Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Hi I wanted to touch base and share that the 's survived Thanksgiving. The day the girls and I left for the holiday I came down with the worst migraine I have ever had. My baby sister rescued me with an Imitrex in Nashville lol she was afraid I would not travel further to Cincinnati lol this had to be the toughest situation I have ever been in, first celebrating without my mom and then the terrible friction with my middle sister. See I received my letter from my sister a week or so before my trip and she shared with me that she really has only tolerated me for years and admitted she has shown signs of meanness and rudeness, something she would work on. One paragraph in a 3-page letter (by the way it was single spaced, size 8 font lol) was all about my shortcomings and the rest of the 3-page letter was about Sara. I am sadden to say SHE IS NUTS lol it's taken me 2 weeks to get over this letter and I can now laugh a bit. She shared with me that she would watch her daughter like a hawk around Sara because she feels Sara might cause serious harm to her daughter because of her MR. Mind you we are talking about her Rambunctious 6 year old daughter who was sporting a cast at the age of 2... she thought she could fly couch to couch :/ She said her daughter for the past 3 years has come home with bumps bruises, scratches and scrapes all caused by my daughter. My family (kids, hubby and in-laws) were floored that she could write these things to me, especially knowing how rowdy her own daughter is. The last paragraph of her letter basically said it all, she does not see us as ever being close, well she said exactly " I see our kids grown and gone before we ever have any closeness " and she said for me not to worry over the holidays because she will say little to nothing to me and she kept her promise lol she said little to nothing to me over Thanksgiving. I bailed for home on Friday, Wedn. night and Thurs. was pushing it all ready lol I tried, I was denied and I will move on without her. Sara is surround by people who love her; respect her, and who aren't afraid of her, to have to spend any time with someone who is not friendly. Ironically when Sara had one of her Neuro appts. this year a psych consulted with me about Sara. I asked about any dangers Sara might pose and he assured me Sara was as dangerous as any other young child, I assumed he meant at a kinder level or something. The year is almost over and Christmas will be spent at home. My baby sister might come to town and my brother has already reserved his room here heehee both understand the family get-togethers will be different than years passed. Thank you all so much for the support you all have shown me, I guessed I lived in rainbowland and thought siblings had to be soooooooo close to exist. I have found out recently that this situation I am in is very common in families, I just never thought it would happen in mine. Hey thank you again for the late night chat when I received my letter, couldn't have put this in the right perspective without you Kathy mom to Sara 13 ................ birthday next post ¸...¸ ___/ /\ \___ ¸...¸ ,·´º o`·, /__/ _/\_ \__\ ,·´º o`·, ```)¨(´´´ | | | | | | | | | ```)¨(´´´ ¸,.-·²°´ ¸,.-·~·~·-.,¸ `°²·-.¸ As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Josh. 24:15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Hello b4alltoday, Tuesday, November 30, 2004, 5:52:10 PM, you wrote: > Hey thank you again for > the late night chat when I received my letter, you should thank me i had to put up with no charged phones the next morning! -- Best regards, Tim mailto:tcasten@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Hello b4alltoday, Tuesday, November 30, 2004, 5:52:10 PM, you wrote: > Thank you all so much for the support you all have shown me, I guessed I > lived in rainbowland your welcome and yes you do! -- Best regards, Tim mailto:tcasten@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Hello b4alltoday, Tuesday, November 30, 2004, 5:52:10 PM, you wrote: > Thank you all so much for the support you all have shown me, I guessed I > lived in rainbowland your welcome and yes you do! -- Best regards, Tim mailto:tcasten@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Thank you all so much for the support you all have shown me, I guessed I lived in rainbowland and thought siblings had to be soooooooo close to exist. I have found out recently that this situation I am in is very common in families, I just never thought it would happen in mine. Hey thank you again for the late night chat when I received my letter, couldn't have put this in the right perspective without you HAPPY BIRTHDAY SARA!!!!! Kathy - the death of a parent can really divide families or make that division very obvious. Our siblings actions (or in my case inaction) is not our fault or responsibility. Let them live in lalaland - we can only hope they wake up from their dream world. And if you look back, their behavior didn't begin at the time of a parent's passing. Of my three sisters, I'm very close to one - she will be here at Christmas. My youngest sister has never called me - but we do email each other and I call her about once a year. I ran into her a few months ago when I was leaving the nursing home my grandmother is in (and she was coming in to see her). She called me on Thanksgiving - the first time ever and it really made my day. I love her kids so much and I know she loves dearly. The oldest one, well that is a completely different story. She and my closest sister work in the same building and she can't make time to meet her for lunch (they did recently have lunch - something they should be doing on a regular basis) and was not there to support Joni when she was going through a divorce. Joni tries, but always hears about my sister's world and never is asked about her own. I don't recall anytime my older sister just popped in to see Joni at work. Joni would faint if that happened. This is the same sister who never responded to my emails about 's seizures when they began - never called - nothing. Joni and I have found humor gets us through the hurt - and believe me, we can kill some phone batteries doing so! LOL. Hang in there girlfriend - I'm always here for you. --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.802 / Virus Database: 545 - Release Date: 11/26/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2004 Report Share Posted November 30, 2004 Thank you all so much for the support you all have shown me, I guessed I lived in rainbowland and thought siblings had to be soooooooo close to exist. I have found out recently that this situation I am in is very common in families, I just never thought it would happen in mine. Hey thank you again for the late night chat when I received my letter, couldn't have put this in the right perspective without you HAPPY BIRTHDAY SARA!!!!! Kathy - the death of a parent can really divide families or make that division very obvious. Our siblings actions (or in my case inaction) is not our fault or responsibility. Let them live in lalaland - we can only hope they wake up from their dream world. And if you look back, their behavior didn't begin at the time of a parent's passing. Of my three sisters, I'm very close to one - she will be here at Christmas. My youngest sister has never called me - but we do email each other and I call her about once a year. I ran into her a few months ago when I was leaving the nursing home my grandmother is in (and she was coming in to see her). She called me on Thanksgiving - the first time ever and it really made my day. I love her kids so much and I know she loves dearly. The oldest one, well that is a completely different story. She and my closest sister work in the same building and she can't make time to meet her for lunch (they did recently have lunch - something they should be doing on a regular basis) and was not there to support Joni when she was going through a divorce. Joni tries, but always hears about my sister's world and never is asked about her own. I don't recall anytime my older sister just popped in to see Joni at work. Joni would faint if that happened. This is the same sister who never responded to my emails about 's seizures when they began - never called - nothing. Joni and I have found humor gets us through the hurt - and believe me, we can kill some phone batteries doing so! LOL. Hang in there girlfriend - I'm always here for you. --- Outgoing mail is certified Virus Free. Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). Version: 6.0.802 / Virus Database: 545 - Release Date: 11/26/2004 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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