Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 The good news is that Liam is potty trained, well sort of. The bad new is that he's potty trained for everyone but me. We decided to go cold turkey and do away with pull-ups. I sent into school lots of underwear and sweatpants. Nothing has come back because he's had no accidents. It's the same way when he spends time at my sister-in-law's. He comes home in the same, dry, Barney underwear that he goes to school in. When he walks in the door I take him to the potty. He refuses to go on the toilet. Ten minutes later he's wet. He uses the potty for anyone else who takes care of him. I've tried sitting with him, reading books and bribery. I've tried different potties, even though he uses a regular toilet everywhere else. Has anyone ever heard fo such a thing? I figure that in time he'll get tired of this game but right now the score is Liam 1, mommy 0. Kathy, Liam's mom( 5) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 Yes, Yes, and Yes! It took much longer to potty train than is should have after she was using the potty at school, out and about, etc. But, when Mommy told her (asked her, bribed her with a book, etc.......), she would not go on the potty. The good news is, she finally (and it was gradual, not like one day she decided that the power struggle was over), started going at home. If it was a time that she HAD to go (like we were leaving to go somewhere in the car), I would tell her it was time to get potty because we were going in the car. Invariable, she would shout " NO! " . I would then ask if she wanted to pick the easy way (she would do it herself), or the hard way (Mommy would put her on the potty). Most of the time she would choose " NO! " , so I would have to put her on the potty (and keep putting her back on the potty, because she was jumping off) until she went. I tried making it a game, tried running water, tried tickling her, whatever, because as you know, you can take a kid to the potty, but you can't make them go! I hated these " had to " times, because it was no fun for anyone, but I was tired of spending me life looking for bathrooms, once we left the house. Other than the " have to " time, I stopped asking her to go at home (pretty much ignored the subject unless she had an accident), once she decided that she was in control, she started going by herself (and not even telling me). I realized one day she wasn't at the computer, so I started looking around the house, and found her sitting on the potty, happy as a clam. It was her choice, she knew she could do it, so why did I need to be around, I guess :-) The school transition could be made easier if you asked the teacher/aide to have him go right before he comes home. Then, it won't be a power struggle first thing in the door, and he will have time to transition to home before doing one of the best control issues ever (..... you know the kids are thinking.... " Ha, she can't MAKE me go " ). Besides eating, it's the ultimate control issue for kids, and some use it more than others :-) It will happen...... you know he's capable, and once he gets the control I think he's looking for, he will be going at home and you will quickly forget this stage! Good luck, it's a tough one, but you will get through it. , mom to (8), (6 DS), and (4) P.S. Now the issue is, it doesn't matter if everyone uses the bathroom right before we leave, as soon as we sit down to eat at a restraunt, Sammie says " I need to go potty " . No one else needs to go. As soon as I get back and have two bites of food, someone else needs to go (but the third one does not need to go). Back in me seat, have a few bites, Sammie needs to go again. In the beginning, when and were newley potty trained, I was of course, very responsive. Now I realize I'm being had, so I am having to say " you need to wait a few minutes " and then try and decide how bad they need to go and how much it is a fun trip to a new bathroom. This was suggested by my DH, who had them all at dinner (alone) and didn't want to leave a table of food unattended, so he told them all to wait, and guess what....... they did. No one had an accident, it was only mentioned a couple times, and they had a nice (uninterrupted) dinner. So, the control issues have changed as they have gotten older, but we are still controlling the potty :-) Mom2lfm@... wrote: >The good news is that Liam is potty trained, well sort of. The bad new is >that he's potty trained for everyone but me. We decided to go cold turkey and >do away with pull-ups. I sent into school lots of underwear and sweatpants. >Nothing has come back because he's had no accidents. It's the same way when he >spends time at my sister-in-law's. > >He comes home in the same, dry, Barney underwear that he goes to school in. >When he walks in the door I take him to the potty. He refuses to go on the >toilet. Ten minutes later he's wet. He uses the potty for anyone else who >takes care of him. I've tried sitting with him, reading books and bribery. I've >tried different potties, even though he uses a regular toilet everywhere >else. > >Has anyone ever heard fo such a thing? I figure that in time he'll get tired >of this game but right now the score is Liam 1, mommy 0. > >Kathy, Liam's mom( 5) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 Natasha doing this now. She will wee all over my floor- bit she stays dry everywhere else. POWER STRUGGLE. Bribery- aka behavior modification- doesn't work here either So I try ( try being the operative word here) not to get mad and just make her clean up all messes, and make her put her undies and wet clothes in washing machine. IF I See she has done a wee in her undies I actually leave her in them to get all yucky and uncomfy - no not poops- just wees........I have no answers- when ya figure it out let] me know. It took us a year to train BJ- he was trained at home 3 days before Natasha was born. I was 9 months preggers ( duh obviously) and he had weed on floor like 4 times in 1 hr. I called my MIL sobbing and all upset-why is he doing this- does he hate me etc. etc. etc.- BJ saw me crying- he never did it again.........He was just over 4 at the time............ Mom2lfm@... wrote: >The good news is that Liam is potty trained, well sort of. The bad new is >that he's potty trained for everyone but me. We decided to go cold turkey and >do away with pull-ups. I sent into school lots of underwear and sweatpants. >Nothing has come back because he's had no accidents. It's the same way when he >spends time at my sister-in-law's. > >He comes home in the same, dry, Barney underwear that he goes to school in. >When he walks in the door I take him to the potty. He refuses to go on the >toilet. Ten minutes later he's wet. He uses the potty for anyone else who >takes care of him. I've tried sitting with him, reading books and bribery. I've >tried different potties, even though he uses a regular toilet everywhere >else. > >Has anyone ever heard fo such a thing? I figure that in time he'll get tired >of this game but right now the score is Liam 1, mommy 0. > >Kathy, Liam's mom( 5) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 7, 2004 Report Share Posted March 7, 2004 Bridget did this exactly. She trained for school at age 4 1/2. At home she would have accidents. I started making her change herself. I would sit in the bathroom with her and make her take off her wet shoes and socks. Then wet pants and panties. I'd help her wash and dry off, then she would re-dress. It did not take long before she realized it was easier to just go to the bath room. Good luck! Good news - bad news The good news is that Liam is potty trained, well sort of. The bad new is that he's potty trained for everyone but me. We decided to go cold turkey and do away with pull-ups. I sent into school lots of underwear and sweatpants. Nothing has come back because he's had no accidents. It's the same way when he spends time at my sister-in-law's. He comes home in the same, dry, Barney underwear that he goes to school in. When he walks in the door I take him to the potty. He refuses to go on the toilet. Ten minutes later he's wet. He uses the potty for anyone else who takes care of him. I've tried sitting with him, reading books and bribery. I've tried different potties, even though he uses a regular toilet everywhere else. Has anyone ever heard fo such a thing? I figure that in time he'll get tired of this game but right now the score is Liam 1, mommy 0. Kathy, Liam's mom( 5) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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