and specifically stated no

Girlfriend around the girls. Yet my husband continues to deny a relationship or

that they even speak when I have proof otherwise that I don't know if he knows

about or not. He refuses to speak to me about anything and walks away or hangs

up the phone if i try to calmly discuss my concerns how this is affecting the

children or discuss my concerns for him being taken advantage of. We are

scheduled to go to court tomorrow for temporary orders. My first request is to

please pray for what will truly be best for the children. I have not denied him

seeing the children a single time even when he calls 7 minutes before he shows

up at my house which is typical behavior. I want them to have a relationship

with him but I do not want to risk their safety and well-being. Any advice would

also be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for taking the time to read!

Karyn

Mom to Adena, DS and asthma and , 2