Guest guest Posted July 16, 2005 Report Share Posted July 16, 2005 > Stupidly > (there's that word again), I held the little bottle with the first > three > fingers of my left hand while I attempted to spray the perfume into > it. > Why didn't I use a funnel? Why didn't I wash my hands immediately > after I > doused those three fingers? > Anya, Are you saying the problem was you had an overdose of the perfume that would have been fine if you'd just dabbed it on in customary amounts? Thanks, e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2005 Report Share Posted July 16, 2005 At 11:35 AM 7/16/2005, you wrote: > Anya, > > Are you saying the problem was you had an overdose of the perfume >that would have been fine if you'd just dabbed it on in customary >amounts? Back to blending and safety issues -- thanks, e! Yes, I drenched my fingers -- it was dripping off. Busy bee I am, I went about my business without washing off the excess. I have applied little sprays of this same perfume to my neck with no problem. Now that my fingers are sensitized, even washing the dishes the other night (someone else usually does it), I had a flare up, minor, but annoying. Intense itching, soreness, but, thankfully, it didn't progress. It's been going on three days now, and I only have to scratch about two times a day. The dishsoap had grapefruit oil in it, so it goes to show my fingers are sensitized to anything that might set them off. Anya http://.com The premier site on the Web to discover the beauty of Natural Perfume " The Age of the Foodie is passé. It is now the Age of the Scentie. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2005 Report Share Posted August 14, 2005 Hi , No one died from kt. The FDA is not reliable in this case giving 'warnings' for which no evidence is available to support. Two women died of other causes, and the FDA saw fit to confuse people into thinking that KT is harmful or " could " be... Their own documents show that the causes of death were other things, but coincidentally the women drank KT before their deaths. They probably also drank water, ate food, breathed air, you get the picture... There are many people including myself who have been drinking KT from way before the FDA made its unfounded assertions, and we didn't slow down our KT drinking when we noticed the " evidence " the FDA had was non-existent. Please make your own decision, but I'm letting you know that a lot of people did not take the FDA claim at face value. They read the FDA documents themselves and came to a conclusion that we are very safe drinking properly made KT. Hope my opinion is worth 2 cents Vince Safety In about 1995 ,I think it was, I started making and drinking Kombucha tea. I used it for several months and then the FDA came out with that report saying it wasn't safe because two women had died. I quit immediately, but recently I have been thinking I would like to make and drink it again. I have ordered a culture, can someone reassure me on this. Are there any new findings? I have fibromyalgia and have heard it helps. Thank you very much for any help on this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 14, 2005 Report Share Posted August 14, 2005 Vince- Thanks very much for your input. I just read the FDA reports and I probably should have kept drinking it. Everyone I knew that drank it was quiting and were all scared, so I quit too. I think I'll brew up a batch. Thanks again, Vince Richter <cvincer@...> wrote:Hi , No one died from kt. The FDA is not reliable in this case giving 'warnings' for which no evidence is available to support. Two women died of other causes, and the FDA saw fit to confuse people into thinking that KT is harmful or " could " be... Their own documents show that the causes of death were other things, but coincidentally the women drank KT before their deaths. They probably also drank water, ate food, breathed air, you get the picture... There are many people including myself who have been drinking KT from way before the FDA made its unfounded assertions, and we didn't slow down our KT drinking when we noticed the " evidence " the FDA had was non-existent. Please make your own decision, but I'm letting you know that a lot of people did not take the FDA claim at face value. They read the FDA documents themselves and came to a conclusion that we are very safe drinking properly made KT. Hope my opinion is worth 2 cents Vince Safety In about 1995 ,I think it was, I started making and drinking Kombucha tea. I used it for several months and then the FDA came out with that report saying it wasn't safe because two women had died. I quit immediately, but recently I have been thinking I would like to make and drink it again. I have ordered a culture, can someone reassure me on this. Are there any new findings? I have fibromyalgia and have heard it helps. Thank you very much for any help on this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 