Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 My daughters underwear problem is still there...she tries from time to time to put them on but is just a happier person without any! I hate the idea but it gets her out of the house without all the fighting.... now we are into a new thing with the socks. she curls her toes up real tight and puts the sock on as tight as she can pull them and puts them in her shoes...I don't get it...I don't even know how she walks like that...but again if I try to interfere it only starts a fight. At this point I carefully chose my battles!!! Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 I am big on picking your battles. Sometimes you just have to let it go. pelicanstwo@... wrote: My daughters underwear problem is still there...she tries from time to time to put them on but is just a happier person without any! I hate the idea but it gets her out of the house without all the fighting.... now we are into a new thing with the socks. she curls her toes up real tight and puts the sock on as tight as she can pull them and puts them in her shoes...I don't get it...I don't even know how she walks like that...but again if I try to interfere it only starts a fight. At this point I carefully chose my battles!!! Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2006 Report Share Posted March 23, 2006 In a message dated 3/23/2006 8:26:38 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, siriuslives689@... writes: I am big on picking your battles. Sometimes you just have to let it go. Wiser words have never been spoken -- we all need to live by this mantra on this board. LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Wow, I never thought of this! What a wonderful idea! I may give it a try, it just might work with mine (3 and 5 yos) thanks Sharon Clothing Issues I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager to please and more open to your ideas. First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if it does, lower the time. Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and flip flops! I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try the therapy. There is hope! nna. NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 THANK YOU!!!! This is what I needed today - it's our biggie right now and I think your responses have helped me in the past and if they don't help anyone else - I'm ONBOARD!!!! I will start this today - I have tried everything from throwing out to setting out clothes for the school weekbut there's always something somewhere throwing it all off and causing stress - I must remove that from our house - it's not fair to her or any of us - thanks and I may bug you as I try this Eileen Quoting nna <mdonlon@...>: > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > to please and more open to your ideas. > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > it does, lower the time. > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > flip flops! > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > the therapy. There is hope! > > nna. > NY > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 THANK YOU!!!! This is what I needed today - it's our biggie right now and I think your responses have helped me in the past and if they don't help anyone else - I'm ONBOARD!!!! I will start this today - I have tried everything from throwing out to setting out clothes for the school weekbut there's always something somewhere throwing it all off and causing stress - I must remove that from our house - it's not fair to her or any of us - thanks and I may bug you as I try this Eileen Quoting nna <mdonlon@...>: > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > to please and more open to your ideas. > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > it does, lower the time. > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > flip flops! > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > the therapy. There is hope! > > nna. > NY > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Feel free to email me offline if you wish, Eileen, and GOOD LUCK, I know how stressful this can be. I was amazed how well it worked, had my doubts, but it did... > > THANK YOU!!!! This is what I needed today - it's our biggie right now > and I think your responses have helped me in the past and if they don't > help anyone else - I'm ONBOARD!!!! I will start this today - I have > tried everything from throwing out to setting out clothes for the > school weekbut there's always something somewhere throwing it all off > and causing stress - I must remove that from our house - it's not fair > to her or any of us - thanks and I may bug you as I try this > Eileen > > > > > Quoting nna <mdonlon@...>: > > > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > > to please and more open to your ideas. > > > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > > it does, lower the time. > > > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > > flip flops! > > > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > > the therapy. There is hope! > > > > nna. > > NY > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 Sharon, Look at it this way - you've got nothing to lose! And, so I don't take credit for this, 's therapist is Dr. Wagner, so all this came from her; hmmmm...I think she knows what she's doing. nna. > > Wow, I never thought of this! What a wonderful idea! I may give it a try, it just might work with mine (3 and 5 yos) > thanks > Sharon > Clothing Issues > > > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > to please and more open to your ideas. > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > it does, lower the time. > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > flip flops! > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > the therapy. There is hope! > > nna. > NY > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 20, 2006 Report Share Posted September 20, 2006 IT " S WORKING!!!!!!!!!!! First of all last night's battles etc were so horrible BUT... she comes home and has a note that she had her best day ever at school and then does awesome here and is sleeping now with a pair of socks on that bug her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so excited!!!!!! can you tell???? LOL!! therapy plus prayer comes thru again!! thanks nna!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'd kiss you if I could :-) Eileen I was losing it this time last night!!! wow! Quoting nna <mdonlon@...