Please weigh in on this - I need advice badly

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As most of you know, we have been fighting these mites going on a year. While

we have made progress following many different protocols (thanks to some amazing

folks here who take the time to help others), ingesting various medications,

herbs and supplements and pitching a lot of items initially that seemed the most

infected we have recently made the difficult decision to vacate our house (we've

considered doing this for months on end). We live in the south and since it's

warmed up here and the humidity is on the rise things are getting active again

(not as bad as before but bad enough - the last few days have been especially

awful). I am also currently being treated for LD which complicates things even

further(just recently diagnosed).

I think what finally propelled the decision to leave (besides all the dr's

visits and suffering) was when I told my husband that I cannot continue to take

all of these meds, clean like a mad woman and police my kids from doing what

kids should be doing (like walking barefoot in our home, having camp outs on the

floor (i did let my son do this recently as he built a fort in his room but then

of course the bites started), wearing clothing that hasn't been ironed) if I am

fighting a losing battle by trying to live in/at ground zero. I believe in my

heart that our house is still infested with something - mites, morgellons

fibers, who knows (big rat problem on the island where we live and the birds are

everywhere - not to mention the fact we back up to a golf course - who knows

what they are spraying there). By the way, we have used so many pesticides in

the past I just can't go there any more. So, to stay here just seems like a

death sentence. I will not emotionally make it.

As a bit of further background - My husband is symptomatic but not to the extent

I am - he refuses to go the Dr but does take the meds I am prescribed and will

do things like spray his car with CedarCide or put vinegar in his hair when he

gets bad. Basically, while he experiences symptoms he still has a hard time

believing that microscopic mites exist - he talked to a few entomologists when

this first started and they told him human bird mite infestations were

impossible (until I sent them a sample - got luck and found an engorged mite - a

tiny red spec- so I was able to see it - sure enough, they said bird mites). He

also thinks that I spend too much time on websites. He is an attorney by

training and needs everything to be logical and methodical. Which as we all

know, this situation is neither. Needless to say, he refuses to read this site

or any others that promote the possibility of bird mites because he's " already

talked to the experts. " When I push him to define what is happening to us he

says he doesn't know but that it is not totally unbearable for him and that he

would rather just deal with symptoms as they arise. However, he did agree to

the move because I think he knows I don't have much left in me to give.

Long story, I know, so I apologize and will try to get to the point - we are

planning to return to the midwest June 1st and now that the date is getting

closer we are talking logistics which has caused us to be locked in a heated

debate as to what we should bring or toss. Basically I want to get rid of all

of the cloth furniture, bedding, mattresses, lampshades, old electronics and

cars. I am willing to keep some furniture (the stuff I have had some success in

treating) because I know there is no way he will leave here without taking at

least some of our belongings.

I cannot see the point in moving across the country if we are going to take

everything that's currently in our home with us. He can't see tossing big

things like furniture (besides being symptomatic but a bit of a skeptic, he is

the youngest of 8 and waste is not in his vocabulary). What to do??????? We

have two children, otherwise I would have left to fight this battle on my own. I

would even consider leaving now (obviously our marriage has greatly suffered)

but if he doesn't get out of this house and start taking his symptoms seriously

and treating himself on a consistent basis then we would be running two

different households and every time the kids stay with me there would be the

possibility of reinfection (they are sporatically symptomatic with occasional

bites and itching). I am at a breaking point trying to figure out what is best

given our circumstances. And, I am so tired of being the one who is fighting

for everyone else in this household.

For the folks who have moved - did it help? What did you take with you or leave

behind? I don't know how to convince my husband that we are fighting for our

lives and some old possessions simply aren't worth taking a risk on....however,

maybe I am just not seeing this clearly. I don't know who else to bring these

questions to so I appreciate any and all opinions. You can't understand it

unless you've lived it. I know you all are in the trenches with me. Please

help me find a way to make the best decision.....PS-I know tossing things would

be a financial hardship but I am willing to do without everything just to be

free of this mite-mare.