New here and needing help

[Guest guest]

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10,

b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia.

We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.

I need help.

When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards.

Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along

time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I

have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3 " . And not

sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last

checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure

was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting

up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my

kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long

time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling.

Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen

looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need

something. And the idea of giving it all up scares me. I feel like a drug

addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop.

A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few

friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I

weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I

thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought

of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My

life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids

are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them.

Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little

something. Win/win, right?

I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression.

It is so much easier to just stay fat.

I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to

feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to

lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.

Thanks for reading all this.

Stacey

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group, we're glad to have you here!

I would start small, do not think of all of the things you need to give up, but rather what you and your family are gaining. Pick one thing to change today/this week. If it's only being sure you are getting in all of your water, then that's it, get in all of your water...

If it's going to be cutting down one snack, then leave out one snack...

Then build on it and soon you'll have a lot of changes you have made, will be healthier and won't feel so overwhelmed.

I have probably over 100 lbs to lose still too and that seems impossible, so I try to look at 5-10-20 lb block of it.

Hugs,

New here and needing help

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10, b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia. We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.

I need help.

When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards. Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3". And not sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling. Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need something. And the idea of giving it all up s

cares me. I feel like a drug addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop.

A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them. Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little something. Win/win, right?

I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression. It is so much easier to just stay fat.

I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.

Thanks for reading all this.

Stacey

[Guest guest]

HI Stacey, and welcome to the group!

yep, it is always so overwhelming to realize all that needs to be done. It might help you to take some time to first decide on what it is you really want to accomplish, what the core of your goal is. Is it that you want to have healthier eating habits? Would that be more important than losing weight? Or is getting to a normal weight more important? Is being more active more important? Having a core reason will help you decide what your first steps are and what can be tweaked later, when you feel overwhelmed again.

While we all need to change many of our daily unhealthful habits, having a core will help you focus on one change at a time. Homeschooling will be an asset, you can involve the children in activities like taking an exercise break, teach healthy eating through home cooking lessons and involving the children in helping you lose weight by perhaps learning record keeping on graphs or charts.

There are all kinds of ways to plot out a change and work towards a goal, I certainly don’t want to overwhelm you with more! lol.

From: staceyanitra

Sent: Sunday, January 02, 2011 8:21 AM

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Subject: New here and needing help

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10, b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia. We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.I need help.When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards. Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3". And not sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling. Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need something. And the idea of giving it all up scares me. I feel like a drug addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop. A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them. Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little something. Win/win, right? I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression. It is so much easier to just stay fat.I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.Thanks for reading all this.Stacey------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Stacey welcome. Look at your life. Do you journal? I only have 2 cant even imagine homeschooling. I live state side and cant imagine living in another country. AND 5 kids. My mom had 5 and I always say were you on crazy crack at the time. So give yourself some credit. BEST advice. FACE THE scale. At least once a week. It gives us accountability. Even if my scale is not moving I face it. WATER is key in any diet plan. MOVEMENT is key in any plan. AND portions is key. I myself take an inventory monthly. I journal where I am that day. With weight, water, exercise, emotions, money, anything I want to change or watch. Change something. BABYSTEPS... Then set a time to redo it and it does give you inspiration to see where you were and were you are going. You have alot on your plate. Have you ever checked out flylady.com. Check it out. It may help.

New here and needing help

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10, b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia. We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.

I need help.

When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards. Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3". And not sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling. Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need something. And the idea of giving it all up scare

s me. I feel like a drug addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop. A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them. Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little something. Win/win, right? I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression. It is so much easier to just stay fat.

I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.

Thanks for reading all this.

Stacey

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[Guest guest]

Thank you , , and Jase for your welcomes and words of encouragement. I like everyone's suggestion of taking babysteps. It makes it all seem less daunting and less scary.  I decided to take the plunge and do the biggest loser game that my friend has set up.  SO baby steps aren't an option.  lol. I want to do well and I want to win.  I keep going back and forth in my mind though. Part of me doesn't want the pressure, or the knowledge of my two neighbors knowing how I am doing. On the other hand I think the financial motivation might help me to stay on target.  

Last night and this evening I ate dinner and that was it. Only water after that until bed.  And I did a little workout today.  Not much, just 30 minutes. I watched my portions and only had one serving at dinner and  a large salad.  I felt so on edge.  IO was afraid to eat anything, really. And I kept telling myself, how will I do for 6 weeks?  And then even after that.  But I know that is not the attitude i need to take.  SO, one day at a time?   Ok...  That's what it'll be.

