UPDATE never vaxd 2.5 yr old dx with autism

May 18, 2011

It's been about a month since I sent a desperate pled for help on this group.

My daughter was having trouble at preschool, now we know it's cause we stuck her

in it/ dumped her off -- way too soon.

When she started crying like something horrible had happen at pre-school I

pulled her out and the teacher recommended an evaluation dut o Amelia's

behavior. she was not playing like the other children, she started retreating

into her own space and not interacting with the kids or wanting to be part of

the class room.

We were advised to see a shrink, a child development psychologist for an

evaluation. To our surprise she dx Amelia as autistic spectrum disorder, and

recommend 25 hours a week of therapy at a autistic school. We freaked out, we

knew she was not autistic, and started getting other opinions and reading up on

Autism. when the other two holistic and homeopathic dx cam back as a child that

had experienced trauma, and not autistic, we went back to the shrink and said

she is not autistic, by this time weeks had gone by and Amelia had dropped a lot

of the ASD behaviors, just by being at home full time with mommy. the shrink

agreed, and this made us suspicious, so my husband questioned the test results

that give a score of ASD, Amelia scored 70 the first time and a few weeks later

50 after her behaviors disappeared. 50 is unlikely that she is autistic. It

was explained to us by the shrink, that she is helping parents by giving an ASD

diagnosis so that parents can get FREE government services to out their kids in

special care. So basically in my eyes that fee day care for kids with parents

who work full time, and can't tend to their kids needs.

That's not us!

It's been 8 weeks since we pulled Amelia out of pre-school, and I feel awful for

having placed her in it in the first place, she needs to be home with mommy. She

is not the kind of child that benefits from social interaction from year 1.5

without her mommy. I feel ashamed, I though we were doing her a good thing by

socializing her and having her learn from other kids. we do now have therapists

come to the house to teach us, how to socailise, play, and read. her speech is

returning, she is very loving and I'm hoping she will soon forget that we

abandoned her at preschool. I always said it was a bother word for day care but

my husband pushed for her to be socialised since she is a shy child. We have

learned a lot about our child and about parenting in the past 8 weeks.

We also learned a lot about the system, where kids end up that are not ready

for school when both parents work, and now I understand how the autism rate is 1

in every 70 children.

Sad.

Marica

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