Re: Sometimes this is scary

[Guest guest]

Oh God do I understand what you are going through and you are not alone.

Please know that a lot of us feel your fear and are here for you. I am. If you

want to talk please write to me. I hate feeling scared about being a mom and

trying to do the right thing. love Janet

[Guest guest]

I've gotten scared too. You aren't the only one. It's never easy when you are

in a crisis. I think the trick is to be prepared before the crisis occurs.

Have remedies, vitamins, and herbs on hand, keep your child as healthy as

possible, have good doctors and homeopaths that understand how to treat

non-vaccinated children, have a support group of people (this list is great),

have a few good books or web pages handy (Sheri's have helped me numerous

times).

L.

Sometimes this is scary

Parenthood. Mothering. Raising small children, and making

executive decisions. Sometimes the hardest decision I face is

whether to go to work to do what pays the bills and keeps food on

the table, or stay home and take care of my children while my

husband works...since, no one, after all, can take care of them the

way I can.

Such is the dilemma I faced this past weekend. My 6-month old baby

girl (the youngest of three children, the oldest of whom is four, my

middle baby is two) came down with a " viral infection " or a cold or

was teething. The first child this happened to. The pediatrician

didn't know and didn't seem all that concerned while I was a

frantic, neurotic mother.

I can't afford to be a frantic, neurotic mother.

Everyone's first quip when I get nervous is " Well, why don't you

just vaccinate them? " As if that's the magic pill.

She's better now, although she's been coughing today and sounding

congested, I think due in large part to laying her on the floor to

play. Unfortunately, our overpriced apartment does tend to get

drafty, no matter how high we keep the heat.

I'll admit, sometimes I want to cry, I feel so alone. I want

someone to say " My children get sick, and they get over it without a

million antibiotics or shots or yadda yadda yadda. " Sometimes I

want to feel that as hard as I work, SOMEWAY, SOMEHOW, SOMEWHERE, my

eneavors don't go unnoticed.

Sometimes I'm scared, and I want to know that other mother's get

scared too.

Maati

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[Guest guest]

Please don't be so scared. Yes, I was a bit scared from time to time with

my son when he was a baby. But that fear paled in comparison to the fear I

had each time my daughter was vaccinated (before I even knew better!) I

just made sure that I fed them well, did not use over the counter fever

reducers, called my homeopath, and kept them home and quiet when they

weren't feeling well. My kids always bounce back after 24 to 36 hours, and

lately, most illnesses only seem to last 12. Its OK for them to get sick,

it exercises their immume system, and as long as you keep them quiet and

don't fill them with drugs which allows their immune system to work, they

will only benefit in the long run.

{{hugs}} I know its scary.

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> Parenthood. Mothering. Raising small children, and making

> executive decisions. Sometimes the hardest decision I face is

> whether to go to work to do what pays the bills and keeps food on

> the table, or stay home and take care of my children while my

> husband works...since, no one, after all, can take care of them the

> way I can.

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[Guest guest]

Definately we all go through it. Shots will not alleviate the fear you sometimes

experience when your children are ill.Imo it will increase the tension because

you will always wonder if the shot caused any physical/behavioral problems that

might crop up. Get a decent remedy book like the Janet Zand one-Smart Medicine

for a Healthier child.Some pages are online at http://www.healthy.net

Always have on hand some basics like sodium ascorbate powder and tablets(hylands

for the baby),echinacea tintures,some eyebright and goldenseal teas for eye

infections. There might be a time when you will give antibiotics and if so make

sure you have some yogurts and kefir for the probiotics.

Try finding a local momma group that is an ap/crunchy type.Even some of the

mainstream groups might have a few non-vaxing herbal/homeopathic mommas that you

can call for support or even to drop off a remedy/herb when you can't leave the

house!

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[Guest guest]

I cried alot when my son was a baby and felt lonely and stayed at home. Yes

my son has been sick and with a fever AND got over it without antibiotics.

Yes no one can take care of your children the way you can. Yes I know how

it feels to be in a culture where motherhood is not valued or noticed or

recognized but mothering is very important nonetheless whether it is

recognized by our modern culture or not.

I started a moms group at my church to be with other moms so that we could

support and recognize each other. We are now beginning our 4th year

together. Maybe you could do the same or join an already established moms

group.

Sending positive happy thoughts your way.

Sometimes this is scary

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> Parenthood. Mothering. Raising small children, and making

> executive decisions. Sometimes the hardest decision I face is

> whether to go to work to do what pays the bills and keeps food on

> the table, or stay home and take care of my children while my

> husband works...since, no one, after all, can take care of them the

> way I can.

>

> Such is the dilemma I faced this past weekend. My 6-month old baby

> girl (the youngest of three children, the oldest of whom is four, my

> middle baby is two) came down with a " viral infection " or a cold or

> was teething. The first child this happened to. The pediatrician

> didn't know and didn't seem all that concerned while I was a

> frantic, neurotic mother.

>

> I can't afford to be a frantic, neurotic mother.

>

> Everyone's first quip when I get nervous is " Well, why don't you

> just vaccinate them? " As if that's the magic pill.

>

> She's better now, although she's been coughing today and sounding

> congested, I think due in large part to laying her on the floor to

> play. Unfortunately, our overpriced apartment does tend to get

> drafty, no matter how high we keep the heat.