Hi , The FDA will do everything in it's power to scare people into not taking natural products. KT and any other natural product, including Ephedra, has never killed anyone. The FDA banned Ephedra claiming it killed so many people, but in reality it was Ephedrine which is a synthetic version of Ephedra, made by the pharmaceutical companies! When I read anything that the FDA says is dangerous, I automatically continue doing it. If they say it's bad for you, then it's not. The drugs the FDA have approved have killed more people than anything, and they have scientific testing done on these drugs! I'm opposed to any drug whether it's prescription or over the counter, they will all kill you. Natural products are on this earth to heal us, not drugs. It's in the Bible. By the way, I have also read that KT is good for fibromyalgia. Judy > In about 1995 ,I think it was, I started making and drinking Kombucha > tea. I used it for several months and then the FDA came out with that > report saying it wasn't safe because two women had died. I quit > immediately, but recently I have been thinking I would like to make > and drink it again. I have ordered a culture, can someone reassure me > on this. Are there any new findings? I have fibromyalgia and have > heard it helps. Thank you very much for any help on this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 a little humor ... http://www.newstarget.com/010825.html Doctors from the University of Allopath have announced that Love is a disease. It is characterized by abnormal heart rhythms, sweating, impaired brain function <http://www.newstarget.com/000057.html> , incoherent speech patterns and loss of sleep, among other signs. Thanks to this pioneering work from researchers sponsored by the leading drug firm Pferck, researchers have learned that love is a common biochemical disorder affecting both men and women of all ages. Fortunately, it is treatable with prescription drugs. A new drug, Miserexa, combines beta blockers and antidepressants to alleviate the symptoms of Love. This drug slows the heart and helps patients feel detached from reality, counteracting the unhealthy neediness of Love. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approved the new drug this week. In a press conference, chief FDA drug approval scientist Dr. B. Fuddle said, " We are declaring war on Love, and doing everything in our power to eradicate Love from the world. " The market for Miserexa is expected to reach six billion dollars annually. " Love has reached epidemic <http://www.newstarget.com/004135.html> proportions " , explained a public relations representative of Pferk. " If we do not act immediately to thwart the spread of this disease, Love will run rampant, and we will be facing an epidemic of Love in the world. " Health researchers first became aware of the disease after being alerted to symptoms of Love by the psychiatry <http://www.newstarget.com/009424.html> community, which has been instrumental in the detection and aggressive treatment of this dangerous condition with brain-altering drugs. " We were seeing it in an alarming number of patients " , explained one psychiatrist, " and it was causing untold suffering in their lives. Fortunately, the condition can now be chemically corrected. " Further study revealed that Love is highly contagious. It can apparently spread from one person to another, although the mechanism of transmission is currently unknown. Love also spreads easily from mother to child, especially in newborns. Interestingly, Love has no effect on landlords and corporate CEOs, who seem to possess some unknown immunity to the disease. Given the expanding threat of this disease, doctors stress it is important that all adults get screened for Love as soon as possible. Hospitals and clinics are now setting up Love screening programs in the hopes of catching the disease early and treating it aggressively with targeted pharmaceuticals <http://www.newstarget.com/001806.html> . " Nearly half the population may now be suffering from Love " , said Dr. Fuddle, " and we estimate more than 90% of the carriers are currently going without treatment. It is important that we provide screenings and treatment on a population-wide basis. " If Love is not detected and treated in its early stages, it can advance to the point where the only solution is surgery. In such severe cases of Love, skilled surgeons perform a cardiectomy (a surgical removal of the heart). The procedure is risky, and many patients have died on the operating table, but many more have been successfully saved from the ravages of Love by the skillful blade of a compassionate surgeon. The American Misery Association (AMA), whose mission is to find the cure for Love, is working hard to help educate the general public to watch for early signs of Love. People are urged to conduct a Love self-examination in the privacy of their own homes, and to watch out for the