Guest guest Posted November 2, 2006 Report Share Posted November 2, 2006 To all: I've had to be remain somewhat quiet for almost a year now, due to the adoption (now final) of our darling son. Until the adoption was legal through the courts, our son was technically owned by the state. It is now legal. I've been watching the conversations while at the same time, going through my own experiences - and I hope you all don't mind if I share some. My son received Hep B at birth (I had no choice in the matter). We actually took him home from the hospital when he was 2 days old - he's now almost 9 months old. During this time frame, I didn't want to send up any red flags about not vaccinating, so fortunately, through Sheri, she helped us find a hollistic doctor who saw our son, and didn't question our decision to not vaccinate. That was a huge relief. I've seen some posts on here where parents aren't taking their kids to the doctors for fear of being reported. Please don't go to that extreme. Find yourself a doctor who may or may not agree with your decision, but, will allow you as the parent, to make the choice for your child. Hollistic doctors seem to be easier to find than homeopaths. (no offense Sheri). My family agrees with our decision to not vaccinate, but, my husband's family does not. I would say it was a battle, but really - it wasn't. Though a battle was tried through the " in-laws " , I just kindly reminded them, that we were the parents, and it was none of their business. They didn't have to agree with the decision, but, they did have to respect it. Period - end of discussion. I'm happy to say, there's been no other issues since. Obviously, since we adopted, I cannot breast feed. We went through his doctor though to find the best formula that we could that would give him what he needs. I've watched the discussions, and read enough to know that there was no way in hell I was chancing our babys' health to vaccinations. We will take our chances with the disease(s). I'm very happy to report that our son, almost 9 months old, is as healthy as a horse, and is smart as a whip, and is growing by leaps and bounds. Randi Proud Mama to little angel, " Sir Grant " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2006 Report Share Posted November 2, 2006 Congratulations, Randi! So glad to hear " Sir Grant " is as healthy as a horse...and so smart too! What a lucky little guy to have fallen in your lap. Anita Randi Airola <randiceaj@...> wrote: To all: I've had to be remain somewhat quiet for almost a year now, due to the adoption (now final) of our darling son. Until the adoption was legal through the courts, our son was technically owned by the state. It is now legal. I've been watching the conversations while at the same time, going through my own experiences - and I hope you all don't mind if I share some. My son received Hep B at birth (I had no choice in the matter). We actually took him home from the hospital when he was 2 days old - he's now almost 9 months old. During this time frame, I didn't want to send up any red flags about not vaccinating, so fortunately, through Sheri, she helped us find a hollistic doctor who saw our son, and didn't question our decision to not vaccinate. That was a huge relief. I've seen some posts on here where parents aren't taking their kids to the doctors for fear of being reported. Please don't go to that extreme. Find yourself a doctor who may or may not agree with your decision, but, will allow you as the parent, to make the choice for your child. Hollistic doctors seem to be easier to find than homeopaths. (no offense Sheri). My family agrees with our decision to not vaccinate, but, my husband's family does not. I would say it was a battle, but really - it wasn't. Though a battle was tried through the " in-laws " , I just kindly reminded them, that we were the parents, and it was none of their business. They didn't have to agree with the decision, but, they did have to respect it. Period - end of discussion. I'm happy to say, there's been no other issues since. Obviously, since we adopted, I cannot breast feed. We went through his doctor though to find the best formula that we could that would give him what he needs. I've watched the discussions, and read enough to know that there was no way in hell I was chancing our babys' health to vaccinations. We will take our chances with the disease(s). I'm very happy to report that our son, almost 9 months old, is as healthy as a horse, and is smart as a whip, and is growing by leaps and bounds. Randi Proud Mama to little angel, " Sir Grant " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2006 Report Share Posted November 2, 2006 YEAHHHHHHHHHH Randi! So happy that it is finally final! You can breathe now! So happy for you Yes, homeopaths - good ones - are hard to find. So do the next best thing ;-) Sheri > To all: > I've had to be remain somewhat quiet for almost a year now, due to the > adoption (now final) of our darling son. Until the adoption was legal > through the courts, our son was technically owned by the state. It is > now legal. > > I've been watching the conversations while at the same time, going > through my own experiences - and I hope you all don't mind if I share > some. > > My son received Hep B at birth (I had no choice in the matter). We > actually took him home from the hospital when he was 2 days old - he's > now almost 9 months old. During this time frame, I didn't want to send > up any red flags about not vaccinating, so fortunately, through Sheri, > she helped us find a hollistic doctor who saw our son, and