Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves calling people " pet names " . Sometimes they are wonderful, but a lot of the time they are awful. Lately I have been called " Arm Pit " several times a day : ( Before that it was " Meat Loaf " or " Cat Poop " . For several weeks he was fond of saying, " You LAWYER! " . People who weren't lawyers got a kick out of that one because he made it sound like it was an insult. The first time he met his asst. principal, he called her " Squamy Face " Oh, my son, he does have a sense of humor. Jodi mom to Kellen 14 with DS and Heidi 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves calling people " pet names " . Sometimes they are wonderful, but a lot of the time they are awful. Lately I have been called " Arm Pit " several times a day : ( Before that it was " Meat Loaf " or " Cat Poop " . For several weeks he was fond of saying, " You LAWYER! " . People who weren't lawyers got a kick out of that one because he made it sound like it was an insult. The first time he met his asst. principal, he called her " Squamy Face " Oh, my son, he does have a sense of humor. Jodi mom to Kellen 14 with DS and Heidi 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Oh, I forgot to mention his " Wicked Queen " stage. He absolutely loves the movie, Snow White. He went through a stage where he would call people Wicked Queen. Now THAT was embarrassing, especially one day when he called a man in a restaurant that. Jodi > > Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't > so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves > calling people " pet names " . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Oh, I forgot to mention his " Wicked Queen " stage. He absolutely loves the movie, Snow White. He went through a stage where he would call people Wicked Queen. Now THAT was embarrassing, especially one day when he called a man in a restaurant that. Jodi > > Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't > so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves > calling people " pet names " . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 I knew the mother of one little boy who had DS and was also quite deaf. So his speech wasn't gr eat. His mother said there were times that was a good thing. Usually she was the only one who knew what he said. ONe time he cussed at a doctor and she said that was one of those times. I guess there are advantages. Jessie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 I knew the mother of one little boy who had DS and was also quite deaf. So his speech wasn't gr eat. His mother said there were times that was a good thing. Usually she was the only one who knew what he said. ONe time he cussed at a doctor and she said that was one of those times. I guess there are advantages. Jessie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 wow - so glad i haven't had that problem - one benefit of being virtually 'non-verbal'. Trent use to a few years back for attention - at home, occasionally on his school bus and at the cricket club. Out of the blue just yell 'buck shit' now replace the b with an f and you know what he was saying. He would get the attention he wanted as everyone would react by telling him that wasn't a nice thing to say. Fortunately he has grown out of doing that, and I will keep my fingers crossed that it doesn't return. Keep smiling all - Jan, mother of Trent 20yo w/Ds from the Land DownUnder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 wow - so glad i haven't had that problem - one benefit of being virtually 'non-verbal'. Trent use to a few years back for attention - at home, occasionally on his school bus and at the cricket club. Out of the blue just yell 'buck shit' now replace the b with an f and you know what he was saying. He would get the attention he wanted as everyone would react by telling him that wasn't a nice thing to say. Fortunately he has grown out of doing that, and I will keep my fingers crossed that it doesn't return. Keep smiling all - Jan, mother of Trent 20yo w/Ds from the Land DownUnder Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2005 Report Share Posted March 6, 2005 well that's not to bad my son loves to say punk a-- thanks to my fiance who loves to call me that and he also loves to say no to everything even if he wants what im asking him.... trying him to just say punk sometimes it works and he cannot say the word frog without people thinking he saying the f word lol .... Angel,mom to 4,3 girls, ( 13 ADHD) ( 11) (ia 6 1/2 mths)1 boy ,( ie 7 1/2 DS) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2005 Report Share Posted March 6, 2005 well that's not to bad my son loves to say punk a-- thanks to my fiance who loves to call me that and he also loves to say no to everything even if he wants what im asking him.... trying him to just say punk sometimes it works and he cannot say the word frog without people thinking he saying the f word lol .... Angel,mom to 4,3 girls, ( 13 ADHD) ( 11) (ia 6 1/2 mths)1 boy ,( ie 7 1/2 DS) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2005 Report Share Posted March 6, 2005 The only pet name Caty has is Princess. She'll call me that, a classmate or even her male teacher. From: reimeroo Sent: Saturday, March 05, 2005 7:25 PM Subject: Re: Word fixation Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves calling people " pet names " . Sometimes they are wonderful, but a lot of the time they are awful. Lately I have been called " Arm Pit " several times a day : ( Before that it was " Meat Loaf " or " Cat Poop " . For several weeks he was fond of saying, " You LAWYER! " . People who weren't lawyers got a kick out of that one because he made it sound like it was an insult. The first time he met his asst. principal, he called her " Squamy Face " Oh, my son, he does have a sense of humor. Jodi mom to Kellen 14 with DS and Heidi 17 Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2005 Report Share Posted March 6, 2005 The only pet name Caty has is Princess. She'll call me that, a classmate or even her male teacher. From: reimeroo Sent: Saturday, March 05, 2005 7:25 PM Subject: Re: Word fixation Wow, I feel sooo much better after reading this thread. Kellen isn't so much fixated on individual words as he is " pet names " . He loves calling people " pet names " . Sometimes they are wonderful, but a lot of the time they are awful. Lately I have been called " Arm Pit " several times a day : ( Before that it was " Meat Loaf " or " Cat Poop " . For several weeks he was fond of saying, " You LAWYER! " . People who weren't lawyers got a kick out of that one because he made it sound like it was an insult. The first time he met his asst. principal, he called her " Squamy Face " Oh, my son, he does have a sense of humor. Jodi mom to Kellen 14 with DS and Heidi 17 Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 Marcia, The school is contributing to his behavior - they are negatively reinforcing him each time they call you. The need to consult with a behaviorist. Ignore, ignore, ignore and redirect, redirect, redirect. This will take time (about as long as he's been saying it). Then praise all the time when he's not using that word. isn't fixated on any words - but he will occasionally call someone a dork, geek or loser. That is really age appropriate and I downplay it. I wonder if his NDA peers are punished like he is if they use it. While isn't fixated on a word, if I don't ask him how was school - he acts out. He then tells me about his day and I can understand alot of what he is conveying. .. Word fixation > > Hi - I was wondering if anyone has had an issue with their children picking > up a word (like stupid) and constantly using it...my son has started > using the word " stupid " and nothing seems to be working to get him to > stop...we have tried ignoring, rediecting, timeout, soap and loss of > priviledges...nothing seems to be working...the main issue is his school > they are not able to deal with this issue and have gone to calling me daily > over the last week wanting me to talk to to make it go away...he is > mainstreamed with a para... > > Thanks, > Marcia > > (7yo tomorrow) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 Marcia, The school is contributing to his behavior - they are negatively reinforcing him each time they call you. The need to consult with a behaviorist. Ignore, ignore, ignore and redirect, redirect, redirect. This will take time (about as long as he's been saying it). Then praise all the time when he's not using that word. isn't fixated on any words - but he will occasionally call someone a dork, geek or loser. That is really age appropriate and I downplay it. I wonder if his NDA peers are punished like he is if they use it. While isn't fixated on a word, if I don't ask him how was school - he acts out. He then tells me about his day and I can understand alot of what he is conveying. .. Word fixation > > Hi - I was wondering if anyone has had an issue with their children picking > up a word (like stupid) and constantly using it...my son has started > using the word " stupid " and nothing seems to be working to get him to > stop...we have tried ignoring, rediecting, timeout, soap and loss of > priviledges...nothing seems to be working...the main issue is his school > they are not able to deal with this issue and have gone to calling me daily > over the last week wanting me to talk to to make it go away...he is > mainstreamed with a para... > > Thanks, > Marcia > > (7yo tomorrow) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 sue wrote: " That is really age appropriate and I downplay it. I wonder if his NDA peers are punished like he is if they use it. " I have often wondered the same thing, are the schools keeping our kids under a microscope when it comes to behaviors and learning while looking at typically developing kids with much less scrutiny? If so, how do we deal with this? I have decided that when we do Nick's IEP this time I am going to request that any time Nick receives a demerit (for unacceptable behavior) I receive a report outlining exactly what lead up to the action requiring a demerit, if any attempts at redirection were given before giving it and how discipline was handled with Nick at the time. I want to determine how to handle these problems most effectively. Nick's special ed teacher has commented that he has questions as to the alleged behavior happening or an action of Nick's being misinterpreted by either another student (who tells the teacher that issues the demerit) or by the teacher. Cari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 sue wrote: " That is really age appropriate and I downplay it. I wonder if his NDA peers are punished like he is if they use it. " I have often wondered the same thing, are the schools keeping our kids under a microscope when it comes to behaviors and learning while looking at typically developing kids with much less scrutiny? If so, how do we deal with this? I have decided that when we do Nick's IEP this time I am going to request that any time Nick receives a demerit (for unacceptable behavior) I receive a report outlining exactly what lead up to the action requiring a demerit, if any attempts at redirection were given before giving it and how discipline was handled with Nick at the time. I want to determine how to handle these problems most effectively. Nick's special ed teacher has commented that he has questions as to the alleged behavior happening or an action of Nick's being misinterpreted by either another student (who tells the teacher that issues the demerit) or by the teacher. Cari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 Re: Word fixation I have often wondered the same thing, are the schools keeping our kids under a microscope when it comes to behaviors and learning while looking at typically developing kids with much less scrutiny? If so, how do we deal with this? I have often thought that our kids are definitely under a microscope, especially when in inclusion. When was fully included, there were several times that her behavior was highlighted, and her punishment was more intense than the nda child. I often asked the teacher if they called the parent of the nda child and told their parents about this behavior. The answer was usually " No " . At our current school, when is in special areas, I still feel her behavior is highlighted too much by the gened teachers, and they are too quick, in my opinion to send her back to her classroom, rather than handling the issue. Sharon H. Mom to , (13, DS) and , (9) South Carolina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2005 Report Share Posted March 7, 2005 Re: Word fixation I have often wondered the same thing, are the schools keeping our kids under a microscope when it comes to behaviors and learning while looking at typically developing kids with much less scrutiny? If so, how do we deal with this? I have often thought that our kids are definitely under a microscope, especially when in inclusion. When was fully included, there were several times that her behavior was highlighted, and her punishment was more intense than the nda child. I often asked the teacher if they called the parent of the nda child and told their parents about this behavior. The answer was usually " No " . At our current school, when is in special areas, I still feel her behavior is highlighted too much by the gened teachers, and they are too quick, in my opinion to send her back to her classroom, rather than handling the issue. Sharon H. Mom to , (13, DS) and , (9) South Carolina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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