Guest guest Posted November 12, 2011 Report Share Posted November 12, 2011 A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP Saturday, 12 November 2011 I received an e-mail earlier this week that I just have to share with you. It was from a lady who had an important story to tell. And I think it's one you need to hear, as well. Dear : I watched your TV show for years when I was growing up. After my last failed attempt to lose weight and keep it off, I decided to try gastric-bypass surgery as a last-ditch effort to lose it once and for all. I feel like a bit of a failure by resorting to surgery to lose weight. I had the surgery two weeks ago and I'm still getting used to my new way of living. I must admit, I feel like a bit of a failure. You know, I mean by resorting to surgery to lose weight. It means I couldn't do this on my own. But I didn't have much of a choice. See, I haven't really been living my life, because of what I weigh. At my heaviest, I was 300 pounds. Since having the surgery and being on a liquid diet, I've already lost 40 pounds. But you know what? My head is still thinking about food the way I did before I had surgery. Food was always my secret love but how do I stop my mind from going there? I've already eaten things I know I shouldn't have, following my surgery. I risk stretching my stomach by doing this and I don't want that to happen. Why can't I be like regular people, ? Why do I have to struggle to have a 'normal' relationship with food? That was quite some letter and it really got me thinking. See, from an early age, we all form a bond with the foods we eat. The bond begins with our mothers who want us to have the best foods. (Even though they may not always be foods we like.) Whatever foods our parents liked, chances are, we end up liking the same foods. Our folks pass their own food tastes on to us. When I was a kid, I ate and learned to love more grown-up foods. My parents were both excellent cooks and prepared an incredible mix of recipes for me and my brother, Lenny. My mother would say to me"Honey I spent hours in the kitchen making you my delicious stuffed cabbage. I just know you're going to love it." And she was right, I did! In fact, there were very few dishes my parents cooked that I didn't love. I loved my mother's meat loaf, her mashed potatoes and all the fancy seafood dishes she learned to cook in New Orleans. So oh yes, at a very early age, I was hooked on food. Many of you, like the lady who wrote me, also began your own food addictions at an early age. Look, you can have weight-loss surgery or go on all kinds of diets. But none of them will work until you change your relationship with food. "Normal" eating means having a healthy breakfast, lunch, dinner and healthy snacks. You must train your mind to stop thinking about food all of the time. "Normal" eating means having a healthy breakfast, lunch, dinner and healthy snacks. It's all about making a plan for how many calories and fat grams you should be eating daily and then sticking to that plan. Look, I have overeaten before and no, that's not normal. And there have been times in my life where I purposely didn't eat enough and, truth is, that wasn't normal either. It's all about finding the proper balance. Food should not be your "best friend" and it shouldn't be your "lover" either. Food is there to nourish your body, to help you get healthy and stay healthy. You shouldn't make it anything more than that to you. And how do you begin having that normal relationship ? By getting yourself a Foodmover and using it so that you can teach yourself to have a normal relationship ...with food! Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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