Re: looking for Solomon like wisdom

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In a message dated 4/21/2004 2:50:42 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

aewbaw58@... writes:

> Here's my question: Our daughter is getting assigned to a teacher next

> year who (so we've been told) screams a lot. This is exactly opposite of her

> teacher this year. is doing really well this year and most certainly

> doesn't handle being screamed at well. It also is terribly hard on her ears,

> which she has problems with and gets easily agitated by loud noise.

>

I would just come out and say that she has a sensory issue and will start to

shut down if there is excess noise in the classroom.

Sometimes kids are a lot more flexible then we think. Liam has had two

different teachers this year, both very strict but with two distinct styles.

With

Ms. Alyssa, there was a stern look, brows furrowed to express her displeasure.

Liam mimicks well so I get a stern look whenever he's displeased with me.

Now Ms. Lori puts her hands on her hips. So when he gets really annoyed its

all I can do to keep from laughing when he puts his little hands on his hips and

gives me a stern look!

Kathy, Liam's mom( 6)

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Not to doubt what you heard as being true....but I would be very careful of who

is telling you this information about a teacher. Every year I listen to

paranoid parents after class lists come out saying, " oh, you don't want that

teacher, or she doesn't like boys, or she gives alot of homework, or even she

yells alot. " My son got assigned one of these teachers who was accused of

yelling alot and I never ever had a issue with her and my son loved her. I

would just make sure your sources are reliable before you upset any apple carts.

JMHO from my own experiences

Jackie, Mom to 16ds, 13, and Bradley 10

> Folks,

>

> Here's my question: Our daughter is getting assigned to a teacher next year

who

> (so we've been told) screams a lot. This is exactly opposite of her teacher

> this year. is doing really well this year and most certainly doesn't

> handle being screamed at well. It also is terribly hard on her ears, which

she

> has problems with and gets easily agitated by loud noise.

>

> We are the dp parents and we're very aware of that and have tried hard to be

> good, quiet, volunteer oriented parents. I don't want to aggravate the

> administrators (who I like) by giving them the impression I don't think they

did

> the right thing with their choice for , but I really don't think it's the

> right choice.

>

> Help! Anybody out there from the State Dept?

>

> Eleanor

>

>

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I have been told by my IEP team that teacher/placement is a team

decision, which SUGGESTS to me that my input is a valid as any other

team members. In the past, I have asked various people about who they

thought would be best for , in terms of noise in the classroom,

structure, routine, flexibility of teaching style, etc. Then, I decided

(based on all the input from professionals) who I thought would be the

best fit, and so far, it seems to be working. That said, I was very

against the person who was assigned to be her aide this year (she was a

" mean " yard duty for many years at the school), but I agreed (since it

was the day before school started) to give her a chance, with an

opportunity to discuss it in two weeks. Well, it turns out, this person

is fantastic with , strict when necessary (which comes in handy

at the recess/classroom transition), but the kindest, most caring,

determined person I've met in a long time. She gets more out of

at school than anyone (including both teachers), and

LOVES her. So, had I had more time at the beginning of the year, I

would not have choosen this person, but I have already requested that

they be together again next year. Sometimes people are different then

they are presented by others, as I have certainly found out this year.

It was funny because yesterday, when I was asking about how our new

principal was going to handle " requests " for teachers, 's

teacher looked at me and said..... " you don't have to request to the

principal...... you will get who you want " I said that was great for

, but actually I was asking about my youngest daugheter, who

would be starting kindergarten next year :-) Since she doesn't have an

IEP, she'll just have to take the luck of the draw, just like my oldest!

, mom to (8), (6 DS), and (4)

albert warsinsky wrote:

>Folks,

>

>Here's my question: Our daughter is getting assigned to a teacher next year

who (so we've been told) screams a lot. This is exactly opposite of her teacher

this year. is doing really well this year and most certainly doesn't

handle being screamed at well. It also is terribly hard on her ears, which she

has problems with and gets easily agitated by loud noise.

