Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 sounds like they freak out because they love him to death - so hopefully they'll be supportive - good luck! Quoting dragonfly97girl <dragonfly97girl@...>: > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first message. > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems to have > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a terrible > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some excellent > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a note > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the gifted and > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for his > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has a " name " > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if he's > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that some > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and that > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his own > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful in his > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of the > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the doctor > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and see if > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now 5:15 and > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left a bad > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much for > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. Does > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I dread > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown toenail > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Maybe you should wait on telling your parents. Perhaps just address certain and specific things with them. Gifted and OCD, yep! I have one of those kids too. " In order to move forward... you need to know where you are going. " (Lori Rilat) --------------------------------- Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 I remember when I told our parents what was going on with our ds with OCD. They have known for many years in a very vague way that he had quirks but a few months ago when it got really bad and was obviously affecting everything we were doing (or not doing) I knew I had to enlighten them a little more. I actually wrote an email & sent it each of our parents and our brothers & sisters explaining what we had been going thru with our ds. I attached a link from an OCD website that explained it very well. I told them our ds was embarassed to have this problem and didn't want to talk about it with them and I asked them not talk about it with the extended family. I was scared at first but it was so successful. Giving them the material to read let them really learn about it and let it sink in. They have been sooooo supportive ever since. They know there are times we aren't able to attend certain functions because of " triggers " and they offer support, prayers and hugs. I guess we are very lucky in this area. Good luck to you. gm dragonfly97girl <dragonfly97girl@...> wrote: Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first message. It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems to have been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a terrible week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some excellent grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a note for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the gifted and talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for his self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has a " name " and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if he's " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that some VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and that he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his own OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful in his job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of the smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist today and told them a little about what's been going on and the doctor was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and see if we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now 5:15 and I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left a bad taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much for everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. Does anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I dread telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown toenail (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 Gm, That is a great idea to do it all in writing. I had a counselor years ago teach me to communicate by writing, so you can be careful with the wording and include all that you want. Super idea also to add link with OCD sites. _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Glenda ez Sent: Saturday, September 02, 2006 9:08 AM Subject: Re: Thanks.... I remember when I told our parents what was going on with our ds with OCD. They have known for many years in a very vague way that he had quirks but a few months ago when it got really bad and was obviously affecting everything we were doing (or not doing) I knew I had to enlighten them a little more. I actually wrote an email & sent it each of our parents and our brothers & sisters explaining what we had been going thru with our ds. I attached a link from an OCD website that explained it very well. I told them our ds was embarassed to have this problem and didn't want to talk about it with them and I asked them not talk about it with the extended family. I was scared at first but it was so successful. Giving them the material to read let them really learn about it and let it sink in. They have been sooooo supportive ever since. They know there are times we aren't able to attend certain functions because of " triggers " and they offer support, p guess we are very lucky in this area. Good luck to you. gm dragonfly97girl <dragonfly97girl@ <mailto:dragonfly97girl%40> > wrote: Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first message. It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems to have been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a terrible week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some excellent grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a note for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the gifted and talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for his self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has a " name " and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if he's " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that some VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and that he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his own OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful in his job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of the smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist today and told them a little about what's been going on and the doctor was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and see if we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now 5:15 and I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left a bad taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much for everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. Does anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I dread telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown toenail (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 I wasn't sure about telling my in-laws either. They tend to be " fixers " and I didn't want them poo pooing this. But my son told them himself! We were at my in-laws for dinner and he just threw it into the conversation. (He's 9). They were a little surprised but they told him that everyone is different and has things that make them unique. Later they pulled me aside and asked me questions about OCD. I have sent them the more possitive OCD info so as not to freak them out and have kept them in the loop about how the fish oils are working for him, etc. They have been very surportive. I think this has really brought us all closer. - > > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first message. > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems to have > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a terrible > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some excellent > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a note > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the gifted and > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for his > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has a " name " > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if he's > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that some > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and that > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his own > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful in his > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of the > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the doctor > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and see if > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now 5:15 and > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left a bad > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much for > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. Does > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I dread > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown toenail > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 My son has OCD and is in the gifted and talented program too. > > Maybe you should wait on telling your parents. Perhaps just address certain and specific things with them. > > Gifted and OCD, yep! I have one of those kids too. > > > " In order to move forward... > you need to know where you are going. " (Lori Rilat) > > > --------------------------------- > Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 Fish oil?! Clue me in!!!!!! Well, as for telling the grandparents.....I just told my mom this afternoon on the phone. I didn't want to do it on the phone, but she kept bringing something up that happened last night and was making it into something it wasn't. I couldn't keep letting her think what she was thinking so I told her what's been going on. She took it well and was VERY understanding. I told her to tell my dad. I told her it's going to be fine and we're dealing with it together. Our son's been doing okay today, too. So far, two good days in a row. We're trying to keep him busy and keep his mind occupied. My husband says an idle mind is a trigger for him. He starts thinking too much. I've been trying to not let him just veg-out in front of the TV. We're going to take him to the movies later today to see Barnyard. He's been wanting to see it for weeks now. And then go eat at his favorite Italian restaurant. Maybe we're overindulging a bit, but hey, we're new to this. My husband told his parents what's been going on last night. He comes from a very religious family. (He grew up thinking that EVERYTHING remotely enjoyable was a sin and he was going to hell.) He said his mom alluded to the idea that our son has OCD because he has read Harry Potter books. She sent me an email today saying this is not OCD but the work of the devil. She said I never would have even thought about our son having OCD if my husband didn't have it. Well, of course not, because we wouldn't have known what the heck OCD even was if my husband hadn't endured it. I think my husband's OCD spiraled out of control so bad when he was a child because NO ONE in his family understood. They just thought he was a freak. Our situation is different. Our son knows he can talk to us about anything and we will not think he's nuts. My husband didn't have that support. He had to suppress all of his thoughts. Overall, I'm feeling better today. My husband and I had a long talk about things last because I could actually talk without crying. He told me OCD has ruled him for too long and he will not allow it to make us miserable as far as our son is concerned and it WILL be okay. He says we'll educate ourselves. We'll get him help. We've caught it early. Again, thanks to each of you for being there! > > > > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first > message. > > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems > to have > > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a > terrible > > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some > excellent > > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a > note > > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the > gifted and > > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for > his > > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has > a " name " > > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if > he's > > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that > some > > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and > that > > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his > own > > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful > in his > > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of > the > > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the > doctor > > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and > see if > > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now > 5:15 and > > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left > a bad > > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much > for > > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. > Does > > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I > dread > > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown > toenail > > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 Fish oil?! Clue me in!!!!!! Well, as for telling the grandparents.....I just told my mom this afternoon on the phone. I didn't want to do it on the phone, but she kept bringing something up that happened last night and was making it into something it wasn't. I couldn't keep letting her think what she was thinking so I told her what's been going on. She took it well and was VERY understanding. I told her to tell my dad. I told her it's going to be fine and we're dealing with it together. Our son's been doing okay today, too. So far, two good days in a row. We're trying to keep him busy and keep his mind occupied. My husband says an idle mind is a trigger for him. He starts thinking too much. I've been trying to not let him just veg-out in front of the TV. We're going to take him to the movies later today to see Barnyard. He's been wanting to see it for weeks now. And then go eat at his favorite Italian restaurant. Maybe we're overindulging a bit, but hey, we're new to this. My husband told his parents what's been going on last night. He comes from a very religious family. (He grew up thinking that EVERYTHING remotely enjoyable was a sin and he was going to hell.) He said his mom alluded to the idea that our son has OCD because he has read Harry Potter books. She sent me an email today saying this is not OCD but the work of the devil. She said I never would have even thought about our son having OCD if my husband didn't have it. Well, of course not, because we wouldn't have known what the heck OCD even was if my husband hadn't endured it. I think my husband's OCD spiraled out of control so bad when he was a child because NO ONE in his family understood. They just thought he was a freak. Our situation is different. Our son knows he can talk to us about anything and we will not think he's nuts. My husband didn't have that support. He had to suppress all of his thoughts. Overall, I'm feeling better today. My husband and I had a long talk about things last because I could actually talk without crying. He told me OCD has ruled him for too long and he will not allow it to make us miserable as far as our son is concerned and it WILL be okay. He says we'll educate ourselves. We'll get him help. We've caught it early. Again, thanks to each of you for being there! > > > > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first > message. > > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems > to have > > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a > terrible > > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some > excellent > > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a > note > > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the > gifted and > > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for > his > > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has > a " name " > > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if > he's > > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that > some > > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and > that > > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his > own > > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful > in his > > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of > the > > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the > doctor > > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and > see if > > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now > 5:15 and > > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left > a bad > > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much > for > > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. > Does > > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I > dread > > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown > toenail > > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 