didn't > question our decision to not vaccinate. That was a huge relief. I've > seen some posts on here where parents aren't taking their kids to the > doctors for fear of being reported. Please don't go to that extreme. > Find yourself a doctor who may or may not agree with your decision, but, > will allow you as the parent, to make the choice for your child. > Hollistic doctors seem to be easier to find than homeopaths. (no offense > Sheri). > > My family agrees with our decision to not vaccinate, but, my husband's > family does not. I would say it was a battle, but really - it wasn't. > Though a battle was tried through the " in-laws " , I just kindly reminded > them, that we were the parents, and it was none of their business. They > didn't have to agree with the decision, but, they did have to respect > it. Period - end of discussion. I'm happy to say, there's been no > other issues since. > > Obviously, since we adopted, I cannot breast feed. We went through his > doctor though to find the best formula that we could that would give him > what he needs. I've watched the discussions, and read enough to know > that there was no way in hell I was chancing our babys' health to > vaccinations. We will take our chances with the disease(s). > > I'm very happy to report that our son, almost 9 months old, is as > healthy as a horse, and is smart as a whip, and is growing by leaps and > bounds. > > Randi > Proud Mama to little angel, " Sir Grant " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2006 Report Share Posted November 2, 2006 He certainly is lucky! Randi, if you feel like sharing your story, I don't know that anyone here knows it. Sheri > Congratulations, Randi! So glad to hear " Sir Grant " is as healthy as a > horse...and so smart too! What a lucky little guy to have fallen in your > lap. > > Anita > > Randi Airola <randiceaj@...> wrote: > To all: > I've had to be remain somewhat quiet for almost a year now, due to the > adoption (now final) of our darling son. Until the adoption was legal > through the courts, our son was technically owned by the state. It is now > legal. > > I've been watching the conversations while at the same time, going through > my own experiences - and I hope you all don't mind if I share some. > > My son received Hep B at birth (I had no choice in the matter). We > actually took him home from the hospital when he was 2 days old - he's now > almost 9 months old. During this time frame, I didn't want to send up any > red flags about not vaccinating, so fortunately, through Sheri, she helped > us find a hollistic doctor who saw our son, and didn't question our > decision to not vaccinate. That was a huge relief. I've seen some posts on > here where parents aren't taking their kids to the doctors for fear of > being reported. Please don't go to that extreme. Find yourself a doctor > who may or may not agree with your decision, but, will allow you as the > parent, to make the choice for your child. Hollistic doctors seem to be > easier to find than homeopaths. (no offense Sheri). > > My family agrees with our decision to not vaccinate, but, my husband's > family does not. I would say it was a battle, but really - it wasn't. > Though a battle was tried through the " in-laws " , I just kindly reminded > them, that we were the parents, and it was none of their business. They > didn't have to agree with the decision, but, they did have to respect it. > Period - end of discussion. I'm happy to say, there's been no other issues > since. > > Obviously, since we adopted, I cannot breast feed. We went through his > doctor though to find the best formula that we could that would give him > what he needs. I've watched the discussions, and read enough to know that > there was no way in hell I was chancing our babys' health to vaccinations. > We will take our chances with the disease(s). > > I'm very happy to report that our son, almost 9 months old, is as healthy > as a horse, and is smart as a whip, and is growing by leaps and bounds. > > Randi > Proud Mama to little angel, " Sir Grant " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 2, 2006 Report Share Posted November 2, 2006 That's wonderful! Congratulations! Re: breastfeeding: it is possible to " relactate " to breastfeed an adopted child. I don't know much about it but a little research could yield you some answers if you wanted to look into that, probably La Leche League would have some info on their website about it. Best of wishes with your new little prince! :-) -Angie On Thursday, November 2, 2006, at 08:34 AM, Randi Airola wrote: > To all: > I've had to be remain somewhat quiet for almost a year now, due to the > adoption (now final) of our darling son. Until the adoption was legal > through the courts, our son was technically owned by the state. It is > now legal. > > I've been watching the conversations while at the same time, going > through my own experiences - and I hope you all don't mind if I share > some. > > My son received Hep B at birth (I had no choice in the matter). We > actually took him home from the hospital when he was 2 days old - he's > now almost 9 months old. During this time frame, I didn't want to send > up any red flags about not vaccinating, so fortunately, through Sheri, > she helped us find a hollistic doctor who saw our son, and didn't > question our decision to not vaccinate. That was a huge relief. I've > seen some posts on here where parents aren't taking their kids to the > doctors for fear of being reported. Please don't go to that extreme. > Find yourself a doctor who may or may not agree with your