A woman I know said, when asked how she was keeping her figure up after have kids and a busy life, said " I don't eat when I want to, and I workout when I don't want to. "  Wow. so simple but makes a lot of sense to me.

StaceyOn Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 3:18 AM, Jase4567 <Jase4567@...> wrote:

 

Stacey welcome.  Look at your life.  Do you journal?  I only have 2 cant even imagine homeschooling.  I live state side and cant imagine living in another country.  AND 5 kids.  My mom had 5 and I always say were you on crazy crack at the time.  So give yourself some credit.  BEST advice.  FACE THE scale.  At least once a week.  It gives us accountability.  Even if my scale is not moving I face it.  WATER is key in any diet plan.  MOVEMENT is key in any plan.  AND portions is key.  I myself take an inventory monthly.  I journal where I am that day.  With weight, water, exercise, emotions, money, anything I want to change or watch.  Change something.  BABYSTEPS... Then set a time to redo it and it does give you inspiration to see where you were and were you are going.  You have alot on your plate.  Have you ever checked out flylady.com.  Check it out.  It may help.

New here and needing help

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10, b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia. We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.

I need help.

When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards. Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3 " . And not sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling. Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need something. And the idea of giving it all up scare

s me. I feel like a drug addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop. A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them. Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little something. Win/win, right? I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression. It is so much easier to just stay fat.

I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.

Thanks for reading all this.

Stacey

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[Guest guest]

I like the idea of small blocks.  It makes it much easier. I weighed  myself today and I weigh... 304 lbs. So that first 4 pounds is an easier target and give me a goal to get away from that 3 and never look back.

Fortunately though, my family as in my kids have no weight concerns. We already drink water all the time. we rarely buy juice or soda.  We eat salads almost every night. We don't keep junk food in the house. Snack food in our house is nuts, hard boiled eggs, yogurt, fruit. SO while I'm already on the right track, it would be easier if we had junk food to get rid of.  lol. I think part of it is that I love to bake. And I bake something every weekend for the family. I won't make them suffer, but I will have to eat less of it. maybe give some away instead of keeping it here, or not making as much.  Sigh.. I think I can I think I can...

StaceyOn Sun, Jan 2, 2011 at 9:45 PM, <ABrite@...> wrote:

 

Welcome to the group, we're glad to have you here!

I would start small, do not think of all of the things you need to give up, but rather what you and your family are gaining.  Pick one thing to change today/this week.  If it's only being sure you are getting in all of your water, then that's it, get in all of your water...

If it's going to be cutting down one snack, then leave out one snack...

Then build on it and soon you'll have a lot of changes you have made, will be healthier and won't feel so overwhelmed.

I have probably over 100 lbs to lose still too and that seems impossible, so I try to look at 5-10-20 lb block of it.

Hugs,

New here and needing help

 

Hi! I just joined the group. My name is Stacey. I have 5 kids g-12, b-10, b-8, b-6, and baby girl 5 months. We're American but we live in Saudi Arabia. We've been here 8 years but we go home every summer. I also homeschool my kids.

I need help.

When I was pregnant I kept telling myself I'd lose ther weight afterwards. Well here I am, 5 months later and nothing. I have been overweight for along time. I hate looking in the mirror. Seeing the double chin, the fat rolls. I have fat elbows even.They disgust me. Plus, i am very tall. I am 6'3 " . And not sure of my weight. Dare I even say it... A little over 300 pounds when I last checked a few months ago. A little over a year ago my dr said my blood pressure was too high. My cholesterol has been borderline. My blood sugar was getting up there as well. I am 35 years old, too young for all these problems. Plus my kids need me. Plus I want to look nice and feel nice. And I plan to live a long time to watch my kids and grandkids grow up. But I feel like I am spiraling. Many nights, I stay up late working on lesson plans. I walk through the kitchen looking for something to eat. I know it's crazy but I feel like I need something. And the idea of giving it all up s

cares me. I feel like a drug addict. I hate the way I am but I can't seem to stop.

A friend of mine wanted to start a little game of the biggest loser among a few friends. My first thought was that I don't want anyone to see my weight bc I weigh the most and have the mos to lose. I'm thinking 130 pounds. Then I thought, oh I'll have to give up my snacking. What will I do then? The thought of giving it up scared me. Like I am drowning and snacking is my lie boat. My life is hectic these days, I can't seem to get things running smoothly. y kids are getting behind. It seems like a perfect time to star this program with them. Plus she's set up a money bank so the biggest loser of each week gets a little something. Win/win, right?

