Re: Restrooms

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In a message dated 8/10/2006 9:55:25 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

kelli1082@... writes:

At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

the kids when I'm out shopping.

Thank you,

Kelli

Austin 10 1/2 DS

Kelli:

A lot depends on how Nick is behaving and where we are when he needs to go.

He just turned 13 (August 7) and I am just this year starting to let him go

alone and occasionally I let him take his younger brothers to the men's room.

If DH is with us he usually goes with him unless we are someplace where we

can see the route to and from the bathroom. If Nick takes too long DH will

go check on him. I get a little panicky if he takes too long and have been

know to go knock on the bathroom door and holler in at him to check on him.

Cari

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Personally.. with todays nuts.. I dunno. My typical son is four.. and I

still take him in if I am alone.

ON the other hand I was out eating the other day at a buffet type.. and

there was a MAN.. taking his wheel chair bound wife into the Women's

bathroom.. Know.. I know it's a bit different.. but.. this guy was like

70 + yrs old.. and he was helping a woman ( his wife).. ANYHOW.. while

the situation is different.. I don't see a problem with it.. Just

announce if you dare.. LOL.. But I can be a bit of a rebel.LOL

ON the other hand.. if your son is pretty high functioning.. then .. let

him go.. but stand at the door.. till you both feel confident.

I just remember hearing stuff about little boys and pervs in the

bathroom.. and it can happen anywhere. Now I doubt I will still be

taking my son Bubs in when he is ten.. but.. if I were concerned or in a

strange place.. ( Vegas or an airport ) I would likely drag him in.

I think it just depend on your son and your comfort level..

Steph

" Truth is not determined by a majority vote. "

-Cardinal ph Ratzinger

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At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you?

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fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

the kids when I'm out shopping.

Thank you,

Kelli

Austin 10 1/2 DS

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Kelli,

I can't remember when we stopped having Trent in the ladies with us -

possibly around the age Austin is maybe a bit older. Until Trent objected

would take him into a disabled toilet. Yes, I was and still am fearful of

others taking advantage of him. When there is more than one of us, we stand

guard of the mens and take in turns going to the ladies. Otherwise if only

the two of us, I rush in and out as quickly as I can, then listen. I have

on many occasions asked a 'departing' male to check that he is still in

there and safe. I can remember another time being on a ferry and either

wondering about Trent or he was calling out to me - another male checked

there was no one else in there then stood guard at the door while I attended

to him. For sure there are a lot of sickos out there but the majority of

people are find just be very alert.

Keep smiling

Jan, mother of Trent 22yo w/Ds from the LandDownUnder

Restrooms

At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

the kids when I'm out shopping.

Thank you,

Kelli

Austin 10 1/2 DS

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My son is 14 and he has been going into the mens bathroom by himself for

about 5 years. There is one place I still take him in the women's bathroom and

that is at Mile High Stadium when we go up for Bronco games (we have season

tickets). There are so many drunks and people who I fear will hurt him so I take

him with me. No one has ever said anything to me.

Mom to and Noah both with Down syndrome

CO

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Mac is 8 and usually goes on his own. We frequent many restaurants and

businesses in our area--we are in a small rural area--in those places I just

send him on his own and he does fine. In the mall or unfamiliar places I'll

still send him on his own, but will wait for him outside the restroom. The only

time I worry is if I see a lot of people going in or if I " m waiting a long time

for him. I have on several occasions asked an employee or a person going in to

please check on him. There are times where he will go in with me, but usually

he prefers to go on his own and does fine. Again, every kid is different and I

feel comfortable letting him go on his own. My daughter, on the other hand,

will probably be 20 before I let her go on her own! :-)

Jill

Mom to Mac (8 yrs., 3rd grade, Ds) and Kit (almost 5, preschool, Ds)

Restrooms

At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

the kids when I'm out shopping.

Thank you,

Kelli

Austin 10 1/2 DS

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Nic is 9 and I still take him into the ladies' room. We have found that the

men's rooms are usually dirtier than the ladies' so even when Bob is with

us, I take him in. Nic sits down to pee so a clean bathroom is key for us.