>

> I'll admit, sometimes I want to cry, I feel so alone. I want

> someone to say " My children get sick, and they get over it without a

> million antibiotics or shots or yadda yadda yadda. " Sometimes I

> want to feel that as hard as I work, SOMEWAY, SOMEHOW, SOMEWHERE, my

> eneavors don't go unnoticed.

>

> Sometimes I'm scared, and I want to know that other mother's get

> scared too.

>

> Maati

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[Guest guest]

Good idea Sandy! I too felt this way and got great " relief " by

being around other moms! I belong to a MOPS (Mother's of

preschoolers). They are worldwide - check at www.mops.org to see if

one is in your area. They were so valuable during my post-partum

blues days!!!!

> I cried alot when my son was a baby and felt lonely and stayed at

home. Yes

> my son has been sick and with a fever AND got over it without

antibiotics.

> Yes no one can take care of your children the way you can. Yes I

know how

> it feels to be in a culture where motherhood is not valued or

noticed or

> recognized but mothering is very important nonetheless whether it

is

> recognized by our modern culture or not.

>

> I started a moms group at my church to be with other moms so that

we could

> support and recognize each other. We are now beginning our 4th

year

> together. Maybe you could do the same or join an already

established moms

> group.

[Guest guest]

I completely understand how you feel. In time, and the more you

research, you will gradually relax and realize you have made the

best decisions. The best advice is BE PREPARED! Have a homeopath you

trust who knows you and your children. Keep an alternative first aid

kit ready. Be confident in your decisions so you don't panic at the

first onset of any real illness and cave to the medical

establishment. I have found an incredible support group and finally

feel at home. They are very supportive and the advice is tried and

true. Check out our website to see if we have a chapter near you

www.holisticmoms.org. New chapters are springing up nationally all

the time! Each chapter meets monthly for support and information

hosting guest speakers on topics like homeopathy, vaccines,

nutrition, herbs, spirituality and even feng shui! And then, of

course, there is a group for members for up to the minute

support, which you can join even if there isn't a physical chapter

near you. Or you can start your own chapter to bring together other

holistic parents. Findly support as a non-vaccinating parent is near

impossible without a connection. You're not likely to meet them at

the next PTA meeting! Best of luck and you are always welcome to

contact me if you need to talk!

In peace,

>

> Parenthood. Mothering. Raising small children, and making

> executive decisions. Sometimes the hardest decision I face is

> whether to go to work to do what pays the bills and keeps food on

> the table, or stay home and take care of my children while my

> husband works...since, no one, after all, can take care of them

the

> way I can.

>

> Sometimes I'm scared, and I want to know that other mother's get

> scared too.

>

> Maati

[Guest guest]

It's a tough, unsupported job, but your kids need you to do the

right thing for them - even if noone else can understand.

Worry is programmed into us to protect our young, nothing wrong with

that. You know vax won't help so you're staying logical.

I get fed up, local resources not great here, thats why the net is

so great.

My child and us get sick, and they get over it without a million

antibiotics or shots - we also get sick less because of no shots!

Life is scary, grown ups know that, it's human.

hth

A

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[Guest guest]

First, I want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH to the wonderful parents who

responded to my post. I don't get online too much these days, but

all of your posts made me feel in the company of people who

understand. I work hard in everything that I do, with and for my

children. I like control over what happens to them, and illness is

just one thing that catches me unaware everytime.

My daughter got over her little " cold " . Without alot of fanfare, I

guess it was one of those things babies get. The thing is, my

babies don't tend to get " those things " . Most people are astounded

to hear that I can count on one hand the number of times my children

have been sick in the 4 years I've been blessed to be a mother. My

husband and I are proponents of holistic living and healing. We've

had to make some changes because let's face it, Vegan/Organic/100%

natural living is VERY EXPENSIVE!!! We do our best, and let God do

the rest!

On another note, my baby came down with some weird rash as well. I

saw the posts about the rash and the little red dots. This scared

the h*ll out of me. I took her to the pediatrician, and she thought

it was scarlet fever. But my baby didn't have a fever, and was

acting very normal except she had this rash. Could it be allergic?

Sure, my husband used a different laundry detergent and soap on

her. Could it be eczema? I don't think so. The dr. wants to send

us to a dermatologist, gave us some benadryl, and told us to keep

her moisturized. I'm not satisfied with this, I gave her ONE dose

of the benadryl and didn't notice much change in the rash.

Also, does anybody know anything about this new " requirement " the

hospitals have of giving post-partum women the MMR shot? My

brother's girlfriend had one, and nobody really understood why whe

was getting the shot. What about " shedding? " My parents and sister

have been around her and the baby, and my children are

unvaccinated. Do I need to worry about them exposing my children to

some residual vaccination stuff?

Maati

> Oh God do I understand what you are going through and you are not

alone.

> Please know that a lot of us feel your fear and are here for you.

I am. If you

> want to talk please write to me. I hate feeling scared about being

a mom and

> trying to do the right thing. love Janet

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Make sure you take photos of the rash,so you can have a record while you try to

figure out the problem.How did the doctor come about scarlet fever of all

things?

The MMR is a live virus vaccine so the person does shed the virus.I would not

avoid contact,but it is good just to be aware.Poor mum.So many of them get the

MMR postpartum.Some even get it after each pregnancy! Her titer levels must have

been low for one of the three diseases,and instead of giving a monvalent they

just shot her with the MMR.Do advise her that arthritis can develop in moms

after this shot,and that she should keep a record of her health.I have also read

of higher rates of autism in children whose mom got the MMR postpartum.

Hope youre little one is all better now!

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