Ann-friends

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Ann,

My husband moved me an hour and a half from the friends I grew up with

10 years ago. I have a best friend still in my old neighborhood that I talk

to on the phone a few times a week. I am happy with that and the two sane

women in my town that I talk to periodically. One I get together with a

couple times a month on the weekends. Since moving where I live I made

friends with two other women who were total leaches. Both had two children

that they constantly tried to pass off on me. One had two boys who were

older than my son both with mental illnesses. Now I worked in a school

setting with children with special needs but no child I have ever met drove

me nuts like her one child. This mother would drop her kids off with me at

least twice a week to go to a funeral wake and burial. She loved the gossip

at funerals, even if she only met the person once she would go which I never

could figure out. I think she was just looking for ways to get away from

her kids. The other lady had two children younger than my son (one a

toddler in my non child proofed house) and her children could do no wrong.

She constantly compared my son to hers, in front of them, and it just drove

me batty and did nothing for my son's self esteem since her son was better

because he was taller, smarter, faster etc. She found every activity she

could to get away from her children and pass them off on me. Both these

women just figured I had nothing better to do with my time I guess. Trying

to nicely get them to back off and leave me alone was close to impossible.

I ended up having to get rude. I guess what I am getting at is sometimes it

is better not to be bothered by the wrong people so in some ways you are

blessed. The ones you see less of seem to be the good ones.