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INSECURITY

Wednesday, 03 March 2010

Now I don't need to go to my Webster's Dictionary to get the definition for that word, insecurity. And, I'll bet, neither do you. But let me ask you, what is insecurity? Wait, I'll answer the question for you. Insecurity comes from not believing in yourself. And my next question for you is where do you think insecurity begins? Hey, we're not born with our insecurity. We learn it.

Maybe you didn't feel loved by your parents or your siblings. You may have had a relative who constantly put you down and always harped on the things they thought you did wrong. And worse, they never gave you accolades for the things you did right!Maybe you had a school teacher who was critical of or said something negative about you in front of the rest of the class. But whatever it was has remained stuck in your head for all of these years.Could your insecurity stem from something other kids said about you in school? Did someone you were dating say terrible things to you or about you after you broke up? Maybe you were surrounded by people who were themselves insecure.

I knew my parents loved me so I wasn't insecure about that at all. But I was insecure about my appearance. See, I was the only overweight person in my family. And I would look at myself in the mirror and not be very kind to my own reflection.When I walked down the street, I could just about feel people staring at me. And you know what else? The more insecure I got, the more I ate. See, when you don't believe in yourself, well, you tend to not care very much about yourself either. You sort of feel like God must have made some kind of "mistake" when he created you. (Now come on, how terrible for you to even think that!)

At one time, I was insecure about my future. I had no idea what I wanted to do in my life. I looked at other people and wanted to be like them. Oh I know, it's hard to get over your insecurities. That's because, for too many people, it's hard to believe in themselves. So where do you start being more secure? Well, you start by not being so judgmental of yourself. Oh sure, you can always find things to be insecure about. But why not focus on the things that you like about yourself? I'm talking about the things that make you feel confident. Then build on those positive qualities of yours.

Once you begin concentrating on the areas of your life you're most secure in, you'll start believing in yourself more. Remember, insecurities tear you down. Security builds you up.

You must also remember that, somewhere inside you, a younger person still lives. That's the child who'll always live inside you. And sometimes, that child may whisper to you and bring up some sadness form your past.

Hey, I have that child inside of me all the time. And even though I may listen to the whispers for a while, I always end by remembering who I am today. And I always believe in myself, working to make myself better...everyday!Now, beginning today, I want you start working on your insecurities. Do that and you will see a difference in your attitude about yourself. And when you feel good about yourself, you'll want to work harder taking better care of yourself, I promise.Come on now, it's time to beat those insecurities and...always remember how special you are!Love,