Di

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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> Thank you,

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> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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I noticed that many places now have " family restrooms " . I thought that was a

great idea.

Di

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> Thank you,

> Kelli

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Boy this is a hard one. Two things to think about-- What does your son

think? The other is what do the ladies in the restroom think-- are they

uncomfortable. I appreciate wanting to keep him safe. I heard an awful story

about

a young man whose mother always took him to the women's restroom. When he

was an adult living out of his parents home, he lived across the street from a

park and would use the women's restroom when he was there. The restroom as

does many a park, had no doors. So a lady came in while he was there and he

turned to look and " flashed " her by accident. He got arrested. The judge

let him off. It happened again, this time the judge was not sympathetic and he

ended up in jail :-( There's a fine line between safety and being age

appropriate. It's really hard to know when that hits.

Now on a funny note, we new it was time for my husband to quit taking our

typical daughter to the men's restroom when she looked over at the urinal and

pointed and announced " ( the neighbor boy) has one of those!

M.

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We ended up encouraging my son to sit. We had reports from the school that

he would stand at the urinal with his butt bare looking at the other kids using

the urinals.

I feel he is safer in the privacy of a stall, with less chances that someone

will complain he is staring at them.

When we are out he goes to the mens room but I am outside in the hall

waiting. If he is in there for a while i will ask some nice man to go and see if

there is a kid still in the bathroom and have them call his name. I have been

known to turn my head and yell into the mens room to get an answer so I know he

is safe.

Jean

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I can't remember when I started to let go alone. If it's a familiar place

we visit, I dont worry about him going alone. I will send one of his brothers

with him if we are somewhere unfamiliar. My hubby had him somewhere down at the

beach where there were only urinals and he said stood there and let both

his pants and underwear drop to the floor and he was standing there with his

bare butt out!

He has always and still does sit to pee so he was a little confused with no

toilet there I guess! LOL. Curious....how many of our boys with DS sit to pee?

Jackie, mom to 18ds, 15, and Bradley 12

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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> Thank you,

> Kelli

> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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Thank you to all who replied to my question about restrooms. I'll give it

a try and let austin go on his own some where safe. I'm also concerned that

he is very curious about " private parts " and still working on trying to

teach him to respect others privacy.

As far as does he sit or stand, he sits to use the toilet. I've tried

teaching him standing up, but he desires to sit on the toilet. I guess that

s not a bad thing. Maybe when his younger brother learns to use the toilet,

austin will become interested in standing.

Have a good weekend everyone.

Kelli mom to Austin 10 3/4 yrs and 21 months

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I can't remember when I started to let go alone. If it's a familiar

place we visit, I dont worry about him going alone. I will send one of his

brothers with him if we are somewhere unfamiliar. My hubby had him

somewhere down at the beach where there were only urinals and he said

stood there and let both his pants and underwear drop to the floor and he

was standing there with his bare butt out!

He has always and still does sit to pee so he was a little confused with no

toilet there I guess! LOL. Curious....how many of our boys with DS sit to

pee?

Jackie, mom to 18ds, 15, and Bradley 12

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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> Thank you,

> Kelli

> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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Noah is a sitter... although I know he can do it standing, he does it

outside all the time!

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>> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

>> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

>> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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>> Thank you,

>> Kelli

>> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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stood there and let both his pants and underwear drop to the floor and

he was standing there with his bare butt out!

He has always and still does sit to pee

Trent to a tee -

Keep smiling

Jan, mother of Trent 22yo w/Ds from the LandDownUnder

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with

> you? I fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm

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> Kelli

> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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goes into the men's room now. If we are together, he is pretty

stubborn and won't even go to the bathroom, let alone let me stop to go!

It's pretty rare that I am with him alone when he has to go to the restroom

while out in public. When it does happen, he goes to the mens room and I

stand outside the door. If any man goes in, I make it known that I am there

watching out for him (I may say somethign like " Mom is still out here, are

you ok " . can hold his pee forever, but when it comes time for a BM,

he pretty much rushes to the restroom.

is a sitter, too. His third grade teacher (one of the worse) was

insistent that he learn to stand up - I let her know that is a DS thing and

to leave him alone.