I am scared. Scared of not being able to eat and then slipping into depression. It is so much easier to just stay fat.

I joined the list bc I know I need to do something. And I need help. I need to feel like I am not alone. My other friends don't have nearly as much weight to lose as I do. I needed someone who understands.

Thanks for reading all this.

Stacey

[Guest guest]

I was afraid to eat anything, really. And I kept telling myself, how will I do for 6 weeks? And then even after that. But I know that is not the attitude i need to take. SO, one day at a time? Ok... That's what it'll be.

A woman I know said, when asked how she was keeping her figure up after have kids and a busy life, said "I don't eat when I want to, and I workout when I don't want to." Wow. so simple but makes a lot of sense to me.

Just be careful with the 'fear' of eating... when I get to that place, I know I have gotten too obsessed with numbers and legalizing food, etc.

Good luck with the competition!

[Guest guest]

I like the idea of small blocks. It makes it much easier. I weighed myself today and I weigh... 304 lbs. So that first 4 pounds is an easier target and give me a goal to get away from that 3 and never look back.

I was 310 when I started this journey, so I can totally relate.

I've been sloppy the past two years. Ok, one year sloppy, one year injured LOL! so am

sitting right around 10% gone is all... on the downward trend again now so while I am

aiming for 5 lbs a month or 60 this year, I'm really looking to hit that 2nd 10%

[Guest guest]

Thanks for that .  Good to think about.   I actually think I won't be doing the competition. I don't want be tempted into drastic measures just to win the money. Plus, I am still nursing my baby and have to be aware of milk supply.

StaceyOn Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 3:05 AM, <ABrite@...> wrote:

 

I was afraid to eat anything, really. And I kept telling myself, how will I do for 6 weeks?  And then even after that.  But I know that is not the attitude i need to take.  SO, one day at a time?   Ok...  That's what it'll be.

A woman I know said, when asked how she was keeping her figure up after have kids and a busy life, said " I don't eat when I want to, and I workout when I don't want to. "  Wow. so simple but makes a lot of sense to me.

Just be careful with the 'fear' of eating... when I get to that place, I know I have gotten too obsessed with numbers and legalizing food, etc.

Good luck with the competition!

[Guest guest]

Thanks for posting this. It is nice to know that I am not the only one up here and there is hope.  5 lbs a month seems like a reasonable goal.  Good for you!  I might try for the same.Stacey

On Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 3:08 AM, <ABrite@...> wrote:

 

I like the idea of small blocks.  It makes it much easier. I weighed  myself today and I weigh... 304 lbs. So that first 4 pounds is an easier target and give me a goal to get away from that 3 and never look back.

I was 310 when I started this journey, so I can totally relate.

I've been sloppy the past two years.  Ok, one year sloppy, one year injured LOL! so am

sitting right around 10% gone is all... on the downward trend again now so while I am

aiming for 5 lbs a month or 60 this year, I'm really looking to hit that 2nd 10%

[Guest guest]

I am breathing a sigh of relief to your decision. Since I have never been competitive, I am never sure of the allure, but I know that when it comes to eating, competitions can cause more damage than one realizes. There is a huge difference in losing a small amount of weight for a competition and changing over time, all of ones eating habits towards a healthier body and mindset. Hard, Fast, and Overly Restrictive are just not healthy for those of us with a hundred or more pounds to lose.

I gained about 40 pounds while pregnant and lost it all just through nursing and eating real food, three meals a day. I didn’t worry about amounts, but I didn’t eat in-between meals and didn’t eat junk. Wish I was nursing now! lol.

From: Stacey

Sent: Tuesday, January 04, 2011 12:56 AM

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Subject: Re: New here and needing help

Thanks for that . Good to think about.

I actually think I won't be doing the competition. I don't want be tempted into drastic measures just to win the money. Plus, I am still nursing my baby and have to be aware of milk supply.

Stacey

On Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 3:05 AM, <ABrite@...> wrote:

I was afraid to eat anything, really. And I kept telling myself, how will I do for 6 weeks? And then even after that. But I know that is not the attitude i need to take. SO, one day at a time? Ok... That's what it'll be.

A woman I know said, when asked how she was keeping her figure up after have kids and a busy life, said "I don't eat when I want to, and I workout when I don't want to." Wow. so simple but makes a lot of sense to me.

Just be careful with the 'fear' of eating... when I get to that place, I know I have gotten too obsessed with numbers and legalizing food, etc.Good luck with the competition!