Guest guest Posted January 7, 2007 Report Share Posted January 7, 2007 Good morning. How was your week? Mine could of been so much better. First all get the weigh in out of the way. Down to 245.8. Not even a pound. I knew this would happen. I was unable to exercise daily. BUT did stretch. I have this ongoing shoulder/arm problem. Yesterday I was in so much pain cried. Hubby think it is a pinched nerve because it comes and goes. I thought I was having a heart attack. BUT it has been going on for 4 months. I go Saturday for a bp check so will disucss then. My daughter is going to put me in the nut house. Her attitude is just killing me. She is in her own world and nothing else matters. She sat on her butt all weekend. I have been on her case to clean her room. SHE doesn't want me to declutter it. Last night I blew a fit. She thinks it is OK to be lazy, unkept, and a slob. I struggle with her daily. She has no respect for others around her and this is not the child I raised. She looks at me like I wish she were dead eyes. The flipness is so out of control. I have to fight her on everything. I was so out of control this morning I made her get on the scale to proof to her sitting around all weekend didn't do anything for the scale. MAD MOM. I need to do some calming down while she is at school and look at it calmly. Maybe come out with a schedule. She used to like that. YUGH YUGH YUGH.... My 7 yr old is starting to mimic her. So need to be dealt with. So I need to have breakfast a refocus my day. I hate she got on the bus with us at odds. Gotta move that aside in my head. Goals for the week. 64 water exercise/stretch flying portions NH. 246.6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Dacia she is 12. I have a feeling she has raging hormones. BUT I wont tolerate disrespect. She treat her teachers and friends parents better than me. BUT I will say it is time for me to let go and let the chips fall. God help her when she gets her first B on her report card. I dont want to see the tears. My hubbby and I have been telling her the work is going to get harder. She is doing just enough. Well, when I am on her to get it done. It is time for me to have her take responsibility. NH. 246.6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 writes: My daughter is going to put me in the nut house. Her attitude is just killing me. My resposne: How old is your daughter? I've got two teenage sons -- one is 19 and a freshman in college; other is going to be 18 in three weeks and is a junior in high school. At times, both of them are in need of an attitude adjustment. Or, at least that is my opinion. There are times I will admit that it is my attitude that needs the adjustment! I have been told that raising girls is different than boys -- has to do with those hormones. One of the things conclusions that I have had to come to is that they are going to live their lives differently than I would. That it is their life to live -- not mine. They know our standards, they know our rules. As teenagers, I've had to let them figure out how to live within those standards and rules. At a certain point, I can no longer control their behavior. It is up to them to decide how they are going to live within our standards and rules. And they know there are consequences to the decisions they make. I've learned which battles are worth fighting. How they wear their hair, the clothes they wear to school, those are things they can decide for themselves. I do have times when I tell them they have to wear "church clothes" instead of "school clothes". As far as keeping the rooms clean -- I don't even bother. They are in a part of the house that I don't have to go to. They can keep their rooms the way they want to. They also have their own bathroom. Again, I don't go in that one -- so they can keep it as clean or dirty as they want. Their are a few times during the year that I tell them they have to have their rooms "company" clean; give them a time limit as to when they need to have it done by or they know that I am going to clean it my way. I have never had to go into their rooms to clean -- they do it themselves. Dacia <>< Deaf Lutheran Missions south Wisconsinwww.DeafJesus.org For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God — not by works, so that no one can boast. Ephesians 2:8-9 Monday Check In Good morning. How was your week? Mine could of been so much better. First all get the weigh in out of the way. Down to 245.8. Not even a pound. I knew this would happen. I was unable to exercise daily. BUT did stretch. I have this ongoing shoulder/arm problem. Yesterday I was in so much pain cried. Hubby think it is a pinched nerve because it comes and goes. I thought I was having a heart attack. BUT it has been going on for 4 months. I go Saturday for a bp check so will disucss then. My daughter is going to put me in the nut house. Her attitude is just killing me. She is in her own world and nothing else matters. She sat on her butt all weekend. I have been on her case to clean her room. SHE doesn't want me to declutter it. Last night I blew a fit. She thinks it is OK to be lazy, unkept, and a slob. I struggle with her daily. She has no respect for others around her and this is not the child I raised. She looks at me like I wish she were dead eyes. The flipness is so out of control. I have to fight her on everything. I was so out of control this morning I made her get on the scale to proof to her sitting around all weekend didn't do anything for the scale. MAD MOM. I need to do some calming down while she is at school and look at it calmly. Maybe come out with a schedule. She used to like that. YUGH YUGH YUGH.... My 7 yr old is starting to mimic her. So need to be dealt with. So I need to have breakfast a refocus my day. I hate she got on the bus with us at odds. Gotta move that aside in my head. Goals for the week. 64 water exercise/stretch flying portions NH. 246.6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 , "BUT I wont tolerate disrespect. She treat her teachers and friends parents better than me" I am going to give you my opinion on this. I will pray for how you handle it, but please don't be too discouraged about it. The reason I say this is kids go through an identity type crisis in junior high and it often lingers over to high school years... The reason I felt I needed to respond is because of what I went through with my mother. After college, I had started having babies and my mom made a few comments that showed me that she thought I thought everyone else was better than she was. I sometimes talked back to my parents, but never to a teacher or another adult. I don't know how deep you want me to get into what I went through and my thought