>

>We are the dp parents and we're very aware of that and have tried hard to be

good, quiet, volunteer oriented parents. I don't want to aggravate the

administrators (who I like) by giving them the impression I don't think they did

the right thing with their choice for , but I really don't think it's the

right choice.

>

>Help! Anybody out there from the State Dept?

>

>Eleanor

>

>

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I would meet with the principal and explain what you think 's needs are

and " brainstorm " with her the qualities and choices that you have. We have

also, in the past, had written into the IEP that all staff working with him

will have Positive behavior management training.

We had a yeller one year and his aide joined it and it was horrid. NOT what

Mav (or ANY child) needed!

M.

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Thank you for giving all of us a teacher's insight on this...... I have

always wondered exactly how classes were made up. Also, I think it is

an excellent point about people's opinions about a teacher..... often I

have found that a parent's opinion about a teacher is based primarily on

the relationship their student has with the teacher. This year has been

particularly striking for me, since I love my oldest daugher's teacher.

This teacher has had some serious health problems this year, and I think

she's a little more disorganized than in past years, but for my

daughter, who is responsible, kind, a very good student, and not

disruptive in class, we've had few issues. For one of my good friends,

who has a child in the same class, she has the opposite opinion..... she

thinks the teacher is awful and has considered asking to switch

teachers. Her child, however, is frequently talking, does not pay

attention to directions, does not do her work in class (and hence has

extra homework), doesn't remember to bring things home, etc. This has

given me a new perspective on the " opinions " I hear around school, even

from someone I know and consider a reliable source. Just my 2 cents.

, mom to (8), (6 DS), and (4)

McGaffin wrote:

>If you have specific

> concerns, now would be the time to state them, but it would be best if you

made sure your concerns were well founded and not just one person's opinion. I

can tell you that some of my students would say that I am there favorite

teacher, and some would say that I am mean. If you tell a student to stop

talking and sit down, they may go home and say that you screamed at them- so do

realize that it is not always as bad as some students make it out to be.

>

>

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In a message dated 4/23/04 3:14:13 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

writes:

> Thank you for giving all of us a teacher's insight on this...... I have

> always wondered exactly how classes were made up.

The teacher's words were very helpful, also it is important to focus on your

child's needs. Don't make it about the teacher, make it about your child. When

our almost 17 year old was approaching second grade we had to look at the

possibilities for her. All three teachers had " bad reputations " two of the

teachers were the type that stood and talked at the kids through the whole

day--both

of them had reputations of being yellers--hmmmmmmm. The third teacher was

very much a " hands-on " style, but she had been very vocal about not wanting

" those kids " in her class. Actually all three of the second grade teachers had

expressed those sentiments. All three were close to retirement and really didn't

want see any change. I called the hands-on teacher and first praised her

teaching style and spoke to her about how that style was the right one for

Sheila.

That I would very much like to see Sheila assigned to that class, however it

didn't want to do it if she (the teacher) would be totally put out by it. This

teacher ended up going out to garage sales on weekends to find games,

flashcards, anything that might help Sheila learn. She was awesome. By talking

with her

well in advance (it was February of Sheila's 1st grade year when we had this

conversation), letting her know why I felt the fit would be right and putting

her reservations out on the table and discussing them in a supportive manner;

right then we established a bond that the team was able to build on.

nancy

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In a message dated 4/24/2004 3:09:37 AM US Mountain Standard Time,

NEHolroyd@... writes:

> (it was February of Sheila's 1st grade year when we had this

> conversation)

We (the team) always start discussing the next years teacher in Januaray.

Then they are approached by the principal and they start making it a point to

stop in his classroom occassionally. By March, they are to begin attending his

Inclusion meetings so they get an idea of how he learns best, what he is

learning, and how to work with him and the team. This is the plan. It doesn't

always work that way, but that was the goal.

M.

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