Re: 's motd Thursday March 24, 2011

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Ack! I sure have been through this....no comments at all from my husband, no change in his interest level either. This is either a blessing or a sign. It sure upset me for a long time, but now, I think I am pretty much over it. He’s a good cheerleader when he is working on his own eating, or when I become particularly upset at not losing. Funny, I guess it is a good thing that I don’t hear the comments, good or bad. Either way, my losing weight is not based on his approval or disapproval.

From: Sue in NJ

Sent: Thursday, March 24, 2011 4:12 AM

~100-plus ; ~RSDeal ; ~TheFoodmovers

Subject: 's motd Thursday March 24, 2011

WHY EVEN BOTHER?

Thursday, 24 March 2011

There's a lady who comes to Slimmons and I just adore her. She's originally from Seattle but moved south to Los Angeles when her husband's job transferred him to California. She and her husband have two kids and her youngest is just two years-old.

She's one of our regulars and comes to the club faithfully, just about everyday to get in her workouts. And boy, let me tell you, she really works out hard! I've seen such progress in her, not only with the intensity of her workouts but I know she's really taken control of her eating habits, too. She got herself a FoodMover as soon as she joined the club. I took the time to review it with her and we discussed what she should be eating to lose the weight. We also talked about those all-important portion sizes. And, like with most people, she was truly surprised to see what the proper portions sizes were for many of the foods she eats.Well, in the first four months, her hard work really paid off and she lost 22 pounds. At first, she wore all black outfits to class but I was delighted to see her switch to brightly-colored tops and bottoms to sweat in as she began dropping the pounds.But one day, I noticed when she entered class that she wasn't as happy and upbeat as usual. She looked very down and sad, almost as if she'd been crying before she walked into Slimmons. I wasn't used to seeing her looking like that so after class, I went up to have a little private talk with her. You're not going to believe what had happened.

She told me how good she'd been feeling about losing those first 22 pounds. But before leaving for class that day, wearing one of her more form-fitting workout outfits, she asked her husband a couple of questions. "Honey," she asked him, "haven't you noticed that I've lost weight? I've lost 22 pounds so far...can you tell?"Well, the response from her husband was...nothing. I mean, he didn't say anything to her at all...not a word! His non-response upset her so much that she simply turned around, walked out of the room, headed for the car and drove directly to Slimmons. But on the drive to the club, she was crying and thinking to herself, "Why am I trying to lose this weight? Why even bother?" No wonder she looked so unhappy when she walked into the club that day!After she shared with me what happened, I looked right into her eyes and reminded her of who she was working to lose the weight for. No, she was not losing the weight for her husband. She was losing this weight for herself! And she had to keep reminding herself of that fact.

I'm sure that many of you ladies know from experience that some guys, especially those husbands, can't say anything about your weight unless it's something negative. Shame on them! And I'm truly sorry if your man falls into that category. I'm sorry if your husband doesn't know how to be your cheerleader. But hey, even if he's not, you know...I am. (And don't you forget it!) Please...don't let anyone or any-thing get in the way of you reaching your weight-loss goal. Will you promise me that?Why even bother trying to lose the weight? Well, the answer is simple...because you deserve it!Love,