classic symptoms of Love: racing pulse <http://www.newstarget.com/004692.html> , sweaty palms, inability to speak in coherent sentences, or confusion around certain attractive individuals. People are also taught how to avoid giving Love to others - an important step in halting the spread of this disease. If you suspect that you or someone you know might be suffering from Love, don't wait. Treatment is available. Don't let Loved ones suffer any longer. This press release is brought to you by Pferck, where today's rip-off drug prices fund tomorrow's profit miracles. __________________________________________________ forwarded by Zeus Information Service Alternative Views on Health www.zeusinfoservice.com <http://www.zeusinfoservice.com> All information, data and material contained, presented or provided herein is for general information purposes only and is not to be construed as reflecting the knowledge or opinion of Zeus Information Service. Subscribe Free/Unsubscribe: info@... feel free to forward far and wide.... Re: Safety Hi , The FDA will do everything in it's power to scare people into not taking natural products. KT and any other natural product, including Ephedra, has never killed anyone. The FDA banned Ephedra claiming it killed so many people, but in reality it was Ephedrine which is a synthetic version of Ephedra, made by the pharmaceutical companies! When I read anything that the FDA says is dangerous, I automatically continue doing it. If they say it's bad for you, then it's not. The drugs the FDA have approved have killed more people than anything, and they have scientific testing done on these drugs! I'm opposed to any drug whether it's prescription or over the counter, they will all kill you. Natural products are on this earth to heal us, not drugs. It's in the Bible. By the way, I have also read that KT is good for fibromyalgia. Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2005 Report Share Posted August 15, 2005 a little humor ... http://www.newstarget.com/010825.html That's a good one Ed. Thanks for the laugh. Kathann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2009 Report Share Posted December 12, 2009 It sounds like being hit on was a big threat to you. Something caused you to perceive you did something wrong in receiving this type of response from men. As I've gotten older, I've found it is pleasant to receive this from men. It doesn't mean anything, just " I like you. " Jean From: jlfalkowski <jlfalkowski@...> Subject: Safety weightloss Date: Friday, December 11, 2009, 6:58 PM  Hi all, I've been listening to 's podcasts for a couple of months. I recently started over because I was listening without doing any of the work. This time through, I want to really commit. I have this issue and as I've typed it out I realize it sounds crazy and (maybe) egotistical. It really isn't. It's a serious issue for me and, I'm pretty sure, the reason I get scared when I lose weight so please bear with me. I literally have no one else I can share this with. I've been thinking about what benefits I get from being overweight. I think safety from sexual advances is a huge one for me. It's a social game I never really got. I was pretty cute, I guess, in my late teens through my mid twenties. But I've always been shy and kind of a sci fi geek and not particularly sexual. I mean, a bit, probably normal or even under; it's not like I was looking for it all the time. Anyhoo, I kept thinking I had guy friends but then they would hit on me. Even after I started dating and then after I married my husband (Who I knew right from the beginning wanted to be more than just a friend:)), I still got hit on quite a bit. Maybe I was stupid to think we could be friends. I don't think I was sending out signals. It really did get so that I was uncomfortable around all men except my husband. So, once I really started gaining weight, it stopped. I lost quite a bit when I had a two year old and was nursing a baby. At that time I got wolf whistles on the street and a neighbor's husband hit on me. Even typing all this out has me in tears. Maybe it's an unreasonable fear. My husband laughed when I try to tell him about it, thinking that talking would get it off my chest. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm hoping that in itself will keep me safer. I'm not even sure what I 'm hoping typing all this out. I guess, as part of facing my issues, I want to get them out of my head. It does sound nuts out loud. Any ideas from anyone? Thanks, JL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2009 Report Share Posted December 12, 2009 JL, You have every reason to feel uncomfortable and threatened by these advances. There are many reasons that underneath you may feel this way but if you feel it, it is entirely valid. First of all - you may worry about any one of these scenarios: - Eventually you may get hit on by someone you find attractive and it has the possibility of making you think about things outside of your marriage - Because it seems like you keep getting hit on by married men, it is reminding you that the world (and marriage) isn't what you had hoped it was (not necessarily for you but the world in general) - Because if you aren't as sexual a person and you don't feel as though you aren't throwing anything out there, you may feel violated when you receive the unwanted attention. I could go on but I think you get the picture. You have every reason to feel this way and I can totally understand why it might make you want to cover up with pounds. I wish I could tell you how it might get easier but honestly it sounds like therapy might be the answer. -Mia > > Hi all, > > I've been listening to 's podcasts for a couple of months. I recently started over because I was listening without doing any of the work. This time through, I want to really commit. > > I have this issue and as I've typed it out I realize it sounds crazy and (maybe) egotistical. It really isn't. It's a serious issue for me and, I'm pretty sure, the reason I get scared when I lose weight so please bear with me. I literally have no one else I can share this with. > > I've been thinking about what benefits I get from being overweight. I think safety from sexual advances is a huge one for me. > > It's a social game I never really got. I was pretty cute, I guess, in my late teens through my mid twenties. But I've always been shy and kind of a sci fi geek and not particularly sexual. I mean, a bit, probably normal or even under; it's not like I was looking for it all the time. > > Anyhoo, I kept thinking I had guy friends but then they would hit on me. Even after I started dating and then after I married my husband (Who I knew right from the beginning wanted to be more than just a friend:)), I still got hit on quite a bit. Maybe I was stupid to think we could be friends. > > I don't think I was sending out signals. It really did get so that I was uncomfortable around all men except my husband. So, once I really started gaining weight, it stopped. I lost quite a bit when I had a two year old and was nursing a baby. At that time I got wolf whistles on the street and a neighbor's husband hit on me. > > Even typing all this out has me in tears. Maybe it's an unreasonable fear. My husband laughed when I try to tell him about it, thinking that talking would get it off my chest. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm hoping that in itself will keep me safer. > > I'm not even sure what I 'm hoping typing all this out. I guess, as part of facing my issues, I want to get them out of my head. It does sound nuts out loud. Any ideas from anyone? > > Thanks, > JL > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2009 Report Share Posted December 12, 2009 I never got hit on to that extent but I can totally understand why it makes you uncomfortable and I'm sure I'd feel the same if it were happening to me.  Maybe the best thing is to come up with a strategy to thwart the advances as soon as they come at you. I don't know what it should be, but this popped into my head first: " Shame on you, I'm happily married and now a little disgusted with you! "   Those are not the right words but I'm sure saying something along these regards will make them back off and slink away. I'm sure there are kinder words " Thanks but no thanks " but it seems you really want them to back off totally. From: mcmimers <drummrgrl@...> Subject: Re: Safety weightloss Date: Saturday, December 12, 2009, 9:51 AM JL, You have every reason to feel uncomfortable and threatened by these advances. There are many reasons that underneath you may feel this way but if you feel it, it is entirely valid. First of all - you may worry about any one of these scenarios: - Eventually you may get hit on by someone you find attractive and it has the possibility of making you think about things outside of your marriage - Because it seems like you keep getting hit on by married men, it is reminding you that the world (and marriage) isn't what you had hoped it was (not necessarily for you but the world in general) - Because if you aren't as sexual a person and you don't feel as though you aren't throwing anything out there, you may feel violated when you receive the unwanted attention. I could go on but I think you get the picture. You have every reason to feel this way and I can totally understand why it might make you want to cover up with pounds. I wish I could tell you how it might get easier but honestly it sounds like therapy might be the answer. -Mia > > Hi all, > > I've been listening to 's podcasts for a couple of months. I recently started over because I was listening without doing any of the work. This time through, I want to really commit. > > I have this issue and as I've typed it out I realize it sounds crazy and (maybe) egotistical. It really isn't. It's a serious issue for me and, I'm