>: > Sharon, > > Look at it this way - you've got nothing to lose! And, so I don't > take credit for this, 's therapist is Dr. Wagner, so all this > came from her; hmmmm...I think she knows what she's doing. > > nna. > > > >> >> Wow, I never thought of this! What a wonderful idea! I may give it > a try, it just might work with mine (3 and 5 yos) >> thanks >> Sharon >> Clothing Issues >> >> >> I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. >> Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to >> offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! >> >> With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many >> of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at >> home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although >> they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have >> younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager >> to please and more open to your ideas. >> >> First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works >> for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! >> Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to >> say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, >> then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and >> cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with >> you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it >> out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child >> (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now >> that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me >> realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. >> >> I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by >> rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with >> the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then >> who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you >> think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: >> >> Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE >> worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to >> work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to >> them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, >> they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can >> even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them >> decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) >> 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate >> to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a >> sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go >> out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a >> time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if >> it does, lower the time. >> >> Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it >> (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and >> increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully >> or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how >> resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE >> determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it >> EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more >> than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have >> to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY >> manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on >> first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, >> in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same >> colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. >> >> For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so >> much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that >> she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done >> nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and >> flip flops! >> >> I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try >> the therapy. There is hope! >> >> nna. >> NY >> >> >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 No kisses necessary, but WOW, that is so wonderful, Eileen! It sounds like she was ready for a change and jumped at the opportunity - good for her! I had forgotten til I read your post that was sleeping with her " offensive " socks for awhile, too. Mainly it was her idea to help with the morning process, said it was easier than struggling with them when she woke up. Let's hope the forward progress continues! Remember to give her TONS of praise (I'm sure you do, but when sometimes when things are going smoothly I forget to tell how proud of her I am of how she's doing). I do need to say that setbacks are inevitable, try not to get discouraged and start at square one again if necessary. Remind her how proud and happy she felt when she was bossing back her OCD. Now you know what it feels like to see that light at the end of the tunnel - awesome, isn't it? nna. > >> > >> Wow, I never thought of this! What a wonderful idea! I may give it > > a try, it just might work with mine (3 and 5 yos) > >> thanks > >> Sharon > >> Clothing Issues > >> > >> > >> I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > >> Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > >> offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > >> > >> With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > >> of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > >> home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > >> they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > >> younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > >> to please and more open to your ideas. > >> > >> First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > >> for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > >> Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > >> say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > >> then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > >> cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > >> you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > >> out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > >> (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > >> that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > >> realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > >> > >> I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > >> rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > >> the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > >> who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > >> think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > >> > >> Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > >> worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > >> work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > >> them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > >> they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > >> even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > >> decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > >> 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > >> to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > >> sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > >> out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > >> time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > >> it does, lower the