's motd Sunday November 27, 2011

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FAMILY FEUD

Sunday, 27 November 2011

As you know, I receive and read a lot of

e-mail everyday. After finishing my morning workout,

I head down to my office and dive into all of the mail

waiting for me. I go to work answering as many people

who write as I can. And you know what? As I read my

mail, a familiar thread sticks out in many of them and

I want to share that common theme with you. And oh,

what I'm about to tell you really upsets me. What's

that?

I get very upset when I

read letters from someone involved in...a family

feud!

Well, I get very upset when I read letters from

someone involved in...a family feud! (And

no, I'm not talking about the TV game show, either.)

The family feuds I'm talking about are real, a

lot more serious and can be rooted in any number of

things.

Between a husband and wife, the feud could be

about money or the kids. Or it could be a fight

between two sisters that actually started when they

were both teenagers.

And yet, years later, their feud still places a wedge

between the two of them. Whether it's a spouse, a

sibling or a friend, the feud has put

your relationship with that person on ice. Now come

on, tell me, how smart is that?

Are you and someone you

know you love going to carry

that grudge with you to your graves? That's not only

not smart but, if you ask me, it's sad, too!

Life is short. Too

short to

be holding on to the bad feelings you've had for

someone close to you. It's not smart, it's sad and,

truth is, it's

unhealthy, too.

How do you "win" the feud?

So, how do you "win" the feud? Well, first of all,

there usually are no winners in these kinds of

conflicts. In fact, I say if you're harboring hard

feelings about someone and they have the same feelings

about you, know what you end up with? Two losers!

My friends, the holidays are here and we're fast

approaching the end of 2011. If there's been some

ongoing bad blood between you and a family member or

friend, (they're like family, too), then please, don't

you think this season is the perfect time of year to

end that feud?

Offering the olive branch

will give you something to truly be thankful for.

I think you should call up the person you've been in

conflict with. Ask if you can meet with them for a

little heart-to-heart talk about that problem

separating the two of you. Now, they may say yes to

your invitation and then again, they may say no. (I

hope they won't!) But the bottom line is that you

would've been the person taking the initiative to make

the thing that's been wrong between the two of you...right! And know what

else? Offering the olive branch will give you

something you'll truly be thankful for...peace of

mind!

Hey, bring on some real holiday cheer as we end 2011.

I say it's time to END that family

feud between you and the person you love.

Love,