Guest guest Posted September 29, 2003 Report Share Posted September 29, 2003 In a message dated 9/29/2003 5:45:15 PM US Mountain Standard Time, linman42@... writes: > she is almost choosing her saturday socialization group > with the special needs teens over her youth group, because I think thats > where she feels comfortable and accepted. > > Whew, sometimes it hurts my brain when I think about these things too hard! > So STOP THINKING....and follow her lead! LOL. She needs to be where she feels comfortable, and I am willing to bet that she is going to end up with a balance of both that fits her perfectly!! !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2003 Report Share Posted September 29, 2003 In a message dated 9/29/03 9:03:09 PM Eastern Daylight Time, Michdock@... writes: > > >she is almost choosing her saturday socialization group > >with the special needs teens over her youth group, because I think thats > >where she feels comfortable and accepted. > > > >Whew, sometimes it hurts my brain when I think about these things too hard Absolutely somewhat enjoys Special Olympics soccer - not because she " identifies " with the other kids but because she feels like she's doing what ALL kids do. She's really showing her stuff in her Inclusion classes at school. has shown in the past she is resentful and shuts down when put in a class made up predominantly of disabled kids. By contrast I met a mom last month who told me that her daughter gets really anxious and upset in Inclusion - she is painfully aware that her work doesn't come close to that of her nondisabled peers and she is much more comfortable in a " life skills " classroom. Bottom line - what makes each kid happy? Once you figure it out - ADVOCATE for your child to have that right. - Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 In a message dated 9/29/2003 8:56:19 PM Eastern Daylight Time, Michdock@... writes: > I am willing to bet that she is going to end up with a > balance of both that fits her perfectly!! !! > That is the best thing ...that kids have the opportunity for each and can choose. I have a social butterfly that loves everyone and is comfortable with any group and wants to be with all .... that may change as she gets older. Right now she has the best going on, she is working with adults of all ages, she is still in a regular class at school, she is socializing with different friends. If that changes in the futures, at least she had that opportunity now. She is practicing for a TV interview this week for our Buddy Walk, with a college girls basketball coach as her interview partner, and she said, " Mom, I have a lot of friends don't I? " What a blessing inclusion has been for her to give her those friends! Cheryl in VA People with disabilities are here today to remind us that equal justice under the law is not a privilege but a fundamental birthright in America. Senator Ted Kennedy, during the Senate's passage of ADA-July 13, 1990 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2003 Report Share Posted September 30, 2003 > By contrast I met a mom last month who told me that her daughter gets really > anxious and upset in Inclusion - she is painfully aware that her work doesn't > come close to that of her nondisabled peers and she is much more comfortable > in a " life skills " classroom. > > Bottom line - what makes each kid happy? Once you figure it out - ADVOCATE > for your child to have that right. > > - Becky And there are not typical kids in a classroom who are upset because they are not at the top of the class? At the risk of starting something here :-) I think that although parents want their kids to be happy, there is a balance between knowning what makes them happy, and what they need or what is good for them. Let's face it, there are not many kids who would choose going to bed on time, doing chores, not eating too much sugar, turning off the GameBoy.........I am not saying the inclusion is for everyone, and that one way or another is the answer, but I do think that we need to look at the behavior of typical children when considering what to do with children with special needs. In our family, we try and consider 's desires the same as we would her siblings. Food for thought: If you typical child didn't want to go to school, would you keep her home? If your typical child didn't like their class because all their friends were in a different class, would you try and get her switched? If your tyipcal child didn't want to do math homework because it was hard, would you let them give up and take an easier class? If your typical child wanted to lay around and watch TV all day rather than playing, looking at books, etc., would you let her? I'm sure you get the idea.....and there are no " right " answers...... some of us would homeschool a child who didn't want to go to school.... others would say " to bad.... your have to go " . It's not to say that we should treat all kids with DS the same as their peers/siblings, but I do think that we should think about what we would do in a situation with a typical child when considering what to do with our child(ren) with DS. Sorry this is long and rambling, but had to put in my 2 cents! , mom to (almost 8!!), (5 DS), and (4) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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