Re: Haven't been here for awhile

[Guest guest]

I'm right there with you, . I am stuck in a rut and keep taking

" breaks " from weight loss, then when I do get back into it, I last maybe a

week before something sends me into a tailspin and I am back on " break "

again. Sometimes I think I just have to accept my weight and quit trying,

but I would love to lead a normal life someday. I have wasted so many years

sitting on the sidelines watching others live the life I want. But when the

munchies hit I keep caving in to them. I know I could use some help and I am

willing to reach out to others that need help, but not sure how to go about

it. I guess this could be a start?

Patti in Upstate NY

Haven't been here for awhile

> Hi All, I've been reading, but not posting. February is almost gone and

> I'm no closer to goal. I gain and lose the same 5 pounds over and over.

> I'm tired of it all. I count calories, exchanges, points, carbs. Every

> day is a different plan because the day before, I failed. Any of those

> ways of tracking will work if I stick to it. I start the day excited,

> full of hope. Then everything changes. The hunger comes, I give in, the

> day is shot and I tell myself I'll start tomorrow. I'm out of tomorrows.

> I have to do this or stop trying. I'm tired of looking and feeling bad.

> I want to be " normal " . I want to wear " normal clothes " . My youngest son

> graduates college this spring, I want to wear a pretty dress. My middle

> son's wedding will be late summer. I want to wear a smaller dress than

> the one I wear to graduation. These are goals I can reach, if I just DO

> IT! Let's encourage one another! I need you and just maybe you need me??

> in WV

[Guest guest]

>

>

> " " Sometimes I think I just have to accept my weight and quit trying,

> but I would love to lead a normal life someday. I have wasted so many years

> sitting on the sidelines watching others live the life I want. But when the

> munchies hit I keep caving in to them. I know I could use some help and I am

> willing to reach out to others that need help, but not sure how to go about

> it. " "

>

> Patti in Upstate NY

Hi Patti, I too, think about accepting myself, but I'm too big to do that. My

weight isn't healthy. There is this little part of me that thinks I can lose

the weight. I have lost it before. I'm not sure how to help others and I'm not

sure what would help me. It helps to not feel so alone. Helps to know other

people succeed. I must find some willpower and try to stay on plan just one

day.

>

>

[Guest guest]

I understand. Been there so many times myself.....30 years worth.

Here is the idea that switched me from constantly failing my diet: I redefined what failure was.

I was facing having to lose 160 pounds. I was now diabetic, so uncomfortable, could hardly function at 317 pounds. My whole world was collapsing around me, we lost our jobs, had to sell our house, had to pull ever resource together not to go under. That was such a terrible time in our lives, but I chose that time to stop the direction I was heading...to 400 pounds. If I had not started right then and there, I would not be 86 pounds lighter and half way to my goal.

I decided that there was no failure in what I ate, how much I ate or even when I ate. I bought a nutritional software for under $30 and decided to record everything I ate. This included binges. I wanted to get a true and accurate picture of how I ate and the choices I made. The ONLY failure would be to not record it.

I changed what it was that I thought made me successful or what made me fail. So I spent a week or so just eating and practicing recording it. I built up my data base with the foods I like to eat and then used all the features of the program to help design a diet I could do. I learned over time that my averages show me a better picture of my progress than daily totals did. I also had to deal with the choices I made when my calories went sky high. Seeing them, not being afraid of them, not hiding them or “starting over†all the time, I began to see that whatever I did, it was a path, a part of the journey to learn how to change my thinking, my choices. I am 18 months into this and I am still learning, still experimenting. It is no longer about being perfect, it is about being consistent and committed.

Hope you find your path too.

From: labillsy

Sent: Wednesday, February 23, 2011 6:15 AM

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Subject: Haven't been here for awhile

Hi All, I've been reading, but not posting. February is almost gone and I'm no closer to goal. I gain and lose the same 5 pounds over and over. I'm tired of it all. I count calories, exchanges, points, carbs. Every day is a different plan because the day before, I failed. Any of those ways of tracking will work if I stick to it. I start the day excited, full of hope. Then everything changes. The hunger comes, I give in, the day is shot and I tell myself I'll start tomorrow. I'm out of tomorrows. I have to do this or stop trying. I'm tired of looking and feeling bad. I want to be "normal". I want to wear "normal clothes". My youngest son graduates college this spring, I want to wear a pretty dress. My middle son's wedding will be late summer. I want to wear a smaller dress than the one I wear to graduation. These are goals I can reach, if I just DO IT! Let's encourage one another! I need you and just maybe you need me?? in WV ------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Do you remember Dorothy on the Wizard of Oz? After all her trials to seek what she thought she wanted (someplace where people understood her) that place ended up being in her own backyard. All during this time of trying to get back home, she had the power all along in her ruby slippers. We have the power within us to make the decision to be committed to a healthy diet if we want a normal weight. It takes that commitment to practice discipline daily.

I still have my struggles. I write about them in my blog which posts here automatically. I don’t have the answers, I am still seeking them!

From: PiperML

Sent: Wednesday, February 23, 2011 8:05 AM

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Subject: Re: Haven't been here for awhile

I'm right there with you, . I am stuck in a rut and keep taking "breaks" from weight loss, then when I do get back into it, I last maybe a week before something sends me into a tailspin and I am back on "break" again. Sometimes I think I just have to accept my weight and quit trying, but I would love to lead a normal life someday. I have wasted so many years sitting on the sidelines watching others live the life I want. But when the munchies hit I keep caving in to them. I know I could use some help and I am willing to reach out to others that need help, but not sure how to go about it. I guess this could be a start?Patti in Upstate NY Haven't been here for awhile> Hi All, I've been reading, but not posting. February is almost gone and > I'm no closer to goal. I gain and lose the same 5 pounds over and over. > I'm tired of it all. I count calories, exchanges, points, carbs. Every > day is a different plan because the day before, I failed. Any of those > ways of tracking will work if I stick to it. I start the day excited, > full of hope. Then everything changes. The hunger comes, I give in, the > day is shot and I tell myself I'll start tomorrow. I'm out of tomorrows. > I have to do this or stop trying. I'm tired of looking and feeling bad. > I want to be "normal". I want to wear "normal clothes". My youngest son > graduates college this spring, I want to wear a pretty dress. My middle > son's wedding will be late summer. I want to wear a smaller dress than > the one I wear to graduation. These are goals I can reach, if I just DO > IT! Let's encourage one another! I need you and just maybe you need me??> in WV ------------------------------------