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[Guest guest]

,

There is something I learned while listening to Dr. on the

radio that I would like to pass along to you.

First let me say that listening to her show over months and years

has helped me to have better boundaries and a better sense of right

and wrong.

How you handle this now will have greater impact on your child than

the beating itself did. She needs to know that you place her safety

first. That it's more important than whether someone else is

offended or embarrassed (which is the worst outcome of directly

addressing MIL).

This past week you could claim as a cooling off period, although a

swift response would have been best. It's important that after you

deal with the issue, you have a conversation with your

daughter. " Honey, what grandma did to you was very wrong. She made

a big mistake hurting you like she did. I think maybe she is used

to the olden days when people used to beat their children for

discipline. I was so angry, I was afraid I would lose my temper, so

I waited until now to talk to grandma. You will still have to go to

grandma's house for daycare (for now), but she understands she can't

use old fashioned ways that hurt little kids. Daddy and I love you

very much and we want you to be safe. No one has a right to put

bruises on your body. "

Use your own words of course. The important thing is that she know

her parents protect her.

KimB