time. > >> > >> Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > >> (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > >> increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > >> or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > >> resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > >> determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > >> EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > >> than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > >> to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > >> manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > >> first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > >> in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > >> colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > >> > >> For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > >> much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > >> she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > >> nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > >> flip flops! > >> > >> I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > >> the therapy. There is hope! > >> > >> nna. > >> NY > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 LOL! Well, I tried it last night. My 3 yo says everything is " too tight " . She put on pants (ALWAYS wears dresses, because they are loose) because it is getting cool here. They are her size, but when she pulls them up, she says they are too tight (always says that to anything with a waistband). I told her to try wearing them for a little bit and see if they feel better, told her they will loosen up as she wears them. It worked! She kept them on for about 2 hours!!! Sharon Clothing Issues > > > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > to please and more open to your ideas. > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > it does, lower the time. > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > flip flops! > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > the therapy. There is hope! > > nna. > NY > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 WONDERFUL!!! Clothing Issues >> >> >> I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. >> Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to >> offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! >> >> With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many >> of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at >> home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although >> they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have >> younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager >> to please and more open to your ideas. >> >> First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works >> for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! >> Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to >> say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, >> then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and >> cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with >> you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it >> out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child >> (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now >> that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me >> realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. >> >> I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by >> rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with >> the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then >> who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you >> think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: >> >> Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE >> worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to >> work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to >> them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, >> they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can >> even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them >> decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) >> 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate >> to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a >> sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go >> out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a >> time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if >> it does, lower the time. >> >> Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it >> (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and >> increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully >> or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how >> resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE >> determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it >> EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more >> than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have >> to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY >> manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on >> first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, >> in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same >> colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. >> >> For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so >> much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that >> she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done >> nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and >> flip flops! >> >> I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try >> the therapy. There is hope! >> >> nna. >> NY >> >> >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 I'm feeling the positive vibes around this board - i love it - anytime I've done any ERP she jumps right on board (sometimes a battle the first) but realizes and loves that free feeling - she opted to keep them all night to really sock it to the OCD - no pun intended - I'm slap happy today LOL!!! Eileen Quoting kidsnpets <sdonovan1@...>: > LOL! > Well, I tried it last night. My 3 yo says everything is " too tight " . > She put on pants (ALWAYS wears dresses, because they are loose) > because it is getting cool here. They are her size, but when she > pulls them up, she says they are too tight (always says that to > anything with a waistband). I told her to try wearing them for a > little bit and see if they feel better, told her they will loosen up > as she wears them. It worked! She kept them on for about 2 hours!!! > Sharon > Clothing Issues > > > > > > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > > to please and more open to your ideas. > > > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > > it does, lower the time. > > > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > > flip flops! > > > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > > the therapy. There is hope! > > > > nna. > > NY > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 21, 2006 Report Share Posted September 21, 2006 That's great, Sharon, keep at it with her, at 3 they can be easily distracted and forget what the fuss was