Wow, I think your husband is awesome!! What a great attitude he has. My husband and some of his family have OCD and they are in denial. Interesting you talked about the religious things in your husbands family. My husbands family would be the same way. I am a very strong Christian but they take it one step too far, legalistic, etc. When I read about the religious thoughts of OCD I have been trying to figure out how this is connected. I guess you can get stuck in religion too and take it too far? You guys are going to be fine because you are sticking together as a family with this. That is very important and the way to getting your son better. _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of dragonfly97girl Sent: Saturday, September 02, 2006 4:04 PM Subject: Re: Thanks.... Fish oil?! Clue me in!!!!!! Well, as for telling the grandparents.....I just told my mom this afternoon on the phone. I didn't want to do it on the phone, but she kept bringing something up that happened last night and was making it into something it wasn't. I couldn't keep letting her think what she was thinking so I told her what's been going on. She took it well and was VERY understanding. I told her to tell my dad. I told her it's going to be fine and we're dealing with it together. Our son's been doing okay today, too. So far, two good days in a row. We're trying to keep him busy and keep his mind occupied. My husband says an idle mind is a trigger for him. He starts thinking too much. I've been trying to not let him just veg-out in front of the TV. We're going to take him to the movies later today to see Barnyard. He's been wanting to see it for weeks now. And then go eat at his favorite Italian restaurant. Maybe we're overindulging a bit, but hey, we're new to this. My husband told his parents what's been going on last night. He comes from a very religious family. (He grew up thinking that EVERYTHING remotely enjoyable was a sin and he was going to hell.) He said his mom alluded to the idea that our son has OCD because he has read Harry Potter books. She sent me an email today saying this is not OCD but the work of the devil. She said I never would have even thought about our son having OCD if my husband didn't have it. Well, of course not, because we wouldn't have known what the heck OCD even was if my husband hadn't endured it. I think my husband's OCD spiraled out of control so bad when he was a child because NO ONE in his family understood. They just thought he was a freak. Our situation is different. Our son knows he can talk to us about anything and we will not think he's nuts. My husband didn't have that support. He had to suppress all of his thoughts. Overall, I'm feeling better today. My husband and I had a long talk about things last because I could actually talk without crying. He told me OCD has ruled him for too long and he will not allow it to make us miserable as far as our son is concerned and it WILL be okay. He says we'll educate ourselves. We'll get him help. We've caught it early. Again, thanks to each of you for being there! > > > > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first > message. > > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems > to have > > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a > terrible > > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some > excellent > > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a > note > > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the > gifted and > > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for > his > > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has > a " name " > > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if > he's > > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that > some > > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and > that > > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his > own > > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful > in his > > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of > the > > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the > doctor > > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and > see if > > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now > 5:15 and > > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left > a bad > > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much > for > > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. > Does > > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I > dread > > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown > toenail > > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2006 Report Share Posted September 3, 2006 Fish oil?! Clue me in!!!!!! My 9 yr old son with OCD takes 4 soft gels per day… Children's DHA (Soft Gels) http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0006GZB0M/sr=8- 2/qid=1156622553/ref=sr_1_2/002-7229743-9500022?ie=UTF8 He really likes these. They taste like strawberry fruit snacks. I (40 yr old mom with OCD) take Eskimo-3® Fish Oil http://enzy.com/products/display.asp?id=656 & cpmid=614 3 per meal. My 6 yr old daughter is taking Artic Cod Liver Oil. She doesn't have OCD but it's good for her. I tried it myself for a few day when I ran out of Eskimo-3® Fish Oil. I think it's even better for my OCD but I don't like the taste much. My son and I have both been having an easer time with OCD. I realize OCD waxes and wanes but both of us are doing well at the same time. I am very hopeful that this will continue to help us. I'll let you know if we relapse, and what we do about it. There are lots more natural things to try. Maybe we're overindulging a bit, but hey, we're new to this. Sounds like a nice family evening, nothing overindulgent about that. He said his mom alluded to the idea that our son has OCD because he has read Harry Potter books. So how is it that your husband has OCD? He didn't even have Harry Potter books! She sent me an email today saying this is not OCD but the work of the devil. The only thing I can say is to make sure she knows not to say this in front of your son. If she's so concerned she can do something more constructive like praying for him. I think my husband's OCD spiraled out of control so bad when he was a child because NO ONE in his family understood. They just thought he was a freak. I had the same situation. I was a wreck and nearly flunked out of 3rd grade because of my untreated OCD. Our son knows he can talk to us Mine too. I understood him from day one and he has been very open in talking about it. The therapist asked me if the fact that my son has OCD makes me feel guilty. I said that would be a waste. I am grateful that I can help him like no one helped me. Sounds like you and my hubby are a great team. Your son is very fortunate. > > > > > > Thank you so much to all of you who have replied to my first > > message. > > > It's a relief to know that we are not alone. So far, today seems > > to have > > > been a good day. He had a good day at school (I think -- he doesn't > > > volunteer much information sometimes). Even though he's had a > > terrible > > > week dealing with all this OCD junk he still brought home some > > excellent > > > grades on his schoolwork today and ironically, he brought home a > > note > > > for me to sign requesting our permission to test him for the > > gifted and > > > talented program at his school. That in and of itself was good for > > his > > > self-esteem, I think. Since he's learned that what he has has > > a " name " > > > and it has to do with his brain, he keeps asking his dad and me if > > he's > > > " right in the brain " or if this means he's crazy. I told him that > > some > > > VERY smart and highly intelligent people battle this disorder and > > that > > > he's in good company. His father for starters....he deals with his > > own > > > OCD demons every single day in some form and he's very successful > > in his > > > job as well as everything else he does, and is definitely one of > > the > > > smartest people I know. My husband called a children's psychologist > > > today and told them a little about what's been going on and the > > doctor > > > was supposed to call me back and talk to me about some things and > > see if > > > we need to make an appointment. He never called back. It's now > > 5:15 and > > > I'd suffice it to say he's long gone for the weekend. That's left > > a bad > > > taste in my mouth. We may have to look elsewhere. Thanks so much > > for > > > everyone's support. I hope we can have a good three-day weekend. > > Does > > > anybody have any advice on how to tell other family members? I > > dread > > > telling my parents so bad. They freak out when he has an ingrown > > toenail > > > (not an exaggeration). I just don't know if they will understand. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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