pretty sure, the reason I get scared when I lose weight so please bear with me. I literally have no one else I can share this with. > > I've been thinking about what benefits I get from being overweight. I think safety from sexual advances is a huge one for me. > > It's a social game I never really got. I was pretty cute, I guess, in my late teens through my mid twenties. But I've always been shy and kind of a sci fi geek and not particularly sexual. I mean, a bit, probably normal or even under; it's not like I was looking for it all the time. > > Anyhoo, I kept thinking I had guy friends but then they would hit on me. Even after I started dating and then after I married my husband (Who I knew right from the beginning wanted to be more than just a friend:)), I still got hit on quite a bit. Maybe I was stupid to think we could be friends. > > I don't think I was sending out signals. It really did get so that I was uncomfortable around all men except my husband. So, once I really started gaining weight, it stopped. I lost quite a bit when I had a two year old and was nursing a baby. At that time I got wolf whistles on the street and a neighbor's husband hit on me. > > Even typing all this out has me in tears.   Maybe it's an unreasonable fear. My husband laughed when I try to tell him about it, thinking that talking would get it off my chest. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm hoping that in itself will keep me safer. > > I'm not even sure what I 'm hoping typing all this out. I guess, as part of facing my issues, I want to get them out of my head. It does sound nuts out loud. Any ideas from anyone? > > Thanks, > JL > ------------------------------------ Copyright 2005-2007. A. s. All worldwide rights reserved. Groups Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2009 Report Share Posted December 13, 2009 Hi JL, I know exactly what you are saying. I too have come to the conclusion that this is the reason, I'm keeping myself 20-25 pounds overweight. I'm not the most beautiful person in the world, but for some reason, I have men attracted to me too! I'm super friendly and sometimes I think I could be a little bit more reserved, but I am who I am and I don't want to change that, so instead I remain overweight. I've also had a lot of male friends/co-workers throughout the years and just know this:Men can never be just friends! They ALWAYS want something more!!!! Well,my theory of being overweight had been working for 4 years until just recently a co-worker(who again, I thought was a good friend) had told me he has been in love/lust with me for a while(3-4 years) OMG!!!!!!! I thought I was protecting myself!!!!!! So, either way, fat or skinny, people will find something they like about you!!!!! I just feel so uncomfortable now in the work place again!!! I feel I can never escape it. I'm going to have to transfer out possibly. I've already told him that I appreciate his telling me(why didn't he just keep it to himself???) but I'M NOT INTERESTED!!!!! I just wish I didn't have to deal with this!!!!!  So my conclusion is....... Remain the beautiful, strong person you are and just roll with the punches. I'm trying to have a 4th child and have a great towards motivation going right now. I want the most healthiest pregnancy possible, since I'm now 40! Good luck and it you want to chat more, I'd love to keep in touch. Teri ________________________________ From: jlfalkowski <jlfalkowski@...> weightloss Sent: Fri, December 11, 2009 3:58:42 PM Subject: Safety  Hi all, I've been listening to 's podcasts for a couple of months. I recently started over because I was listening without doing any of the work. This time through, I want to really commit. I have this issue and as I've typed it out I realize it sounds crazy and (maybe) egotistical. It really isn't. It's a serious issue for me and, I'm pretty sure, the reason I get scared when I lose weight so please bear with me. I literally have no one else I can share this with. I've been thinking about what benefits I get from being overweight. I think safety from sexual advances is a huge one for me. It's a social game I never really got. I was pretty cute, I guess, in my late teens through my mid twenties. But I've always been shy and kind of a sci fi geek and not particularly sexual. I mean, a bit, probably normal or even under; it's not like I was looking for it all the time. Anyhoo, I kept thinking I had guy friends but then they would hit on me. Even after I started dating and then after I married my husband (Who I knew right from the beginning wanted to be more than just a friend:)), I still got hit on quite a bit. Maybe I was stupid to think we could be friends. I don't think I was sending out signals. It really did get so that I was uncomfortable around all men except my husband. So, once I really started gaining weight, it stopped. I lost quite a bit when I had a two year old and was nursing a baby. At