kind of dilemma

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Ok Im just wondering if this is just the way Sydnie is or if Im right by what Im

thinking.....

Ok you guys know the whole dance story....and then we went to another

studio...well Sydnie's best friend hasnt done so well, she doesnt want to go, I

think the asst is an issue by the things she says...if you dont dance you cant

come back or somthing like that...she's young. Well about 3 weeks ago they

were in dance and Chloe starts crying...well she had fallen earlier so her mom

thought it may be her leg or whatever. So after standing outside on the side

walk and Chloe still crying she went in and got her. Come to find out Sydnie

supposedly taken Chloe's hair bow out (squeeze kind, alligator clip bow) well

some how Miss Kim thought that it was Sydnie's and put it back in her

hair....Chloe had complete melt down!!!!!!!!! It seems like she eventually went

back in and finished the class. The next week Chloe didnt want her mom to leave

(they are together 90% of the time) So where I would be like no go on as Im

backing out the door lol......her mom cant always do that. (her mom and I are

very good friends) So the more her mom tried to get her to go dance the harder

she cried, so she took her outside and then ended up leaving.

Easter break was last week and Chloe isnt going back tonight. So here is the

thing.....through conversation....I have come to realize that yes...for some

reason she doesnt want to go back. Sydnie and Chloe still play together and ask

for each AND we live in the same neighborhood. Her parents have been here since

Sydnie was maybe a year old and Chloe wasnt even born yet. Eventually other

things came out such as them being different in the way they play....Sydnie is

indeed more 'aggressive' in a playful way and Chloe isnt used to that when she's

home by herself of course. We wrestle and she is around boys and Chloe isnt.

She had brought up that (not in a mean way) that sometimes its hard when Chloe

gets feelings hurt....Im like WHAT?? What is going on? Well what it boils down

to is the smacking back and forth....ok they are 3 and 4. Yes Sydnie might take

her bow out.....or smack at her to play....that may be our fault but she has

never done it in a hurtful way. Ive not seen this smacking thing very often but

can figure out what she is calling 'smacking'. Rough housing basicly...I mean

not her face or anything but maybe her hands or whatever....toy..whatever. Its

not like Chloe doesnt take things from Sydnie...hello they are 3 and 4!!! Its

just hard for me, because I assured her that I would not let her out of my

sight...she said I was afraid it would be like this....I told her I was not at

all mad, but felt better if I could watch her....(they go in Chloe's room or

Syds room and play often...or watch a movie.

Here is one of my questions.....when you guys tell your kids to not do

something, do you not have to tell them the same thing a bit later. Or " what

did I say? " If i move toward her she will move from what I told her not to

do....but if I say something to her...she's like noooooo (in that pitiful

voice)....so does your kids listen to you.....or do you have to repeat things to

them....I mean this is a child that has good receptive...its not like she doesnt

understand.....but a part of me has been so used to telling her, spanking, time

out whatever....yet telling her again.....or removing her from whatever...only

to have to tell her again at a different time. Im used to this..... Im used to

having a conversation and holding her down from getting up and running around

somewhere.....I mean I can man handle and still hold a conversation ...which is

quite amusing. You know how some parents...yes with mostly typical kids you

hear.....all I have to do is look at mine and they know. Well good for

you....doesnt always work here. I could wear her out and she wouldnt care...but

time out kills her. So tell me your situation...experience or whatever....I mean

these girls loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeee each other....but at this point its too much for

me to worry that Sydnie isnt playing like Chloe is used to....they have been

friends all this time....and realllllllllllllly close in the last year or

so....so she should be.......I mean this is someone that cant do this or that

because " chloe wont go to sleep without me rocking or whatever " or her husband

having to bring her to the Uniform Shop she owns because she wanted her mama!

What??? You'll wait until she gets home! That is too daddy's fault for not

being able to deal....but you see the pattern. Preschool starting out was a

nightmare but she has done fine...she wanted to stay here one night after dance

and she did after her mom said she wouldnt stay...never mentioned her mom...so I

think her being 's only one I have to understand because I dont want

Sydnie being hurt either...understand? As told me last night she loved

me and our whole family...and this I know to be true. I love them!

Im just trying to figure out if Im being passive with her.....which I cant

imagine she gets more spankings in an average day than anyone I know. lol

~Angie

mom to Sydnie (5/26/00) and Saylor (4/30/04)

May God Bless You As He Has Us

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