Re: Re: 2 1/2 screaming allot in public

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This sounds very typical of any 2 year old.  My daughter (non DS) is 2 years

old and she is definitely a screamer (in private and in public) :/  My husband

and I sat down and really defined how we were going to handle this so that she

receives the same form of discipline from us both.  We've learned that the best

thing is calm and assertive discipline (sounds very Dog Whisper-ish, but it

works!).  We don't raise our voices back at her (easier said than done

sometimes, I'll admit), but we don't move our ground either.  If it's no, it's

no and that's it.  No need to fight back with her or try to convince her of our

reasons why.  We explain our reasons one time, say no and that's it.

We give ONE warning, then a time-out and if that doesn't work (which sometimes

it doesn't because she is a VERY strong-willed child), we do give her ONE

spanking (without being angry at her and without much force), then she usually

calms down.  After she is calm we sit down with her and explain on her level

why she was disciplined and how to avoid discipline in the future...ie obeying

the first time.

It's a work in progress, but these are the formative years and it's best to nip

the bad behavior in the bud now.  Remember to praise, praise, praise when they

do something well or obey you the first time, exaggerating the praise works

wonders.  My husband has done a happy dance in public when she's good! She

loves it!!   

Children with DS or non-DS will always test their boundaries.  Don't

underestimate them.  They'll learn your weakness and take advantage.

Good luck!

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From: gratitudehomeschool <gratitudehomeschool@...>

Sent: Thursday, October 27, 2011 11:35 AM

Subject: Re: 2 1/2 screaming allot in public

 

Hi Ali!

((Hugs & Empathy!))

I am a mom of 4, and my youngest is 2 1/2 with DS. I still wondered when she

started screaming if it was typical or DS! The main reason being that my other

children fussed, but I don't remember any of them screaming - especially not in

public.

So my youngest, with DS, is my first screamer. The only reason I figured out it

was manipulation (very typical of 2) and not DS was the fact it was situational.

It only happened with me at home when I was working with my other children, or

in public. It never happened when my husband was home with her alone or with

her & the other kids or all of us together. Never. She has my number, because

I was afraid to discipline a child with DS.

The solution. I started to discipline her like I would my other kids. She is

very responsive and learns easily in this area. She too has 50 words, so

communication is not the reason. She wants to get what she wants by screaming

at me. Since this is not a livable situation with 3 other children I am

disciplining her. Since she is 2 1/2, and it wasn't started at 14 months, it

has been harder to learn than it would have been earlier. She is getting it

though.

We had a day in the store where she screamed non-stop for 15 minutes. Torture.

She has only screamed once or twice since for 1 - 2 minutes since she didn't get

what she wanted the 15 minute time. What she wanted was to be held or down to

crawl. Both our completely unrealistic when shopping with 3 other children and

pushing a cart.

The second battle of wills occurred when she wanted up and screamed (this time

at home). She was wanting out of her favorite spot that she can not climb out

of herself. I told her to say ma-ma up. She screamed for 1 hour (this may

sound cruel, but I had to win). After 1 hour she said ma-ma up in a nice voice.

I then had 3 days of complete peace. She is starting to test the screaming

again this week. The result is time-outs.

Discipline her like any two year old. DS children learn slower, but they learn.

It is a blessing, and as far as I can tell they can learn things like this as

quickly as any strong willed 2 year old.

Blessings for success,

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> Hi

>

> I would love any advice on how to handle my 2.5 year old screaming allot when

we go in public. She is good when she is home with my husband and myself, but as

soon as allot of people get around or in public. She yells allot. It is not the

crying screaming in is the loud hey look at me and get attention screaming. She

can speak about 2o words and does sign language, so she is able to communicate.

We usually take her out of the store if there is two of us, and if there is only

one than we will try to distract her with where is your eyes, or nose game....

This is my first child so I am not sure if this is a characterstic of down

syndrome or a toddler.

>

> Thanks

> Ali

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