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In a message dated 8/12/2006 1:53:47 P.M. Central Standard Time,

writes:

goes into the men's room now. If we are together, he is pretty

stubborn and won't even go to the bathroom, let alone let me stop to go!

It's pretty rare that I am with him alone when he has to go to the restroom

while out in public. When it does happen, he goes to the mens room and I

stand outside the door. If any man goes in, I make it known that I am there

watching out for him (I may say somethign like " Mom is still out here, are

you ok " . can hold his pee forever, but when it comes time for a BM,

he pretty much rushes to the restroom.

is a sitter, too. His third grade teacher (one of the worse) was

insistent that he learn to stand up - I let her know that is a DS thing and

to leave him alone.

doesn't go into men's restrooms on his own. He doesn't understand

restroom " etiquette " . I take him into the women's restroom and since I don't

see

him going out on his own for many years I am not worried about him using

women's restrooms without accompaniment. I tried the men's room for a while but

it didn't go well.

I really haven't dealt with anyone acting like it was wrong for him to be in

there. It isn't like he is in the stall with them.

Karyn

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Also, if it's a bathroom for only one person I'll let him go inside alone but I

stand outside. I'm afraid though, that he'll lock the door and not be able to

open it (or not want to-he thinks that's funny). If it has multiple stalls, I

take him to the ladies room

Di

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with

you? I

> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone

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> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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> Thank you,

> Kelli

> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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In a message dated 8/11/2006 9:09:31 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

jbocci55@... writes:

Curious....how many of our boys with DS sit to pee?

Nick stands up. I think because that's the way I taught him (would stand

him up in front of the potty to pee).

Cari

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I started sending tim to the men's room once he hit puberty (last year) and

developed an unhealthy interest in what ladies get up to in the loo! He has

just learnt to wee standing up (has had soiling issues for many years so needed

to always sit) and so always uses the urinals now. heaven knows what he gets up

to in there, I am sure he must stare at all the men also standing there and

certainly he introduces himself because I hear him! he always meets me outside

the restroom once finished and I have only once had to ask a man to check if he

was still there. I am very wary still though. Only a few months ago a girl was

raped by a teenager in a public toilet in the UK, so I worry a bit but figure he

has to do it by himself some time and he is really far too developed to go into

the ladies and not dependent enough (plus values his privacy) to warrant using

the disabled loo.

sue wong

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> At what age do you stop taking your sons into the ladies room with you? I

> fear sending Austin into the Mens restroom alone. Usually I'm alone with

> the kids when I'm out shopping.

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> Thank you,

> Kelli

> Austin 10 1/2 DS

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I'm sooooooo glad I re-read BEFORE pressing the send button......

I read, " (would stand him up in front of the potty to pee) " but missed the

word HIM. Imagine my confusion, AND the mental picture of mom standing up

to show him how to pee!!!!! I was trying to figure out how, exactly that

would work....whew, dodged a really embarrassing bullet there!

Karla in Texas...feelin' like a dork!

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> In a message dated 8/11/2006 9:09:31 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> jbocci55@... writes:

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> Curious....how many of our boys with DS sit to pee?

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> Nick stands up. I think because that's the way I taught him (would stand

> him up in front of the potty to pee).

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> Cari

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AND the mental picture of mom standing up to show him how to pee!!!!!

And how confused would the poor kid be then!!!

Thanks for sharing your mental picture had a good laugh about that one.

Keep smiling

Jan, mother of Trent 22yo w/DS from the LandDownUnder

(another day minus one of the blood pressure tablets she has been taken for

the past 12months and is feeling fantastic - Dr's and their meds -

sometimes I wonder if they really know what they are doing!!!)

----- Original Message -----

> In a message dated 8/11/2006 9:09:31 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> jbocci55@... writes:

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> Curious....how many of our boys with DS sit to pee?

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> Nick stands up. I think because that's the way I taught him (would

> stand him up in front of the potty to pee).

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> Cari

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