Re: OT...Somewhat

[Guest guest]

Oh Karyn, I am so sorry to hear this. Please know that you certainly have my

support.

My first husband and I split up when my now-grown-up son was 4. It was not

amicable, and he started dating right away, and our son has adhd, and was wildly

behaved, and I had to work full-time. I don't have a large family, and I didn't

have much in the way of people to support and help me. I felt so alone and

bitter and mad - I was an alcoholic, too, so no wonder my son was wild. But I am

so happy to tell you, that he has grown up, and he is so close to me, and he

knows that I did the best I could...and he thinks I am a great mom.  So, you

can get through this too.

I am sure the group will help with the transition questions, and please know

that you have our support too.

Patty

From: Karyn <thebombtexas@...>

Sent: Saturday, April 23, 2011 9:31 AM

Subject: Re: OT...Somewhat

 

Well,, I know several of you have been through similar situations and I

appreciate all of the support everyone has always given. My husband left me last

night. Our marriage has not been good for some time.He is now " interested " in

someone else although he says that is not the reason for leaving but I know

better. He says he wants to be there for the kids and will be amicable. I told

him I do not want our children around her. She smokes, drinks heavily, and I

believe she does drugs or at least abuses prescription drugs. (My husband is a

nurse and hates these behaviors usually!) She allows her 14 year old to smoke,

drink, do drugs and talk however she likes. My daughter already has behavior

problems at 6 and I know they will increase with her world turning upside down

but I don't want her to be around poor parenting, bad examples, and of course

smoking and drinking. It's not like she has not been around people who drink but

she has only seen in moderation

other than her grandfather who is an alcoholic.

I am not quite sure what I really need to do but appreciate any input. We are

also going to be transitioning to Kindergarten at a new school next year so we

have a lot of transitions to deal with right now.

Thanks for listening!

Karyn

Mom to Adena, DS and asthma, 6 and , 2

[Guest guest]

So sorry Karyn, as Patty says, please know that  you have our support.  Many

times members of this group have said and I repeat it, that this group is like a

family.

Cannot comment on transition since I live in another country and school system

is different.

Peace to you and your children

Bonnie  

--- El dom 24-abr-11, Patty Derdzinski <pderdzinski@...> escribió:

De: Patty Derdzinski <pderdzinski@...>

Asunto: Re: OT...Somewhat

A: " Karyn " <thebombtexas@...>, " " < >

Fecha: domingo, 24 de abril de 2011, 14:14

 

Oh Karyn, I am so sorry to hear this. Please know that you certainly have

my support.

My first husband and I split up when my now-grown-up son was 4. It was not

amicable, and he started dating right away, and our son has adhd, and was wildly

behaved, and I had to work full-time. I don't have a large family, and I didn't

have much in the way of people to support and help me. I felt so alone and

bitter and mad - I was an alcoholic, too, so no wonder my son was wild. But I am

so happy to tell you, that he has grown up, and he is so close to me, and he

knows that I did the best I could...and he thinks I am a great mom.  So, you

can get through this too.

I am sure the group will help with the transition questions, and please know

that you have our support too.

Patty

From: Karyn <thebombtexas@...>

Sent: Saturday, April 23, 2011 9:31 AM

Subject: Re: OT...Somewhat

 

Well,, I know several of you have been through similar situations and I

appreciate all of the support everyone has always given. My husband left me last

night. Our marriage has not been good for some time.He is now " interested " in

someone else although he says that is not the reason for leaving but I know

better. He says he wants to be there for the kids and will be amicable. I told

him I do not want our children around her. She smokes, drinks heavily, and I

believe she does drugs or at least abuses prescription drugs. (My husband is a

nurse and hates these behaviors usually!) She allows her 14 year old to smoke,

drink, do drugs and talk however she likes. My daughter already has behavior

problems at 6 and I know they will increase with her world turning upside down

but I don't want her to be around poor parenting, bad examples, and of course

smoking and drinking. It's not like she has not been around people who drink but

she has only seen in moderation

other than her grandfather who is an alcoholic.

I am not quite sure what I really need to do but appreciate any input. We are

also going to be transitioning to Kindergarten at a new school next year so we

have a lot of transitions to deal with right now.

Thanks for listening!

Karyn

Mom to Adena, DS and asthma, 6 and , 2