's motd Friday August 27, 2010

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FRED

Friday, 27 August 2010

I received

an E-mail the other day from a man named Fred.

He's been married to his wife, for

over 30 years and has loved her deeply for all of

these years. Fred told me that he and had

three beautiful daughters together. And with reach of

her pregnancies, would gain weight but not

lose any of the weight she'd gained after each

daughter was born.

When they first met, Fred and

used to take long walks or go bicycling

together. But all of the extra activity they used to

do as a couple pretty much stopped once their

daughters entered their lives. And as kept

gaining weight, Fred never said a word about it. In

fact, neither of them ever broached the

subject of 's ever-increasing weight. It was

a subject neither of them chose to talk about.

By the time reached 250 pounds, she was told

by her doctor that she'd become diabetic. 's

doctor assigned her a nutritionist who helped develop

a healthy food program to control her newly diagnosed

diabetes.

But here's the thing, even though

she now had a healthy food plan to follow,

continued to gain weight. See, she was not sticking

to the food program that had been created for her.

Whenever Fred took and their daughters out to

dinner, she'd usually order whatever pleased her. And

still, Fred said nothing.

When he wrote, Fred wanted to know how he could sit

down with his wife and finally have that

heart-to-heart talk they so desperately needed to have

on this very sensitive subject.

I really had to do a lot of thinking about his dilemma

before answering Fred. You see, both of them had been

in denial for years about her weight. Come on, when

he refused to address 's weight, Fred himself

was in a form of denial, right along with his wife.

I wondered what Fred could have said to years

ago when she first began gaining weight. And I wonder

if what he may have said to her really would've made a

difference. But that was the past and as we all know,

you can't go back and change it. But and

Fred could do something about her future.

When I spoke to Fred, I told him

that he would have to find a day away from

their daughters where he could sit and have that

heart-to-heart talk with the woman he'd spent most of

his life with. I told him to begin with these words:

", I love you so much. And that's why we

need to have a really honest talk about your

weight."

Sincerity opens that door of fear and let's you in.

See, I think had been fearful about

her weight for all of these years. She may have

feared that Fred would leave her or get angry about

her weight. But good-old Fred, he never did. Maybe

now is ready for a helping hand. The hand of

someone who loves her and who she loves so

much...her Fred. I'm sure I'll hear from

Fred soon on how is doing. I'm looking

forward to that.

In the meantime, are you in love

with someone who's not taking good care of

themselves? Are you worried about that loved one?

Well, it's time now for you to sit down with and tell

them how you feel. Yes, it's time for you to offer

your hand in helping to save the life of that person

you love and care for so much.

"___________, I love you more that you'll ever

know. We really need to talk."

Love,