decision, > but, will allow you as the parent, to make the choice for your child. > Hollistic doctors seem to be easier to find than homeopaths. (no > offense Sheri). > > My family agrees with our decision to not vaccinate, but, my husband's > family does not. I would say it was a battle, but really - it wasn't. > Though a battle was tried through the " in-laws " , I just kindly > reminded them, that we were the parents, and it was none of their > business. They didn't have to agree with the decision, but, they did > have to respect it. Period - end of discussion. I'm happy to say, > there's been no other issues since. > > Obviously, since we adopted, I cannot breast feed. We went through his > doctor though to find the best formula that we could that would give > him what he needs. I've watched the discussions, and read enough to > know that there was no way in hell I was chancing our babys' health to > vaccinations. We will take our chances with the disease(s). > > I'm very happy to report that our son, almost 9 months old, is as > healthy as a horse, and is smart as a whip, and is growing by leaps > and bounds. > > Randi > Proud Mama to little angel, " Sir Grant " > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2006 Report Share Posted November 3, 2006 Hi Randi, congratulations on the successful adoption of your son. You sound so happy and delighted with him. And, well done for standing your ground with your in laws, you are a very strong woman. Your son will thank you for that. I had to be strong too with my in laws about these issues and others, that are different from the way that they did things. You are doing so much for his health by just being there for him. Did you know that you can still breastfed an adopted baby? It takes a lot of time, patience and perseverence to do it, but many adotive mums have done it. But this is just for interest, and not meant to make you feel bad. I know that everyone has to do the best they can and make the right choice for themselves. You seem to have done that and I wish you and your family all the best wished in the world and lots of lovely times with your son. Ingrid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2006 Report Share Posted November 3, 2006 Why - I'd love to share my story! Of course, it's much easier to do so now, now that the drama is all over... (although, I really wouldn't wish the process on my worst enemy!) First - Anita - I cannot have children - so " relactating " is not an option. I was diagnosed with endometriosis some ten years ago. Of course, by the time it was determined that's what it was, the damage to my reproductive organs had already taken place. I could probably write a novel on this whole ordeal - but, will skip to the really important stuff. My husband and I went through the IVF process - and after that failed, I decided there was no way I was going on that emotional roller coaster again - so we decided to adopt. We went through an agency, did the inspections, etc... About 4 months later (Feb. 4th, '06), I get a call from the agency stating they have a birth mother that picked my husband and I to be the parents of her yet to be baby (she didn't know if it was a boy or girl) - she was due at the end of Feb. We were very excited, then panic stricken to know that we had 3.5 weeks to prepare for a new arrival. We get a call 7 days later, saying " oops - water broke " . We rushed to the hospital. I was in the room with the birth mother and about 20 minutes later, our son was born. We've literally had him since he came out of the womb. Two days later, we were all released from the hospital. The next month, I was taking Grant from pediatrician to pediatrician in hopes that no one would have " full tabs " on him to know his immunization schedule. We thought we only had the two months process to wait (birth mother to change her mind) and then he'd officially be ours. The birth mother signed off on her rights, and we thought then everything was official. What a relief! NOT! Come to find out, our state had a six month observation period prior to releasing an infant to full parental custody to the adopting parents. That six month observation period began after the birth mother signed off her rights. Then I was terrified - as again, I didn't want red flags to go up, he wasn't ours yet. I contacted Sheri in a panic. Sheri found a hollistic doctor for us about 1 1/2 hours away from where we lived. I took him there. As it turned out, the doctor didn't file forms with the state and so there would be no flags to go up. Huge sigh of relief! I've been taking him to that doctor ever since. He's wonderful with Grant, and spends at least an hour with him every visit. The doctor believes in vaccinations, but, doesn't question our choice in not vaccinating, so, each visit is not met with pressure - only care for Grant. I'd drive 5 hours one way for this doctor - he's completely great! So that is my personal story of infertility and motherhood of the past 10 years in a nut shell. Sir Grant has become our void filler - and the love of our lives! Randi Proud mama to Sir Grant Re: Adoption of Baby Boy Posted by: " snakken@... " snakken@... vaccineinfo1234 Thu Nov 2, 2006 1:57 pm (PST) He certainly is lucky! Randi, if you feel like sharing your story, I don't know that anyone here knows it. Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2006 Report Share Posted November 3, 2006 What a beautiful story. I'm thrilled for your family! Sheri B. Randi Airola <randiceaj@...