Re: social goals

[Guest guest]

Yes, you can set up the lunch plan without adding to the IEP, but I would

imagine it would depend on how agreeable the school is. We were able to do

something similar for in 5th grade, we did a weekly special friend time.

Her sped teacher and gened teacher and I discussed this. Her gened teacher

picked 3 girls that seemed to get along well with in her classroom. She

talked to the girls about this, and they were very eager. Once a week they met

in the library, spent about 45 minutes together talking, playing games or

another activity chosen by the teacher. At first the gened teacher hung around,

after a few weeks she was able to leave them on their own with the media staff

keeping a distant eye on them (of course this was 5th grade also, so the girls

were a little older). This worked great for elementary school. Middle school

is a whole different matter, and when I figure this one out, I will let you

know.

Sharon H.

Mom to , (15, DS) and , (11)

South Carolina

" Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of

battle. "

social goals

Can anyone give me some ideas for social goals for a 3rd grade girl? In

the past, we have never implemented Circle of Friends because

always had peers to eat lunch with and play on the playground with.

This was usually facilited early in the year by the RSP (young and

dynamic) hanging out at the lunch area, making sure was wtih

peers, mediating the problem at the jumprope ( didnt' want to

jump, just turn the rope, but that irritated one little girl.......

first you jump, then you turn, then you get in line.........), etc.

That isn't going to happen this year. The new RSP is swimming upstream

to try and get caught up, and doens't have time to hang out in the

eating area. Although we are happy that the aide doesn't hover over

at lunch, she does not appear interested in facilitating peer

interactions, which we have always stressed as very important. I am

more aware of this because I am now a subsitiute yard duty, and can see

what goes on. Today, Elizaeth got her lunch and took her food to an

empty table and sat. The aide was not around, actually out on the

playground talking to another student. I saw a family friend (a 2nd

grader) sitting nearby and asked " could eat with you today? "

Sure was the answer (of course), and I asked is she wanted to

eat with and she did. So, I quickly moved her over, and walked

away. I don't think the aide noticed either (her sitting alone, or me

moving her) since she was far away. (yet another issue, I know).

So, what I would like is her her to eat with other 3rd graders,

preferably girls she knows. She has a number of girls she used to

eat/play with, so I don't know why the aide doesnt' steer her in that

direction. One problem might be is that she goes directly from resource

to lunch, so perhaps she isnt' ended up in the lunch line with her

friends..... she's either too early, or too late. I don't know that

notices when she's alone and feels bad, but she really stands

out (which I'd like to avoid.) Plus, she really likes being with other

kids. In 1st grade the inclusion specialist wanted her to choose a

lunch buddy each day, but this required her to ask the other person

" would you like to sit with me at lunch today " , and she wasn't really

into that pressure :-)

Can a lunch plan be set up without writing IEP goals? TIA

, mom to (10), (8 DS), and Sammy (7)

[Guest guest]

You can also 'amend' the IEP. When we've done that, you have a meeting but the

only thing you have to discuss is what you are adding or changing. Of course,

it would be nice if they would do it w/o an IEP.

Shirley

[Guest guest]

Have you considered other extracurricular activities for social

development?

After-school activities? Library programs? Town recreational

sports? Scouts? 4-H? YWCA? Boys & Girls Clubs? Church groups?

There are lots of things you can do outside the IEP. We found that

most of the volunteer leaders in these activities were excellent

with our son and peer supports evolved naturally. Then the same

peers with whom he was active after school were the ones with whom

he ate his lunch.

If the after-school activity is sponsored by the school, then you

can include it in the IEP. The IDEA does include school-sponsored

extracurricular activities.

Under the new regulations, changes to the IEP may be easier than

before. Check the status of the new regulations in your state.

They may now allow this type of change without a meeting of the team.

>

> Can anyone give me some ideas for social goals for a 3rd grade

girl? In

> the past, we have never implemented Circle of Friends because

> always had peers to eat lunch with and play on the playground

with.

> This was usually facilited early in the year by the RSP (young and

> dynamic) hanging out at the lunch area, making sure was

wtih

> peers, mediating the problem at the jumprope ( didnt'

want to

> jump, just turn the rope, but that irritated one little

girl.......

> first you jump, then you turn, then you get in line.........),

etc.

> That isn't going to happen this year. The new RSP is swimming

upstream

> to try and get caught up, and doens't have time to hang out in the

> eating area. Although we are happy that the aide doesn't hover

over

> at lunch, she does not appear interested in facilitating

peer

> interactions, which we have always stressed as very important. I

am

> more aware of this because I am now a subsitiute yard duty, and

can see

> what goes on. Today, Elizaeth got her lunch and took her food to

an

> empty table and sat. The aide was not around, actually out on the

> playground talking to another student. I saw a family friend (a

2nd

> grader) sitting nearby and asked " could eat with you

today? "

> Sure was the answer (of course), and I asked is she

wanted to

> eat with and she did. So, I quickly moved her over, and

walked

> away. I don't think the aide noticed either (her sitting alone,

or me

> moving her) since she was far away. (yet another issue, I know).

>

> So, what I would like is her her to eat with other 3rd graders,

> preferably girls she knows. She has a number of girls she used to

> eat/play with, so I don't know why the aide doesnt' steer her in

that

> direction. One problem might be is that she goes directly from

resource

> to lunch, so perhaps she isnt' ended up in the lunch line with her

> friends..... she's either too early, or too late. I don't know

that

> notices when she's alone and feels bad, but she really

stands

> out (which I'd like to avoid.) Plus, she really likes being with

other

> kids. In 1st grade the inclusion specialist wanted her to choose

a

> lunch buddy each day, but this required her to ask the other

person

> " would you like to sit with me at lunch today " , and she wasn't

really

> into that pressure :-)

>

> Can a lunch plan be set up without writing IEP goals? TIA

>

> , mom to (10), (8 DS), and Sammy (7)

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