Re: Question & Suggestions please

[Guest guest]

Anne, I can understand wanting to be a mom....but going through the internet

is not a good idea...at least that is my opinion. You want to be safe and

healthy and doing it this way would not be safe. I hope your boyfriend will

listen to you and think about maybe helping you to be a mom. Good luck!!

Pam

[Guest guest]

I agree with the adoption idea. You may even look into adoption from another

country. I used to be a nanny and believe me you can love a child whether

you gave birth to it or not. There are thousands of kids out there with no

home, why go through a risky pregnancy when you dont have to?? I plan on

adopting if I decide to have kids.

Colleen

[Guest guest]

At 07:19 PM 10/2/2000 -0700, you wrote:

I

have a question for anyone who would like to help me answer it. I

really want to be a Mom, and it doesn't really look like it is going to

happen the " Storybook " way... boyfriend, wedding, family,

etc.

I was thinking of

doing Donor Insemination but can't afford to do it through the

Reproductive Medicine Clinic & the cryogenic bank. So I thought

maybe I could do it by DI with someone over the internet.

I guess I am not real

trusting anymore. And I have enough problems with my current

allergies and health. I don't need to compound that by getting

something that could kill me or my child. I will already be

" Extremely

High Risk for

Pregnancy "

So I am not sure how

to do this. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!

Anne,

The first thought that would come to my mind would be

adoption, since you are a High Risk Pregnancy Risk. Sure, it

wouldn't be your baby biologically, but you could still be his/her

mom.

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[Guest guest]

Anne- I have 3 adoptedkids & couldn'tlove them more if I had given birth to

them.I often tell people I have 7 kids, 3adopted, but I forget which ones

were adopted. ne

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Subject: Re: Question & Suggestions please

Date: Tue, 3 Oct 2000 21:14:04 EDT

I agree with the adoption idea. You may even look into adoption from

another

country. I used to be a nanny and believe me you can love a child whether

you gave birth to it or not. There are thousands of kids out there with no

home, why go through a risky pregnancy when you dont have to?? I plan on

adopting if I decide to have kids.

Colleen

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[Guest guest]

TABco wrote:

At 07:19 PM 10/2/2000 -0700, you wrote:

I

have a question for anyone who would like to help me answer it. I

really want to be a Mom, and it doesn't really look like it is going to

happen the "Storybook" way... boyfriend, wedding, family, etc.

I was

thinking of doing Donor Insemination but can't afford to do it through

the Reproductive Medicine Clinic & the cryogenic bank. So I thought

maybe I could do it by DI with someone over the internet.

I guess

I am not real trusting anymore. And I have enough problems with my

current allergies and health. I don't need to compound that by getting

something that could kill me or my child. I will already be "Extremely

High Risk for Pregnancy"

So

I am not sure how to do this. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!

Anne,

The first thought that would come to my mind would

be adoption, since you are a High Risk Pregnancy Risk. Sure,

it wouldn't be your baby biologically, but you could still be his/her mom.

Unfortunately since being

an attempted homicide victim at the hands of a child, there is NO WAY I

would feel safe bringing a child into my home that I didn't know what was

up in them or their parents. And I want to carry my own child.

I am sorry I even asked

anymore, because I have gotten so many nasty messages from people that

I am tempted to not say anything about this ever again. I didn't

need the messages I got off list from multiple people... I had sent the

original message to 5 "baby lists" besides being sick. So I am not

sure where the message originated from....

I give up, I might

as well just give up totally because I swear if I hear one more time that

because I am not rich, I have NO RIGHT to be a Mom!

I thought I would get

positive suggestions from my friends, the only constant thing I have gotten,

was to make me want to cry. and kiss my dreams goodbye!

[Guest guest]

ccomm777@... wrote:

I agree with the adoption idea. You may even

look into adoption from another

country. I used to be a nanny and believe me you can love

a child whether

you gave birth to it or not. There are thousands of kids out

there with no

home, why go through a risky pregnancy when you dont have to?? I plan

on

adopting if I decide to have kids.

Colleen

I would

never feel safe bringing a child into my home that I didn't know their

family, or the things that went on during their pregnancy! There

is a really good reason behind it, and it rips my heart out, but I know

for a fact that I would NOT feel safe in my own home. I can't do

it!

Even

if I could adopt a child... no one would let me with all my allergies...

I can have my own child or NOTHING! Those are my choices!

I give

up!

[Guest guest]

susanne Sullivan wrote:

Anne- I have 3 adoptedkids & couldn'tlove them

more if I had given birth to

them.I often tell people I have 7 kids, 3adopted, but I forget which

ones

were adopted. ne

Everyone

seems to miss what I have said. I have explained many times why I

can't adopt, or do foster care. Even if I hadn't been an attempted

homicide victim, due to my allergies, being single, and whatever other

reason they seem to be able to come up with... neither the foster care

system nor an adoption agency would place a child with me, because of my

many literally life threatening allergies.

But

now after being strangled to DEATH, 3 minutes of not having a pulse, not

breathing, being purplish gray because not only was my airway cut off,

but so was both of my carotid arteries by the 2-3 foot long electrical

extension cord that was around my neck, and being pulled tighter with each

passing moment, by a child that had every intention of killing me, because

I was NICE TO HER! I was DEAD at the hands of a child!! This

child stood up in court and told everyone present that her only regret

was that she had NOT succeeded.

For

this reason, no matter the age, race, sex, etc. of a child... I do not

have a lot of trust left. I am okay with kids I know, and kids I

know the parents of. I love kids, and it just about kills me that

I have so little trust left for them, especially since most children are

innocent. But I can't change the way I feel, I can't do anything

about this. It is just a fact of life for me now.

[Guest guest]

Anne,

If I were you I would not discuss this anymore because it seems to be too

emotional for you to hear what other people are saying. There are alot of

cruel people out there that don't care what they say or do to hurt you. That

is very sad. There needs to be more compassion for everyone in this world. I

am very sorry that people are hurting you. I feel this.........Let no one

ever come to you without leaving better and happier...to children, to the

poor, to all who suffer and are lonely, give always a happy smile.

Pam