that time I got wolf whistles on the street and a neighbor's husband hit on me. Even typing all this out has me in tears. Maybe it's an unreasonable fear. My husband laughed when I try to tell him about it, thinking that talking would get it off my chest. I'm now in my early 40's and I'm hoping that in itself will keep me safer. I'm not even sure what I 'm hoping typing all this out. I guess, as part of facing my issues, I want to get them out of my head. It does sound nuts out loud. Any ideas from anyone? Thanks, JL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2009 Report Share Posted December 13, 2009 Hi JL, I don't have any great words of wisdom but a healthy dose of encouragement. I commend you for being brave enough to look inside yourself and discover what is holding you back. I'm sure since you were willing to go in that far you will be able to go farther to find the answers. Your post prompted me to explore the sexual side of my weight and I hadn't thought about how my weight is being used to keep everyone, even my husband at a distance. I uncovered that I have had a fear of being sexually assalted from the time I hit puberty. I was never sexually abused or anything or even sexually active until my 20's but I think I saw enough movies and shows in my teens to make myself become scared enough that it could happen to me. Actually, now this sounds dumb to me, but I can remember watching a movie with my day and the woman was car jacked. As I'm watching this my dad says to me that in the situation you should always do what you are told and don't be a hero you could lose your life. Well what happened to her next to me was way worse than losing you life and I remember thinking NOT ME! No way I'm ever giving anyone even the chance to do that to me. And now I view myself as strong because I'm big. But then when I look in the mirror I don't like the mess I am that is preventing me from being happy and a good wife and mother. I want my daughter to grow up and be strong with a heathly amount of self protection and I can't be a good example to her looking/ feeling/ acting like this. So thank you again for your trigger. It is definitely helping me get one step closer to finding out what I need to work on to let go. -Ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2009 Report Share Posted December 13, 2009 I work in a virtually all-male profession, and also travel a lot for work and experience men from other cultures without the workplace rules that we have here - in some countries they feel much freer to express themselves! There have been studies that show that men interpret friendliness much differently than women do - they are much more likely to think it is a come-on, but avoiding friendliness altogether is not going to work either. I've had to figure this out because it was important to my career, as well as me personally, to be " one of the guys " in a sense, and not be aloof, while making it clear that I have no interest in extramarital affairs. I have made incredibly rich friendships with men because of it. You may not be sending out signals, but the guys may be receiving them anyway. You may feel sexier at a lower weight or wear different clothes or other things that are perfectly appropriate, but a clueless guy may think it is HE that has certainly become more attractive!!! I have 2 strategies, but the best is simply acknowledge an advance and treat it like a harmless flirtation and move on. I lost weight with an office Weight Watchers group, and have had a lot of people saying things to me. ( I am VERY sensitive about weight and don't like even comments that other people may find pleasant, from men or women. I don't want to discuss how I lost weight, how much, anything.) However, just mentally rehearse and come up with a few lines that work for you. Something like " how sweet, you just made my day " , and move on to another subject immediately. This keeps things from being embarrassing later - you don't hurt anyone's feelings, and they figure out instantly that you don't see them as a potential fling. For others that you don't know and don't have to worry about offending, just try to be an observer and enjoy the silliness of some of these pick up lines. I had one very persistent guy that, 2 years later, I still find hilarious. If you just can't shake someone, laughing at them does the trick. Not in a mean way, but in the " I can't believe you just said that " way. Don't let this be a stumbling block! I promise you that a little mental rehearsal will give you a lot of confidence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 Very good! I wish I had your skills when I was younger. It would have saved me a lot of pain. For a lot of men finding sex is like hunting. " Missed that one! Oh look, another one is coming. " They are suppose to stop hunting when they get married. Some do, some don't. They enjoy the hunt. It isn't about you as an individual so you can't take either credit or blame. They take pride in honing their skills. And the more skilled they get the more luck they have. There are lot's of women who have the goal of " marrying well. " That's just another twist on the above. Jean From: Jami Nettles <jami.nettles@...