What type of mite prefers your scalp?

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Hi, I have been living with some type of mite for over 3 months, since the end of May.  I cannot see them whlile alive, but they are small white oval round things about the size of a period that come off my scalp after using hand sanitizer.  This happened almost simultaneously or shortly after I had gotten headlice from some bedsheets that I got from my mother where my neices had slept (in the same room).  I put the sheets in my car that fateful day in the back seat with no bag and drove home and later put them on the bed.  I had a really bad infestation shortly after with things flying in the air but could not actually see anything I guess because it was mostly at night.  So, I don't think this is the Northern mite -- my guess is either the red mite or something else.  I did see some red mites on my porch early spring and also in my mother's back yard before any of this happened.  There are a few more details -- last winter I made a cat house for my mother's ferral cats and put some really sticky straw in the trunk of my car.  I wonder if that isn't where it started?   I no longer drive my car -- it is too infested.  I ripped out my carpet 2 months ago in my 1 story condo, but still things are not right.  Has anyone had a similar experience where the mites go directly to your scalp and feel like rock candy stuck on?  I used some Neem oil yesterday which seemed to help, but of course they get back on now.  I just try different things.  They also get under my toenails and I feel pinprick bites among other things.   Thanks.