> wrote: Why - I'd love to share my story! Of course, it's much easier to do so now, now that the drama is all over... (although, I really wouldn't wish the process on my worst enemy!) First - Anita - I cannot have children - so " relactating " is not an option. I was diagnosed with endometriosis some ten years ago. Of course, by the time it was determined that's what it was, the damage to my reproductive organs had already taken place. I could probably write a novel on this whole ordeal - but, will skip to the really important stuff. My husband and I went through the IVF process - and after that failed, I decided there was no way I was going on that emotional roller coaster again - so we decided to adopt. We went through an agency, did the inspections, etc... About 4 months later (Feb. 4th, '06), I get a call from the agency stating they have a birth mother that picked my husband and I to be the parents of her yet to be baby (she didn't know if it was a boy or girl) - she was due at the end of Feb. We were very excited, then panic stricken to know that we had 3.5 weeks to prepare for a new arrival. We get a call 7 days later, saying " oops - water broke " . We rushed to the hospital. I was in the room with the birth mother and about 20 minutes later, our son was born. We've literally had him since he came out of the womb. Two days later, we were all released from the hospital. The next month, I was taking Grant from pediatrician to pediatrician in hopes that no one would have " full tabs " on him to know his immunization schedule. We thought we only had the two months process to wait (birth mother to change her mind) and then he'd officially be ours. The birth mother signed off on her rights, and we thought then everything was official. What a relief! NOT! Come to find out, our state had a six month observation period prior to releasing an infant to full parental custody to the adopting parents. That six month observation period began after the birth mother signed off her rights. Then I was terrified - as again, I didn't want red flags to go up, he wasn't ours yet. I contacted Sheri in a panic. Sheri found a hollistic doctor for us about 1 1/2 hours away from where we lived. I took him there. As it turned out, the doctor didn't file forms with the state and so there would be no flags to go up. Huge sigh of relief! I've been taking him to that doctor ever since. He's wonderful with Grant, and spends at least an hour with him every visit. The doctor believes in vaccinations, but, doesn't question our choice in not vaccinating, so, each visit is not met with pressure - only care for Grant. I'd drive 5 hours one way for this doctor - he's completely great! So that is my personal story of infertility and motherhood of the past 10 years in a nut shell. Sir Grant has become our void filler - and the love of our lives! Randi Proud mama to Sir Grant Re: Adoption of Baby Boy Posted by: " snakken@... " snakken@... vaccineinfo1234 Thu Nov 2, 2006 1:57 pm (PST) He certainly is lucky! Randi, if you feel like sharing your story, I don't know that anyone here knows it. Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2006 Report Share Posted November 3, 2006 Randi Airola <randiceaj@...> wrote: Why - I'd love to share my story! Of course, it's much easier to do so now, now that the drama is all over... (although, I really wouldn't wish the process on my worst enemy!) First - Anita - I cannot have children - so " relactating " is not an option. Hi Randi, That would be Angie and Ingrid who suggested that. I did think of it, but the one person in my life that I know did try it had a very difficult time and I figured you were most likely aware of the option anyway. I, too, have a pediatrician who is pro-vax, but doesn't let that interfere with our relationship and our mutual concern for the children's well being. She also spends a good deal of time with them when we visit most likely because she usually only sees them once a year for their annual check-up. ;~) Again ~ so thrilled for you and you're new love, Anita --------------------------------- Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 3, 2006 Report Share Posted November 3, 2006 Thanks so much for that! Inspirational. Also share with them a little of how you became aware of the dangers of vacccination, if you would (ie anthrax vax, etc) So vital. Sheri > Why - I'd love to share my story! Of course, it's much easier to do so > now, now that the drama is all over... (although, I really wouldn't wish > the process on my worst enemy!) First - Anita - I cannot have children - > so " relactating " is not an option. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 4, 2006 Report Share Posted November 4, 2006 > So that is my personal story of infertility and motherhood of the past 10 years in a nut shell. Sir Grant has become our void filler - and the love of our lives! > > Randi > Proud mama to Sir Grant > Sounds great, Randi. You are a great mother for Grant. You can tell by the way you write that you love him to bits. You deserve the happinness after all you have been through. Forgive me for giving one last snippet of info about breastfeeding an adopted baby, I am passionate about it, being a bf counsellor. You don't have to have ever been pregnant to lactate, mothers who have never been pregnant in their life have lactated for an adopted baby. It is possible, but requires much work and perseverence. But it sounds like your little Grant is doing fine and with you as his mummy, will be growing up into a happy little boy! Take care and lots of love, Ingrid > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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