processes, but one thing I call tell you is that you are doing an EXCELLENT job. If she treats other adults with respect when you are there or not there, that shows she has it instilled with in her. It also shows she is going through conflicting emotions of growing up. I will keep you all in my prayers. Shirley __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Yikes -- being a 12-year old girl can't be fun. The hormones are starting to kick in. She doesn't have any idea how to handle them. (To be honest, there are days I have problems handling life when those hormones kick in!) And, I would bet that there are times when both of you are having those "bad hormone" days at the same time. That can't be easy on either of you -- let alone on those around you. What does your husband do at those times? I hear you. I don't tolerate disrespect from my boys either. At the same time, they deserve my respect as well. Some days that is easier said then done -- on both sides! I can't do much to change their attitude; but I can change mine. You are going to have to decide what your "absolute" standards & rules are for your girls, let them know that there are consequences for their decesions & you have to be ready for them to test those rules, enforce the consequences & let them learn from their mistakes. And as a parent, that is some of the hardest things to do. You know your kids. You know their strengths and the weaknesses. Sometimes it is easy for us to continue nag about the weaknesses. I've found that if I start encouraging & praising them for their strengths -- then the weaknesses don't seem quite so bad. Start praising the things that she is doing right. Dacia <>< Deaf Lutheran Missions south Wisconsinwww.DeafJesus.org For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God — not by works, so that no one can boast. Ephesians 2:8-9 Re: Monday Check In Dacia she is 12. I have a feeling she has raging hormones. BUT I wont tolerate disrespect. She treat her teachers and friends parents better than me. BUT I will say it is time for me to let go and let the chips fall. God help her when she gets her first B on her report card. I dont want to see the tears. My hubbby and I have been telling her the work is going to get harder. She is doing just enough. Well, when I am on her to get it done. It is time for me to have her take responsibility. NH. 246.6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 I just had a similar conversation with my daughter. I still talk differently to outsiders than I do to my family members, but we looked at it as a compliment that I'm comfortable enough with them to say what's really on my mind instead of donning yet another mask to meet the world. My kids are the same way. They can give me a rough time, but the people of the outside world, teacher, friends, family etc. think that they're wonderful (which they are) and that's good enough for me. My son once said to me when he was a little boy "you treat (daughter's name) better than you treat me". I couldn't imagine that it was true, since I loved them both the same. I thought about it for a moment and this is what I said... "No, I treat you and your sister exactly the same, I treat her the same way that she treats me, and I treat you the same way that you treat me"... Judy After college, I had started having babies and my mom made a few comments that showed me that she thought I thought everyone else was better than she was. I sometimes talked back to my parents, but never to a teacher or another adult. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2007 Report Share Posted January 12, 2007 In a message dated 1/8/2007 5:05:58 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, Jase04567@... writes: Down to 245.8. Not even a pound. :'( Sorry - maybe next time will be better. The holidays "are" over now - LOL. Of course, that doesn't take away all of the day to day stress that you went on to explain. Hang in there. How old is she (dd)? 12? My alien son acted like that a lot for a good 2 years or so.... finally getting past that for the most part (he's 14 now) who will still take a .70 lb loss vs a gain any time!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2008 Report Share Posted March 18, 2008 Thanks for the encouragement . ABrite@... wrote: In a message dated 3/17/2008 7:21:02 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, geomadtraem writes: I have terrible cramps and I am all bloated up like a puffer fish, so I definitely have got to get the water in tomorrow. If I remember correctly your monthly visitor is here, so don't beat yourself up.... you had donuts too? Hugs and hang in there, but get back on track for tomorrow, you are doing great! in WA It's Tax Time! Get tips, forms and advice on AOL Money Finance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2008 Report Share Posted March 31, 2008 , sorry the year has not been good for you so far. That is really stinky that your dd is not feeling well. I hope she doesn't have female issues either. I know how that can be. Keep your chin up. Jase0157@... wrote: 2008 is sucking. Here I thought 2008 was going to be great. LOL DD #1 has not been sleeping well and has had stomach pains. BUT she also had her period in there. This has been going on for a week. Finally I decide Sunday to call the dr. Do to having no car it would be are only chance. Nurse said not an emergency. If it was just the period I wouldn't of called but there was so many other things going on with this kid. So she said bring her in Monday at 10 am. I said no can do. If I needed to I would take her to ER. She said she would call back to check on us. She never did. B**ch... I pray this kid doesn't have the female issues I have been dealing with. Friday was day 10 or my hormone crap. Now I sit and wait to see if I get my cycle. Sat I had my physical. My nurse prac. took pity on me and where I didn't have a car fit me in Sat. She was unhappy with my 7 lb gain since last year. I said your lucky I am not 600 lbs with the way my luck has been going. BUT as I explained to her I have to restart somewhere and trying to with my physical. Will let you know what the numbers are when I get them. Now to the weigh in. The dr office was 238 BUT today it is 245. Is it hormones? My scale? How much is my weight. So I am changing my battery in my scale and will weigh in again on WED... Goals today. READ EMAIL. Check in. DONE... Being the last day of the month. Doing a journal page and setting some small goals. Tomorrow being April 1 a great time to restart my LIFE... N.H. Create a Home Theater Like the Pros. Watch the video on AOL Home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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