Punishment/reward ideas

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Hello all. My son Ivan is almost 7 and in Kindergarden. He is in a mainstream

classroom and has an Aide. Within the last 5 months his behavior has changed

from sweet angel 100% of the time to getting behavior notes sent home 2 to 3

days a week, sometimes more. The behavior in question ranges from refusing to

do his work to running from his teacher on the playground and escaping from the

playground and refusing to come back. I have looked into the situation and I

don't think it's a reaction to the Aide, his teacher, or anything going on in

the classroom. I've sat in the classroom and witnessed his defiance, I've

talked to parents of other students in the classroom and I have many good

friends who teach at his school and see the classroom dynamics on a regular

basis. I really feel like it's the terrible 2's finally manifesting. He

displays the same behaviors at home a lot too. My problem is I haven't been

able to come up with anything to counteract his behavior whether it be reward

for good behavior or punishment for bad. We have tried taking away privileges

and putting him in time out but with Ivan he has a good time wherever he is, no

matter what. We tried using rewards when he was in preschool to potty train him

and he's just as happy whether he gets a reward or not.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Anything that worked for your family? Key

phrases that helped you get a point across to your child?

Thank you.

Young, Mom to Ivan (6 with DS) and Angelina (6 with CP)