all about - I hope success continues... nna. > > > > Wow, I never thought of this! What a wonderful idea! I may give it > a try, it just might work with mine (3 and 5 yos) > > thanks > > Sharon > > Clothing Issues > > > > > > I've read so many posts about this, and decided to throw this out. > > Forgive me if this is a " yes, of course I've tried this " but I need to > > offer the suggestion since I truly feel your pain on this! > > > > With the ONLY solution came with CBT and ERP. Now I know many > > of you do not have a therapist skilled in this, but you can do it at > > home. I caution that it takes alot of work and patience, although > > they can surprise you and catch on quick. Especially those who have > > younger kids, it's so important to do this when they are still eager > > to please and more open to your ideas. > > > > First I will say that buying special clothes or clothing that works > > for them can make you broke very quickly - been there, done that! > > Nothing ever appeases the OCD monster for long. But I also need to > > say that if you can deal with it monetarily and mentally, for years, > > then that's fine. I often use the analogy of the baby that cries and > > cries at night unless you rock them to sleep or take them to bed with > > you. Some parents opt to do that, feeling that letting them " cry it > > out " or learning to sleep on their own is too tortuous for the child > > (and them!) Maybe because I did the program back then (knowing now > > that it is also CBT) of teaching how to go to sleep, it made me > > realize I could do the OCD treatment as well. > > > > I used to judge other moms who opted instead to enable the baby by > > rocking, etc. but now I take the approach that if YOU can deal with > > the interruption and (possibly) stress it causes in your life, then > > who am I to say what is the " right " way to do it. Similarly, if you > > think this is not worth it, feel free to ignore it: > > > > Here's what you do: pick an offensive item of clothing, but not THE > > worst one according to your child. Letting them decide what one to > > work on is your best bet, puts the control in their hands. Explain to > > them ahead of time that if they can wear it for " x " amount of time, > > they will earn a reward. If wearing it is too hard, see if they can > > even look at it or hold it for the length of time. You can let them > > decide the time, too (how long do you think you could hold/wear this?) > > 's dr. had her first look at a sock with seams, then graduate > > to wearing it on her hand. Maybe for holding it they can earn a > > sticker, then tell them, " now if you earn 5 stickers, you get to go > > out for ice cream " (you get the idea). Hopefully they started with a > > time limit short enough that it doesn't cause too much anxiety, but if > > it does, lower the time. > > > > Then gradually increase the time each day, or have them increase it > > (so how many seconds/minutes do you think you can do today?) and > > increase the rewards as well. Even attempting to do it, successfully > > or not, should earn a sticker/reward. Most kids, no matter how > > resistant at first, do well with this process. But it takes HUGE > > determination and practice, can't say that enough. You have to do it > > EVERY day and it can take weeks of this. 's dr. said that more > > than likely she will always have clothing issues, but they don't have > > to be as extreme as in the past. And right now they are VERY > > manageable, I have been able to buy things without her trying them on > > first and she wears them! It is a constant maintenance thing, though, > > in that we can never " rest on our laurels " and let her wear the same > > colthes over and over, else she will relapse into it. > > > > For me the therapy was/is more than worth the effort; it relieved so > > much stress from me in the mornings, and her as well, and I hope that > > she will have an easier time in the future than if we had done > > nothing. I had pictured her as an adult going to work in sweats and > > flip flops! > > > > I hope this helps at least one person and gives you initiative to try > > the therapy. There is hope! > > > > nna. > > NY > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 sports bra? --- slbernzott <slbernzott@...> wrote: > Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help > with my fourteen year > old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot > tolerate underwear > of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are > really beginning to > develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras > (Goodwill has lots of > donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally > get one on her, > she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the > straps and wears it > around her waist until she can get to schooll and > take it off. We have > been through sensory integration therapy, and have > also racticed > strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but > socially, at > school, it is affecting her. i am open to > alternative suggestions and > am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for > all the underwear. > I look forward to your suggestions. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Not sure if this would help or not. It not offer alot of support I know but what about one of those camisole tops that have the bra built in them, you find them alot in the summer,if worn undersomething else it might at least cover her up some.. If I think of something else I will write back A Gray <jgray1025@...> wrote: sports bra?--- slbernzott <slbernzottcomcast (DOT) net> wrote:> Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help> with my fourteen year > old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot> tolerate underwear > of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are> really beginning to > develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras> (Goodwill has lots of > donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally> get one on her, > she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the> straps and wears it > around her waist until she can get to schooll and> take it off. We have > been through sensory integration therapy, and have> also racticed > strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but> socially, at > school, it is affecting her. i am open to> alternative suggestions and > am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for> all the underwear. > I look forward to your suggestions.> > > > Mom to 15 (AS,ADHD,hearing loss) Cody 13 (ADD) We love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. unknown Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 I am this finding item even in dollar stores looks like a tank top but has support at the top for the breasts. Would be harder to push down to waist maybe? But if you try 1st put it on her and nothing else on top for a couple days. They look just like a tank top she may get use to the support. Then later cut off from the bottom 2 in. one day, another 2 inches. another day. Then try putting a blouse or etc. onto when you think she is ready. I bought 2 to use under cute tops. They are really comfortable. Re: clothing issues sports bra?