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Hello group,

If anyone has had experience with this Please help.

The school wanted a meeting yesterday due to some behavior concerns from

Austin. These had started last year and have resurfaced this year.

He has done some touching of peoples bottoms, lifting shirt/skirt and says

things (touch my pee pee) and this has raised red flags at school. I asked

could he be learning these behaviors at school " oh no, the other kids don't

do this " They called in the psychologist who says something has happened to

him for these things to be occurring and they want him evaluated by someone

who screens kids for abuse. I know in my heart nothing has happened at home

or any place else. He is with an aid at school, there are some instances, a

half hour in the classroom when the aid is not there (there are reg. Ed

assistants in the classroom during that time) and at lunch the aid is not

right there with him, sometimes she may go assist someone else, but is close

by to Austin. The recess time the aid I don't think is right there by his

side. My understanding is that he does not go into the bathroom when there

are other boys in there. Austin does not say these things at home, remember

he has a brother soon to be 3 who is into self exploration. Yes I think

abuse should be ruled out. My husband and I feel this is a behavior issue.

The staff that works with Austin are not experts, the " special Ed " teacher

really doesn't have experience she is a reg. Ed teacher, in this state they

can teach spec. Ed 3 years after that they must receive certification. The

aids don't have specialized training. This is a rural school with limited

experience " having kids with special needs. After the abuse is ruled out,

then they said we would have a behavioral evaluation. I worry the person

doing the evaluation may not have experience with special needs. I think

you could lead Austin into saying something without him understanding what

he is saying. Sorry for such a long email, I very concerned about this.

Just recently in our state we had 2 reg. Ed boys jailed, I believe they were

12, because they swatted girls on the bottom. Charges eventually were

dropped. But I think they may still have a record and needed counseling.

Thank you,

Kelli mom to Austin 12 in Oct. And 3 in Nov.