> Subject: Re: Safety weightloss Date: Sunday, December 13, 2009, 11:54 AM  I work in a virtually all-male profession, and also travel a lot for work and experience men from other cultures without the workplace rules that we have here - in some countries they feel much freer to express themselves! There have been studies that show that men interpret friendliness much differently than women do - they are much more likely to think it is a come-on, but avoiding friendliness altogether is not going to work either. I've had to figure this out because it was important to my career, as well as me personally, to be " one of the guys " in a sense, and not be aloof, while making it clear that I have no interest in extramarital affairs. I have made incredibly rich friendships with men because of it. You may not be sending out signals, but the guys may be receiving them anyway. You may feel sexier at a lower weight or wear different clothes or other things that are perfectly appropriate, but a clueless guy may think it is HE that has certainly become more attractive!! ! I have 2 strategies, but the best is simply acknowledge an advance and treat it like a harmless flirtation and move on. I lost weight with an office Weight Watchers group, and have had a lot of people saying things to me. ( I am VERY sensitive about weight and don't like even comments that other people may find pleasant, from men or women. I don't want to discuss how I lost weight, how much, anything.) However, just mentally rehearse and come up with a few lines that work for you. Something like " how sweet, you just made my day " , and move on to another subject immediately. This keeps things from being embarrassing later - you don't hurt anyone's feelings, and they figure out instantly that you don't see them as a potential fling. For others that you don't know and don't have to worry about offending, just try to be an observer and enjoy the silliness of some of these pick up lines. I had one very persistent guy that, 2 years later, I still find hilarious. If you just can't shake someone, laughing at them does the trick. Not in a mean way, but in the " I can't believe you just said that " way. Don't let this be a stumbling block! I promise you that a little mental rehearsal will give you a lot of confidence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 There are people like that out there, but I don't understand them at all. My life is so complicated that the LAST thing I want is to get involved with another man!!! If I have a hotel room away from home, I want to think or knit or read a book in total silence. No children, cooking, pets, or anyone else. That is sooo appealling. Re: Safety weightloss Date: Sunday, December 13, 2009, 11:54 AM Â I work in a virtually all-male profession, and also travel a lot for work and experience men from other cultures without the workplace rules that we have here - in some countries they feel much freer to express themselves! There have been studies that show that men interpret friendliness much differently than women do - they are much more likely to think it is a come-on, but avoiding friendliness altogether is not going to work either. I've had to figure this out because it was important to my career, as well as me personally, to be " one of the guys " in a sense, and not be aloof, while making it clear that I have no interest in extramarital affairs. I have made incredibly rich friendships with men because of it. You may not be sending out signals, but the guys may be receiving them anyway. You may feel sexier at a lower weight or wear different clothes or other things that are perfectly appropriate, but a clueless guy may think it is HE that has certainly become more attractive!! ! I have 2 strategies, but the best is simply acknowledge an advance and treat --- message truncated --- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2009 Report Share Posted December 14, 2009 There are people like that out there, but I don't understand them at all. My life is so complicated that the LAST thing I want is to get involved with another man!!! If I have a hotel room away from home, I want to think or knit or read a book in total silence. No children, cooking, pets, or anyone else. That is sooo appealling. Re: Safety weightloss Date: Sunday, December 13, 2009, 11:54 AM Â I work in a virtually all-male profession, and also travel a lot for work and experience men from other cultures without the workplace rules that we have here - in some countries they feel much freer to express themselves! There have been studies that show that men interpret friendliness much differently than women