Guest guest Posted August 30, 2003 Report Share Posted August 30, 2003 Wow, I'm sitting here by myself this morning, wondering what I am going to do today. Tim took to WVU for the ballgame (and to drop off a refrigerator to TJ) and will spend the night in our hometown. flew to North Carolina to see her fiance who is being deployed soon. Katey went to Richmond with her best friend who is in a beauty pageant Monday. I've never been home alone and I already miss ! He's been gone 30 minutes...lol! I am going to clean windows while he is gone. The windows are nailed shut because he kept climbing out of them and this is my only chance to get them done when he's not here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 30, 2003 Report Share Posted August 30, 2003 wow cindy, enjoy your alone time, but i know what you mean....i miss ted the minute he is gone! well cleaning should keep you busy. have a nice day gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2004 Report Share Posted February 16, 2004 In a message dated 2/16/04 6:30:41 PM Central Standard Time, writes: > You know, this subject came up a year or so ago. If I remember correctly, > it > seems to depend on where you live what they will allow. I think there were > a > couple of people on the list who got in trouble for leaving their older > teens > with ds home alone. And there were others where they said as long as the > parents felt confident that they were safe that they could leave them alone. > > You might want to check that out. > I personally feel it's just like with all our kids.... when you feel > comfortable.... you do it...you know your children and you know what you are > > comfortable letting them do. I just started leaving my child with DS who is > 13 alone > with my 17 yr old this past year. And I would only leave him with my 14 yr > old > for 30 minutes or less. I KNOW how strong willed my son is....LOL. Of > course, I would only leave him with my mother for a short while, > too....LOL!!! > > > I believe here our social services considers if the young person knows what to do in an emergency such as a fire breaking out or someone trying to get in, the power goes out, or they get hurt. They also want a young person to have someone they can call if they have questions or difficulties. I'm sure can probably add more. Karyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2004 Report Share Posted February 16, 2004 For some years, we had after school care for our kids at home. The first time we needed it because my wife was working (pre med-school) we found a wonderful woman who had lost a developmentally delayed child. She had grown kids and experience and was just wonderful. Our kids loved it on the days when she arrived on her motorcycle. That lasted a few years, but her husband passed away and eventually she remarried and went on to another life. BTW, we hired her sight unseen because the first person to respond and accept the job never showed up. Our second want ad got an aide in sped who was looking for a second job to help her make ends meet. She was young, but did a reasonable job, but she got married (no problem), but after her first kid, it fell apart. So after that our kids came home " latchkey " . They would fix themselves a snack (that was a large part of getting Jan comfortable in the kitchen). But when a young man discovered Jan was at home alone and talked himself into the living room, I had a big panic. The following day I was on the phone offering Jan as a helper in day care. That kind of thing will get you really blown off. Still one woman who had build a fairly large day care system said that she would have to think about it. When I called the next day she had a title for Jan (counsellor in training) and a supervisor who ran a program for 5-7 year olds in one of the public schools. The program was a real success and Jan stayed with it for about three years, after which I moved her into elder care (which was very spotty because it all depended on which nurses' aide she was assigned to). That worked very well with two aides who had developmentally delayed siblings and was a total bust with those who were insecure and thought that Jan might someday take their job. Now, there are definitions for " neglect " and I'm not sure you can get away with what we did. Still, the answer is that it generally works. It really all depends upon whether you are willing to take some risk and face the consequences if it falls apart. The teen years are often really good for many of our kids. They haven't developed the obstructive independence you may see later. On the other hand, if judgement is called for, it might not be there. Rick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2004 Report Share Posted February 19, 2004 In a message dated 2/19/04 8:02:58 AM Central Standard Time, writes: > This got me to wondering about what age, if ever, I will be able to leave > him for longer than 4 minutes... reading some of the responses, it never > dawned on me that I can ask Isaiah's godfather - he is an attorney. I emailed him > and I am anxious to hear his reply. > > , mom to Isaiah (almost 12, DS) and Isabel (3) > Please everyone remember, while there may be a minimum age that a child/young person can be left home alone, the really important thing is making sure that the person has the skills to be home alone. Answering the phone, dealing with people coming to the door, emergency situations (when to call 911, when not to), ... Karyn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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