--- slbernzott <slbernzottcomcast (DOT) net> wrote:> Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help> with my fourteen year > old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot> tolerate underwear > of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are> really beginning to > develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras> (Goodwill has lots of > donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally> get one on her, > she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the> straps and wears it > around her waist until she can get to schooll and> take it off. We have > been through sensory integration therapy, and have> also racticed > strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but> socially, at > school, it is affecting her. i am open to> alternative suggestions and > am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for> all the underwear. > I look forward to your suggestions.> > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Is it the straps or the around the back or the whole things that she can't tolerate? Have you tried strapless? Marilyn PylesJodi Isom <KJISOM@...> wrote: I am this finding item even in dollar stores looks like a tank top but has support at the top for the breasts. Would be harder to push down to waist maybe? But if you try 1st put it on her and nothing else on top for a couple days. They look just like a tank top she may get use to the support. Then later cut off from the bottom 2 in. one day, another 2 inches. another day. Then try putting a blouse or etc. onto when you think she is ready. I bought 2 to use under cute tops. They are really comfortable. Re: clothing issues sports bra?--- slbernzott <slbernzottcomcast (DOT) net> wrote:> Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help> with my fourteen year > old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot> tolerate underwear > of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are> really beginning to > develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras> (Goodwill has lots of > donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally> get one on her, > she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the> straps and wears it > around her waist until she can get to schooll and> take it off. We have > been through sensory integration therapy, and have> also racticed > strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but> socially, at > school, it is affecting her. i am open to> alternative suggestions and > am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for> all the underwear. > I look forward to your suggestions.> > > > Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 try getting a Hot Chillys camilsole with the support built in. There are two kinds and you want the kind WITH the support. also, you could try the SPANXX tank it is great support and no bra..... good luck, Brigettslbernzott <slbernzott@...> wrote: Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help with my fourteen year old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot tolerate underwear of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are really beginning to develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras (Goodwill has lots of donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally get one on her, she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the straps and wears it around her waist until she can get to schooll and take it off. We have been through sensory integration therapy, and have also racticed strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but socially, at school, it is affecting her. i am open to alternative suggestions and am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for all the underwear. I look forward to your suggestions. Don't get soaked. Take a quick peak at the forecast with the Search weather shortcut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2007 Report Share Posted July 4, 2007 Things like this make me thankful I have a son. I know how much I hate bras and I don't have sensory issues. Have you tried what is termed a "leisure" or "sleep" bra? They are very soft and stretchy and not nearly as confining as a regular bra. The only other thought I can think of is perhaps trying one of the tank tops with the built-in shelf bra so that it feels more like she is just wearing a shirt and not a bra. I know these first two examples are from the Woman Within website and your daughter probably isn't a plus size, but I'm sure you can find this type of thing from other websites, possibly Chadwicks, London--you can usually find online coupons for online orders for these vendors by googling chadwicks coupons, jessica london coupons, woman withing coupons, etc. Secrets also has a number of bra tops on their website. tank top http://www.womanwithin.com/clothing/All-American-Comfort-Stretch-Bra-Top.aspx?PfId=24066 & DeptId=9247 & ProductTypeId=1 & PurchaseType=0 leisure bra http://www.womanwithin.com/clothing/Front-hook-soft-cup-leisure-bra.aspx?PfId=86874 & DeptId=15441 & producttypeid=1 & pref=ps & PurchaseType=G Secrets http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/application/prodDisplay/?namespace=productDisplay & origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp & event=display & prnbr=ZU-215418 & page=2 & cgname=OSCLOBTPVIL & rfnbr=2220 Beasley Home Interiors & Gifts 770-603-0325 www.homeinteriors.com Home Interiors also offers fundraising with a 50% profit for the group holding the fundraiser. For more information, see fundraising on the website or contact me at (770) 603-0325 for a fundraising package. From: "slbernzott" <slbernzott@...>Reply-autism To: autism Subject: clothing issuesDate: Wed, 04 Jul 2007 13:12:35 -0000 Hi, my name is and I am desperate for help with my fourteen year old daughter with severe sensory issues. She cannot tolerate underwear of anykind. The problem is that her breasts are really beginning to develop, we have tried at least 50 different bras (Goodwill has lots of donations), and nothing has worked. When I finally get one on her, she gets on the bus, removes her arms from the straps and wears it around her waist until she can get to schooll and take it off. We have been through sensory integration therapy, and have also racticed strategies at home. He discomfort is very real, but socially, at school, it is affecting her. i am open to alternative suggestions and am very frustrated, not to mention, much poorer for all the underwear. I look forward to your suggestions. More photos, more messages, more storage—get 2GB with Windows Live Hotmail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2007 Report Share Posted July 5, 2007 , What about with using clear plastic straps on a regular bra? I'm talking about the kind of straps that are used so the straps don't show under a tank top. I got my clear straps (both regular bra and halter style) at Walmart and just cut the regular straps off a regular, non-underwire bra, and then hooked the clear straps on. The clear straps aren't supportive for more than a B cup, but they definitely feel different from cloth straps. They stick to the skin a little, but they (at least for me) don't pull on the skin like elastic ones. The clear straps are cheap, too. Just don't run them through the dryer or you'll be buying new ones... I *hate* the way underwire feels, so I can sympathize with your daughter somewhat. Good luck! - mom to Bobby, age 3.5, dx "mild" autism, seriously sensory-seeking, starting to talk, and knows his numbers 1-30 and all the ABCs! Be a PS3 game guru.Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2009 Report Share Posted September 6, 2009 First off, CELEBRATE! That is so great! Secondly, check the yellow pages for resale shops. Some support women's shelters and the clothes you donate can help a woman in need. You could also sell them at a resale shop on consignment and get a small portion of your investment back. Goodwill is always a good donation spot or the American Red Cross. Churches sometimes take clothing donations, check with some in your area. *~*~*~* "Reaching for something in the distanceSo close you can almost taste itRelease your inhibitionsFeel the rain on your skinNo one else can feel it for youOnly you can let it inNo one else, no one elseCan speak the words on your lipsDrench yourself in words unspokenLive your life with arms wide openToday is where your book begins" - Natasha Bedingfield "Unwritten"*~*~*~* From: LBCreations <lbcreations-designsbybabette@...>Subject: Clothing Issues"LBCreations" <lbcreations-designsbybabette@...>Date: Sunday, September 6, 2009, 5:44 PM Hey all, I was wondering what everyone is doing about clothes. I'm a bit of a clothes horse (okay, a big one!) but today I realized that most of my pants are literally falling off me. I've already given away tons of clothes to one friend ... but now I'm moving out of a size that is too small for her. So, I'm curious what others are doing about this? I don't want to keep them around ... but frankly, I buy pretty nice stuff and don't just want to trash them. I really wanted to give them to a woman's shelter ... but I can't find a number to make plan to drop off (I understand that they keep their locations private). I can always give them to Good Will, but I know they sell stuff ... I'd rather give to someone who just gives to who needs. Any recommendations? I live in Virginia Beach, VA. Thanks! Hugs, Babette Highest Weight: 410 Restart 7-25-09 260/248.4/160 If I BITE it, I WRITE it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2009 Report Share Posted September 6, 2009 If they're clothes for work and good for interviews, check out Dressed For Success. It's a charity that works with local agencies to give underpriveleged women looking for work a small capsule wardrobe they can wear to interviews and work. The goal is to help women feel confident by giving them the interview skills, support and encouragement they need to land and keep better jobs in order to pull themselves out of poverty. They're always in need of clothing in larger sizes. I don't know if there's one nearby but it's an idea JenOn Sun, Sep 6, 2009 at 6:44 PM, LBCreations <lbcreations-designsbybabette@...> wrote: Hey all,  I was wondering what everyone is doing about clothes. I'm a bit of a clothes horse (okay, a big one!) but today I realized that most of my pants are literally falling off me. I've already given away tons of clothes to one friend ... but now I'm moving out of a size that is too small for her. So, I'm curious what others are doing about this? I don't want to keep them around ... but frankly, I buy pretty nice stuff and don't just want to trash them. I really wanted to give them to a woman's shelter ... but I can't find a number to make plan to drop off (I understand that they keep their locations private). I can always give them to Good Will, but I know they sell stuff ... I'd rather give to someone who just gives to who needs. Any recommendations? I live in Virginia Beach, VA. Thanks!  Hugs, Babette Highest Weight: 410 Restart 7-25-09 260/248.4/160  If I BITE it, I WRITE it!  Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2009 Report Share Posted September 6, 2009 I want to thank all you ladies for your help! All your ideas were fabulous! I do think I want to donate the clothes ... and I love the idea of giving them to an organization that helps women get back on their feet! Hugs, Babette Highest Weight: 410 Restart 7-25-09 260/248.4/160 If I BITE it, I WRITE it! From: 100-plus [mailto:100-plus ] On Behalf Of Sapphyre Sent: Sunday, September 06, 2009 6:51 PM 100-plus Subject: Re: Clothing Issues First off, CELEBRATE! That is so great! Secondly, check the yellow pages for resale shops. Some support women's shelters and the clothes you donate can help a woman in need. You could also sell them at a resale shop on consignment and get a small portion of your investment back. Goodwill is always a good donation spot or the American Red Cross. Churches sometimes take clothing donations, check with some in your area. *~*~*~* " Reaching for something in the distance So close you can almost taste it Release your inhibitions Feel the rain on your skin No one else can feel it for you Only you can let it in No one else, no one else Can speak the words on your lips Drench yourself in words unspoken Live your life with arms wide open Today is where your book begins " - Natasha Bedingfield " Unwritten " *~*~*~* From: LBCreations <lbcreations-designsbybabette@...> Subject: Clothing Issues " LBCreations " <lbcreations-designsbybabette@...> Date: Sunday, September 6, 2009, 5:44 PM Hey all, I was wondering what everyone is doing about clothes. I'm a bit of a clothes horse (okay, a big one!) but today I realized that most of my pants are literally falling off me. I've already given away tons of clothes to one friend ... but now I'm moving out of a size that is too small for her. So, I'm curious what others are doing about this? I don't want to keep them around ... but frankly, I buy pretty nice stuff and don't just want to trash them. I really wanted to give them to a woman's shelter ... but I can't find a number to make plan to drop off (I understand that they keep their locations private). I can always give them to Good Will, but I know they sell stuff ... I'd rather give to someone who just gives to who needs. Any recommendations? I live in Virginia Beach, VA. Thanks! Hugs, Babette Highest Weight: 410 Restart 7-25-09 260/248.4/160 If I BITE it, I WRITE it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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