do - they are much more likely to think it is a come-on, but avoiding friendliness altogether is not going to work either. I've had to figure this out because it was important to my career, as well as me personally, to be " one of the guys " in a sense, and not be aloof, while making it clear that I have no interest in extramarital affairs. I have made incredibly rich friendships with men because of it. You may not be sending out signals, but the guys may be receiving them anyway. You may feel sexier at a lower weight or wear different clothes or other things that are perfectly appropriate, but a clueless guy may think it is HE that has certainly become more attractive!! ! I have 2 strategies, but the best is simply acknowledge an advance and treat --- message truncated --- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2012 Report Share Posted June 17, 2012 Thought I would share this post I saw from another friend that posted this: Attention! Important! Especially to the ladies we all care about... A MESSAGE FROM THE OFFICE OF ATTORNEY GENERAL STATE OF MICHIGAN : SITUATION.. While driving on a rural end of the roadway on Thursday morning, I saw an infant car seat on the side of the road with a blanket draped over it. For whatever reason, I did not stop, even though I had all kinds of thoughts running through my head. But when I got to my destination, I called the Canton PD and they were going to check it out. But, this is what the Police advised even before they went out there to check.... " There are several things to be aware of ... gangs and thieves are now plotting different ways to get a person (mostly women) to stop their vehicle and get out of the car. " There is a gang initiation reported by the local Police Department where gangs are placing a car seat by the road...with a fake baby in it....waiting for a woman, of course, to stop and check on the abandoned baby. " Note that the location of this car seat is usually beside a wooded or grassy (field) area and the person -- woman -- will be dragged into the woods, beaten and raped, and usually left for dead. If it's a man, they're usually beaten and robbed and maybe left for dead, too. DO NOT STOP FOR ANY REASON!!! DIAL 9-1-1 AND REPORT WHAT YOU SAW, BUT DON 'T EVEN SLOW DOWN. Oh yea, about the EGGS: " IF YOU ARE DRIVING AT NIGHT AND EGGS ARE THROWN AT YOUR WINDSHIELD, DO NOT STOP TO CHECK YOUR CAR, DO NOT OPERATE THE WIPERS AND DO NOT SPRAY ANY WATER BECAUSE EGGS MIXED WITH WATER BECOME MILKY, AND BLOCK YOUR VISION UP TO 92.5%, AND YOU ARE THEN FORCED TO STOP BESIDE THE ROAD AND BECOME A VICTIM OF THESE CRIMINALS. THIS IS A NEW TECHNIQUE USED BY GANGS, SO PLEASE INFORM YOUR FRIENDS AND RELATIVES. THESE ARE DESPERATE TIMES AND THESE ARE UNSAVORY INDIVIDUALS WHO WILL TAKE DESPERATE MEASURES TO GET WHAT THEY WANT. " Please talk to your loved ones about this. This is a new tactic being used. Please be safe. Get started NOW -- SEND THIS MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES TO BE CAREFUL AND BE AWARE OF EVERYTHING AROUND THEM SO AS NOT TO BECOME THE VICTIM. WARNING # 3: Some knew about the red light on cars, but not Dialing 112. It was about 1:00 p.m. in the afternoon, and was driving to visit a friend. An UNMARKED police car pulled up behind her and put his lights on. 's parents have always told her to never pull over for an unmarked car on the side of the road,but rather to wait until they get to a gas station, etc. had actually listened to her parents advice, and promptly called,112 on her cell phone to tell the police dispatcher that she would not pull over right away. She proceeded to tell the dispatcher that there was an unmarked police car with a flashing red light on his rooftop behind her. The dispatcher checked to see if there were police cars where she was andthere weren't, and he told her to keep driving, remain calm and that he had back up already on the way. Ten minutes later 4 cop cars surrounded her and the unmarked car behind her. One policeman went to her side and the others surrounded the car behind. They pulled the guy from the car and tackled him to the ground. The man was a convicted rapist and wanted for other crimes. I never knew about the 112 Cell Phone feature. I tried it on my AT & T phone & it said, " Dialing Emergency Number. " Especially for a woman alone in a car, you should not pull over for an unmarked car. Apparently police have to respect your right to keep going on to a safe place. *Speaking to a service representative at Bell Mobility confirmed that 112 was a direct link to State trooper info. So, now it's your turn to let your friends know about " Dialing, 112 " You may want to send this to every Man, Woman & Youngster you know; it may well save a life. This applies to ALL 50 states PLEASE PASS ALONG TO FRIENDS AND FAMILY, IT CAN SAVE A LIFE.... Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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