Guest guest Posted August 25, 2005 Report Share Posted August 25, 2005 I think my short answer to this thread was going to be the grass always looks greener on the other side. I try not to but we all compare our kids. We don't always see our kids " properly " as we are so close to them. And we always see what they /aren't/ doing. Our emotions are tied into our kids and wonder how the other kid can do that........ we forget that the other parent has spent the last 3 years ( for example) working really hard on that with their kids. We as outsiders just see the outside............we don't see the other parents emotional angst............... One thing I really do adore about having a DS child is that the 2 younger ones are very affectionate and don't mind me hugging and kissing them - well yet anyhow Again I hope I Am making sense > > >In a message dated 8/24/2005 8:33:03 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, >wineandthunder@... writes: > >I read all the posts and see just how developmentally >delayed (7DS) is. S > -- Aussie Leis- mum to BJ - Nearly 8yrs - Oh my Gosh!!, Natasha 3.5 - my precious lil princess who can speak the legs off a chair and a table and 22 months - lil hellion on 2 legs- but with gorgeous smile " There is never a cloud the sun doesn't shine through " Helen Steiner Rice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2005 Report Share Posted August 26, 2005 My Nic wasn't fully potty trained until 7 also. All kids are different, chin up Heidi! Di RE: severe delay Micah is almost 5 and is not potty trained and is giving me a real run for my money. My Nic wasn't fully potty trained until 7 and he still wears a pull up to bed at night - he's 10. So, you're not alone! Sandy Love Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2005 Report Share Posted August 26, 2005 My Nic wasn't fully potty trained until 7 also. All kids are different, chin up Heidi! Di RE: severe delay Micah is almost 5 and is not potty trained and is giving me a real run for my money. My Nic wasn't fully potty trained until 7 and he still wears a pull up to bed at night - he's 10. So, you're not alone! Sandy Love Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2005 Report Share Posted August 26, 2005 Great advice, Roni----Compare him/her to themselves rather than someone else. Well said. Di Re: severe delay Heidi, When I read how well Ciarra was doing, while I was happy for her it was discouraging for me when I compare where is. Our son (eight and a half) is no where near Ciarra's level. I think it is important to remember that each child is their own individual. Our children will progress at their own rates. I think it is important to be able to share our children's victories and struggles, especially here on this forum. No one else understands how hard we work just so they can attain what other parents take for granted and other children learn with ease. Try not to compare your child with where anyone else's child is at, even other children with Down syndrome. It's hard sometimes. When was about five or six and all his age mates were leaving him behind in dust and making it very clear to us how delayed he truly was, it was really a struggle. I started comparing just to himself. Yesterday he could only do this, now he is learning this! Focusing on finding the things in that are his strengths helped me. Rejoicing in the joy that he brings to others as he touches their lives. has his own path to cut in this world, and it will be different from anyone elses. I think it helps to know realistically where your child is at, make small attainable goals broken down into even smaller steps with information and procedures how to achieve them, work on finding ways to help your child make these small steps of success, and celebrating every victory along the way no matter how small or insignificant it may appear to other people. Blessings, Roni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 26, 2005 Report Share Posted August 26, 2005 Great advice, Roni----Compare him/her to themselves rather than someone else. Well said. Di Re: severe delay Heidi, When I read how well Ciarra was doing, while I was happy for her it was discouraging for me when I compare where is. Our son (eight and a half) is no where near Ciarra's level. I think it is important to remember that each child is their own individual. Our children will progress at their own rates. I think it is important to be able to share our children's victories and struggles, especially here on this forum. No one else understands how hard we work just so they can attain what other parents take for granted and other children learn with ease. Try not to compare your child with where anyone else's child is at, even other children with Down syndrome. It's hard sometimes. When was about five or six and all his age mates were leaving him behind in dust and making it very clear to us how delayed he truly was, it was really a struggle. I started comparing just to himself. Yesterday he could only do this, now he is learning this! Focusing on finding the things in that are his strengths helped me. Rejoicing in the joy that he brings to others as he touches their lives. has his own path to cut in this world, and it will be different from anyone elses. I think it helps to know realistically where your child is at, make small attainable goals broken down into even smaller steps with information and procedures how to achieve them, work on finding ways to help your child make these small steps of success, and celebrating every victory along the way no matter how small or insignificant it may appear to other people. Blessings, Roni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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